Need advice: Bridesmaid Dilemma

Original post by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Jul 20, 2009 01:03 PM

My bachelorette party was this past weekend... for the most part, i had a great time, but we had some bm issues...

Theres a girl who I was on the fence about making her a bm... confronted her... she convinced me that she could be there for me... shes hardly around, never can get in touch etc etc

So shes on the trip and meets a guy and totally disappears like for most of the weekend... Another bm had to confront her about her behavior... and she was all coked up the entire weekend and lyed to me about it.... I know only the truth bc an empty bag of it was found in her drawer by another bm...

Everyone couldnt stand her... she partly ruined my weekend (same girl that ruined my shower by doing stupid sh*t)

Honestly, want to kick her out of the wedding completely... but with 12 days to go, can i? I want her out of my life...

MarjorieFrank Posted: Jul 20, 2009 03:51 PM

Re: Need advice: Bridesmaid Dilemma

So sorry you have to deal with this.

Kick her out.
If she ruined your b-party and shower, she will ruin your wedding.

If you want her out of your life I wouldn't wait until AFTER the most important day of your life.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Jul 20, 2009 04:03 PM

Re: Need advice: Bridesmaid Dilemma

All of you girls are completely right... She isnt the friend that she used to be... I honestly can say, i'd be much happier without her there... The bridge has already been burned 100x over...

BTW, same girl who shoved my lingerie in my FFIL's face at the shower and showed up late.... and same girl who was getting abused by her bf... the ex now who she talked on the phone with the whole weekend.... she's really a lost cause at this point and needs some professional help... bc no one else is getting through to her

coldasice217 Posted: Jul 20, 2009 06:54 PM

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Sorry this is happening.

What I would do? Honestly and really?

Call the cops with an 'anonymous tip.' Not even joking for once in the least. Kills two birds with one stone I think.

Summertimegal424 Posted: Jul 20, 2009 08:18 PM

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u can do whatever u want. i didn't have my initial maid of honor , i kicked her out of the wedding about 3 weeks before the wedding, and if i hadn't done it then i would of done it the day before as well.

and i was down another BM the day b4 the wedding (she was very sick)