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You are certainly marrying into a crazy family. hopefully everything will work out to where people can at least be civil to each other.
Posted by antoinette72
Okay anyone who has read any of my topics knows that I have a problem with myFMIL stirring trouble. Well today I was told that my FH cousin who is getting married in January deceided that they needed to cut back on their invite list sooooooooo
They deceided that if your not married into the family your not invited. So even though I live with my FH and we have kids together because we are not married I am not invited now. I am not the only one they are doing this too either. My FH other cousin is in the same situation as us except they aren't planning on getting married(no big deal) and his girlfriend isn't invited either. But of course FMIL had to let me know and even though I tried not to discuss it she kept it up. This on the heels of my FH brother getting married in May and his wife trying to keep me and our children out of the family pictures because Im not according to her sooooo she'll be elated to know she's invited to this wedding and Im not! Sorry I really needed to vent. Feelings are really hurt!![]()
Posted by tray831
Posted by antoinette72
Okay anyone who has read any of my topics knows that I have a problem with myFMIL stirring trouble. Well today I was told that my FH cousin who is getting married in January deceided that they needed to cut back on their invite list sooooooooo
They deceided that if your not married into the family your not invited. So even though I live with my FH and we have kids together because we are not married I am not invited now. I am not the only one they are doing this too either. My FH other cousin is in the same situation as us except they aren't planning on getting married(no big deal) and his girlfriend isn't invited either. But of course FMIL had to let me know and even though I tried not to discuss it she kept it up. This on the heels of my FH brother getting married in May and his wife trying to keep me and our children out of the family pictures because Im not according to her sooooo she'll be elated to know she's invited to this wedding and Im not! Sorry I really needed to vent. Feelings are really hurt!![]()
Im a little confused on one part....if your FH cousin is getting married in January which is in 3 months, then how is your future sister in law invited to this wedding when she technically wont be married until May---she would have another 4 months to go to be part of the family, so shouldnt she not be invited either?????
No Im sorry you must have misunderstood. They were married in May of this year.
Posted by tray831
Posted by antoinette72
Okay anyone who has read any of my topics knows that I have a problem with myFMIL stirring trouble. Well today I was told that my FH cousin who is getting married in January deceided that they needed to cut back on their invite list sooooooooo
They deceided that if your not married into the family your not invited. So even though I live with my FH and we have kids together because we are not married I am not invited now. I am not the only one they are doing this too either. My FH other cousin is in the same situation as us except they aren't planning on getting married(no big deal) and his girlfriend isn't invited either. But of course FMIL had to let me know and even though I tried not to discuss it she kept it up. This on the heels of my FH brother getting married in May and his wife trying to keep me and our children out of the family pictures because Im not according to her sooooo she'll be elated to know she's invited to this wedding and Im not! Sorry I really needed to vent. Feelings are really hurt!![]()
Im a little confused on one part....if your FH cousin is getting married in January which is in 3 months, then how is your future sister in law invited to this wedding when she technically wont be married until May---she would have another 4 months to go to be part of the family, so shouldnt she not be invited either?????
Your 100% right, there has been many fights between us because most of the time FH turns a deaf ear to their stupidity or tells them off but these are not my parents so I feel uncomfortable but I have sat down a few times and told them off or flipped out within ear shot of them but we're here because we have 4 kids the youngest is 10months old(only 2 are FH, the babies)so Im back in college and not working because it's too much for FMIL to watch the kids for me even though she reminds me constantly how she watched FH daughter for the ex so she could go to work. And Im sure all you girls know living on long island or anywhere for that matter is too expensive with just one income, so we're stuck. We have an apartment in the basement but believe me it's caused a strain and we even tried to move once but financially it became to overwhelming.
Posted by nov04LIbride
Posted by tray831
Posted by antoinette72
Okay anyone who has read any of my topics knows that I have a problem with myFMIL stirring trouble. Well today I was told that my FH cousin who is getting married in January deceided that they needed to cut back on their invite list sooooooooo
They deceided that if your not married into the family your not invited. So even though I live with my FH and we have kids together because we are not married I am not invited now. I am not the only one they are doing this too either. My FH other cousin is in the same situation as us except they aren't planning on getting married(no big deal) and his girlfriend isn't invited either. But of course FMIL had to let me know and even though I tried not to discuss it she kept it up. This on the heels of my FH brother getting married in May and his wife trying to keep me and our children out of the family pictures because Im not according to her sooooo she'll be elated to know she's invited to this wedding and Im not! Sorry I really needed to vent. Feelings are really hurt!![]()
Im a little confused on one part....if your FH cousin is getting married in January which is in 3 months, then how is your future sister in law invited to this wedding when she technically wont be married until May---she would have another 4 months to go to be part of the family, so shouldnt she not be invited either?????
I thought they got married last May...? But the bigger question--why are you living with this mean woman? I would rather live in a basement or a paper box before living with someone who intentionally wants to hurt me emotionally. In laws are one of the greatest reasons for couples breaking up, and living with her mean and spiteful comments might be very trying on your relationship! Good luck--they sound crazy.
Thank you and I totally agree with you. Misery loves company right? It's just difficult when your in the middle and the misery is always directed at you. I received my invitation to his cousins wedding today and the invitation was addressed to my FH but inside my name was written on the reception card. I still think that since I've been with him for over 4yrs. and live in the same house they couldv'e taken the time to Address the main invite to both of us but ya know it probably wouldn't have phased me at all if I wasn't told that I wasn't being invited to begin with! Thank you though for your support and kind words. I felt silly at first venting to a bunch of people I don't know and I thought after spilling my guts that everyone would think I was just as nuts as them but I felt much better once all you nice people started to reply. So Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!
Posted by stacy&joe
If you allow me to play arm chair psychologist for a minute . . .![]()
It sounds to me like your FSIL is very very insecure, which is why she is needlessly and wrongly 'competing' with you, and your FMIL sounds like she is bored, and loves soap opera drama in her life way too much.
No more drama.I feel sorry for them - it sounds like they won't ever really being happy unless someone else is miserable. How very sad.
Take comfort in that you and your FH are positive people, and you will raise your children to have good self-esteem and a full life of their own, so they don't pull this nonsense when they're older. Good luck!!!
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