Need advice....sorry it's so long....
The only issues I seem to have while planning my wedding are coming from my father’s family that I’ve even cried 3 times already.
A lil background, my parents got divorced when I was in 4th grade and my father was not around most of my childhood. About 10 years ago he re-married and now I see him maybe 5-7 times a year, meanwhile he only lives 30 mins from me. The rest of his family, I have not seen since I was a little kid.
When planning, I did not initially have his family on the list b/c I don’t think of them as family since I NEVER see them. He wound up inviting 40 people, which he is paying for. Otherwise FI and I are paying for the whole thing. 1st he argued with me over his # of guests….when we booked the hall we booked the smaller room b/c I didn’t include that many people from his side, only about 15.
Then my shower was last weekend, which my sister threw for me. She only invited 6 people from his family which I thought was fine b/c I didn’t know any of them except his wife. Then toward the end of the shower, she got all made b/c I didn’t formally introduce his family to FI mother, grandmother, etc. But she has met them before and hello, she was there a half hour before I was and she could’ve made introduction. When I was taking pics with my immediate family, she got upset b/c she wasn’t in one. I do feel bad for this, but I didn’t do it intentionally. As you all know, during the shower or even E-parties you just going with the flow of things and not realizing what is going on. If she really wanted a pic, why didn’t she get up.
So now she is very disappointed and told me that it is ridiculous that his side of the family has not been included in the bridal shower or e-party (which was at FI sister house and only about 30 people…my father & wife were invited through. This was before I knew he wanted to invited all of his family).
And now she wants to know who on my fathers side of the wedding is not coming (with names) but she did not say why. Is this strange??
I am really not sure what to say to her as I don’t want to stir thing up any more before the wedding. Any advise on what I can say without causing any more drama???
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A lil background, my parents got divorced when I was in 4th grade and my father was not around most of my childhood. About 10 years ago he re-married and now I see him maybe 5-7 times a year, meanwhile he only lives 30 mins from me. The rest of his family, I have not seen since I was a little kid.
When planning, I did not initially have his family on the list b/c I don’t think of them as family since I NEVER see them. He wound up inviting 40 people, which he is paying for. Otherwise FI and I are paying for the whole thing. 1st he argued with me over his # of guests….when we booked the hall we booked the smaller room b/c I didn’t include that many people from his side, only about 15.
Then my shower was last weekend, which my sister threw for me. She only invited 6 people from his family which I thought was fine b/c I didn’t know any of them except his wife. Then toward the end of the shower, she got all made b/c I didn’t formally introduce his family to FI mother, grandmother, etc. But she has met them before and hello, she was there a half hour before I was and she could’ve made introduction. When I was taking pics with my immediate family, she got upset b/c she wasn’t in one. I do feel bad for this, but I didn’t do it intentionally. As you all know, during the shower or even E-parties you just going with the flow of things and not realizing what is going on. If she really wanted a pic, why didn’t she get up.
So now she is very disappointed and told me that it is ridiculous that his side of the family has not been included in the bridal shower or e-party (which was at FI sister house and only about 30 people…my father & wife were invited through. This was before I knew he wanted to invited all of his family).
And now she wants to know who on my fathers side of the wedding is not coming (with names) but she did not say why. Is this strange??
I am really not sure what to say to her as I don’t want to stir thing up any more before the wedding. Any advise on what I can say without causing any more drama???
