I am getting married in 5 days and I just woke up and feel HORRIBLE ABOUT SOMETHING. I finished doing my programs; and I was just going through them; I included my future sister in law in NOTHING. When I first got engaged, I didn't even want a BP, but as time went on my 2 closest friends (10+ yrs) were helping me a lot. So I asked them to be in my wedding, and of course they are in my program. My SIL is my FH brother's wife. FH brother is the BM. THere are no groomsmen. Truth is, I hardly know them. I've been w/ FH 2+ yrs, and I have only met his bro and wife twice (the don't live anywhere near us) BUt this is terrible!!!!!! How could I do this???? WIll this destroy our relationship forever? Please advise.
AlmostKulak
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It will be Ok, since you hardly know them I don't think they expect to be included. Don't sweat it, they will not be upset, just relax and enjoy the next couple of days!!
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hide the programs???? just kidding...what can you do now???? The only option you have is to just be honest about it! XOXOXO Kitty
prinses777
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Why do you feel bad???
If she isn't part of the wedding party then I don't think she would expect to be included on the program... Right???
thelastresort
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I wouldn't feel bad. Why would she expect to be included in the program of your wedding, considering she hardly knows you? Granted its your FSIL but I don't think she's expecting any special accolades. Dont worry about it.
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I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of...You don't have any real relationship to speak of, and you are keeping your wedding party small. I am sure there will be no hard feelings toward you...its not like you deliberately excluded her in any way
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I think everythingi will be ok...don't worry about it - since you are not very close with her and barely know her, there shouldn't be a problem...don't stress yourself out. everything will be great!!!
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I wouldn't stress since you have a small BP...and FH only has a best man...it shows that you kept things small...if you had like 8 BMs and didn't include her then she might take offense! haha...it'll be fine.
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Honestly, if it's been this long with only 5 days to go and no one has said anything about it, I am sure they don't even realize it. It obviously doesn't bother anyone else, or I am sure they would have said something by now, so don't let it bother you.
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Make her the 'guest book attendant.' It gives her an important job & its something you can do last minute if you want her to feel included. All she has to do is put your guest book & Pen out & ask ppl if they signed or she can go to the tables at dinner & ask ppl to sign.
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Posted by prinses777
Why do you feel bad???
If she isn't part of the wedding party then I don't think she would expect to be included on the program... Right???
I agree. If she isn't in the wedding party then why would she be in the programs? I don't think you have anything to feel bad about.
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don't stress....you don't know her that well and she's not in the BP...she shouldn't be in the program anyway. just make sure you say to her at the wedding how happy you are to be joining the family and being her SIL.
it's ok!
Rscaduto
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Dont stress, if she wasnt included dont worry , its your day !!!
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Posted by prinses777
Why do you feel bad???
If she isn't part of the wedding party then I don't think she would expect to be included on the program... Right???
I agree. If they arent included in the BP..then they dont really need to be included on the programs
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PegaLega
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Dont feel bad-you arent close so there was probably never an expectation to be in it anyway.
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Posted by bettybcafe
Posted by prinses777
Why do you feel bad???
If she isn't part of the wedding party then I don't think she would expect to be included on the program... Right???
I agree. If they arent included in the BP..then they dont really need to be included on the programs
I agree too........try not to stress TOO much about this. She will totally understand. She probably doens't expect to be in the program either :)
But, if you wanted her to do something, then maybe she can do the guestbook or hand programs out......that kind of thing....
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don't feel bad...if you are not close and she is not in BP don't sweat it...relax and enjoy the next few days!
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totally agree
AlliCatB
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you have enough to worry aboout, don't worry! I'm sure she won't care. Dedicate a dance to her or something. you're getting married in less than a week!
