I have a friend from college who I was really close with. We have drifted since she left school (before I did) But have seen each other at functions and birthdays and stuff recently. I invited her to my engagement party and she didn't respond or show up. She apologized when I asked her about it, but doesn't really understand why I was annoyed about it...
We go up to New Paltz a few weeks ago and at breakfast she says we r gonna go celebrate her bday on 4/24. I tell her, its in my phone, just let me know whats up and i'll be there. No one filled me in and everyone's out for her bday tonight. Nothing happened between us so im unsure why she is being so shady.
My questions is... I sent her a STD, but at this point im not sure I even want her there or that she would even want to come for me and not to see everyone in the soroity who are coming....
On top of all that, she was maid of honor in our friend's wedding last April and she was told not to do drugs by the bride on the day of the wedding and she was high on coke while she made her speech.... im just over this stuff, we are in our late 20's not in college anymore. I have already told her and the few others that im not having it, but she's like the ring leader and at this point I don't really want her there....
What do I do?? Do I suck it up and invite her and hope she behaves herself or do I just not send her an invite...
I would not invite her - even though you sent her a save the date - especially if she's on drugs...
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I would not invite her - even though you sent her a save the date - especially if she's on drugs...
Yeah, she's turned into someone I don't really want to share my day with. I'm a sucker though and I feel like I can;t not invite her if im inviting all our mutual friends
ladycapricorn
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Hell to the NO!!! Do NOT invite her to your wedding, It's your day & you do not want someone there who might be high and acting foolish,
Kiki1103
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I would not invite her, it seems like you have drifted apart a lot since the STDs were sent out. IMO you should spend your wedding day with the people that mean the most to you and if she has been shady lately, it doesnt sound like you are close anymore. I wouldn't risk her doing something out of line at your wedding. Plus I dont think you want to be stressed worrying if she will be out of line.
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You shouldn't invite her! I understand you are sympathetic to the situation, but you shouldn't be playing psychiatrist or counselor on your special day! I just see bad things happening if she is at your wedding.
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definitely do not inviter her. she didn't even bother to invite u to her bday party tonight while all your mutual friends were, as I understood from your post. she doesn't sound to me like a person that deserves consideration even
JillandJoe
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you all always know what to say!! Thanks ladies. I actually wanted to see what she'd say if I texted her. I told her, 'Hope your enjoying your birthday' and her response was 'who's this?' That was the last straw...
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you all always know what to say!! Thanks ladies. I actually wanted to see what she'd say if I texted her. I told her, 'Hope your enjoying your birthday' and her response was 'who's this?' That was the last straw...
OMG...totally cut her from the list!!!
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I wouldn't invite her...you obviously have doubts. Don't worry that you sent her a STD...if you've grown apart, it won't matter really.
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you all always know what to say!! Thanks ladies. I actually wanted to see what she'd say if I texted her. I told her, 'Hope your enjoying your birthday' and her response was 'who's this?' That was the last straw...
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WOW!!! I can't stand people like that. If you're not important enough to keep in her phone or invite out for a birthday celebration, she's definitely not worth sharing the biggest day of your life. Stick up for yourself -- don't invite her!
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WOW!!! I can't stand people like that. If you're not important enough to keep in her phone or invite out for a birthday celebration, she's definitely not worth sharing the biggest day of your life. Stick up for yourself -- don't invite her!
ITA!
Yankees2323
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i wouldnt send the invite.... then again maybe play it by ear you have a while to go before you send the invites
stinenandy2010
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I would not invite her....don't invite anyone you don't want there.
SummerBride10
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Don't invite her. She's not actually like a friend. And you don't want to have to hope she behaves herself on your wedding day- you want to rest assursed and not worry about anyone being out of lijne.
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Wow....dont invite her....Do you really want someone like that at your wedding, sharing in the most special day of your life??!! Sorry to say it, but that girl seems CRAZY...you dont need people like that around you...
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i wouldn't invite her
JAAMS
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I would say absolutely do NOT invite her. You don't need people like this at your special day. You def do not need someone showing up high on coke either. She's probably acting like this because of the drugs, because drugs-such as coke- make people do these types of things.
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im usually a stickler for the 'rules' of weddings and stuff..however i think this is one of the few instances i would say to NOT invite her..you don't need someone that does drugs there-and if shes blowing you off like this for her birthday, why should you still invite her ?
