I am attending a destination wedding this weekend at the Ritz Carlton in Montego Bay, Jamaica.
This is one of my closest friends & she is in my BP. Note this is her second marriage as well.
Now the cost to attend this wedding was about $2600 a couple for 4 days.
My question is, what is the etiquette as far as a gift is concerned. I was thinking money of course
Any help would be appreciated
Thank you
CASJLL
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I wouldn't expect a gift actually if I was her, she's asking her guests to spend $2600! But definitely have fun! Sorry I'm not too much help.....
EverlovingEv
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I would give her whatever you can afford. There's not etiquette to this, just give whatever you feel is right, whether it's money or a gift.
carolinebr
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I agree with the above poster: give what you can afford and no more.
One of my best friend's got married in CA a few years back (neither she nor her hubby were from there.) It cost me $2000 for the hotel & airfare alone and I was single at the time. I had no money left for a big gift. When all was said and done, she complained to me about people who didn't give gifts or gace gifts she thought were 'cheap.'
chrissyandvin
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Bari.. you know what I told you.. but don't go crazy! You are spending a lot by going there and celebrating with them! U guys have a wedding to pay for yourselfs. Most people wouldn't spend that kind of money while they are planning their own wedding. You going there is just awesome itself!!!
maria5-6-05
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If I had a destination wedding I wouldn't expect anyone who paid to be there to give a gift. If anything it would be nice to get a small sentimental gift rather than money but that's just MOH.
soon2bcopswife
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I believe etiquette says that you deduct your traveling expenses from your gift. I think it is tacky of someone to expect gifts, especially if you are hauling off to another country.
D's Girl
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Thank you Ladies
This was racking my brain for the past few weeks
Kara and Todd
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Posted by soon2bcopswife
I believe etiquette says that you deduct your traveling expenses from your gift. I think it is tacky of someone to expect gifts, especially if you are hauling off to another country.
I also think it's tacky to expect gifts when people are paying that kind of money to travel!!
Jayla127
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The hotel and airfare is the gift. Not to sound harsh.
bride2beofmike
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not right, give whatever u can give.... ur already spending so much
JeanineP2B
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After all of your expenses, I'm sure your friend won't actually expect a gift, but wouldn't it be appreciated so much more if you still gave one?
Give what you can afford. IMO, spending an extra $100 or so wouldn't hurt since you're already spending so much. I only say that because you mention that she's one of your closest friends.
HTH
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I don't know what I would give - if I was giving $$.
I always give money, but in this situation, I'd be more inclined to buy them a gift - only because I wouldn't know what the proper amount to give would be (given all of your expenses)....
ETA: Then again, shes one of your closest friends....so maybe $200 (100 from each of you) would be sufficient...
snydl40
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I wouldn't give anymore than $200-that would be our top gift.
JeanineP2B
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Posted by beachbum05
I don't know what I would give - if I was giving $$....
Ya, I agree. I'd just get her a gift for about $100 instead of giving cash... If you give cash... you should probably give a tid bit more than that.
Let us know how it works out! AND take lots of pics too!
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Posted by maria5-6-05
If I had a destination wedding I wouldn't expect anyone who paid to be there to give a gift. If anything it would be nice to get a small sentimental gift rather than money but that's just MOH.
