Need help!!!!

corinne7477 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:02 PM

Need help!!!!

My ex found out that we are getting married and knows where and said he will crash our wedding. He is so psycho i dont know what to do. help!!!!

LnP2003 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:03 PM

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call the cops.... find out what to do from them!

daisybride Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:05 PM

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Wow! I'm sorry that you have to experince that.

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:06 PM

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Corinne, is this who I am thinking of? Because if it is, calling the cops will not make a difference He IS psycho!

corinne7477 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:07 PM

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the cops are going to think im a nut they cant do anything unless he tries something . my future father in law is a retired cop but i was told its a public place and that he is allowed to be in a public place. i dont have a retraining order against him so he is not prohibited to go there.

corinne7477 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:08 PM

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yeah rachel hes crazy probably would come incognito. he is psycho scares the crap out of me. he flipped when he found out i was engaged cant imagine what he would pull at the wedding. im freaking out.

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:10 PM

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I'll be at the door and beat him up maybe you could do like a guest list thing and have everyone give their name at the door Bobby and his friends are bouncers, I'm sure we could get some people to work the door. Sad to have to do something like that, but I wouldn't take any chances

LnP2003 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:12 PM

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definitely have someone work the door there... maybe have something on the invites if that's at all possible - ENTRANCE WITH INVITE ONLY ?

corinne7477 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:12 PM

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where italian dont want it to seem like we have excorts and dont want people to think thats wierd what happens if some people from work come to the church and said they couldnt make it then they cant come in. bouncers would seem to wierd. michael jokes about all the uncles standing by the exits to make sure he says ido. what if ex stands up and objects to us getting married i would be flabbergasted. i just dont want him there. i know he will come why does he have to ruin my day i already am so stressed over the wedding and will be even more that day knowing hes going to show up.

LnP2003 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:18 PM

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oooooooooooohhhhhh.... he's gonna try to come to the church! duh to me.... that's gonna be a toughy!

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:18 PM

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Ok, don't take this the wrong way Corinne, but I went to a wedding last year where the groom had a restraining order against his ex-wife and I think her new husband, but anyway, they ended up searching people because his ex wife sent people to crash their wedding and he recognized one of her friends at the church. (they called the police). It was AWFUL. But then again, they were a little WT. This is serious. Something needs to be done!

corinne7477 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:21 PM

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Rachel you are scaring me should I call off the wedding to another date becuase of this? should i change the church and the hall? im so freaked out right now im crying and shaking. I havent told Michael yet he will blow a gasket if he know it would start a whole big deal. cant believe Lalissa told him about where it was i should un invite her to the wedding. what a trouble maker.

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:27 PM

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Ok, first things first, DO NOT FREAK OUT. Not that that helped you, but I would tell Michael immediately. You don't need this stuff going on. There is a solution, I promise you. I would call Bobby and ask him if you could hire some of his friends, although it is New Year's so you might have trouble finding bouncers, but that's besides the point. As for Lalissa, I will have a chat with her. It sounds very out of character that she would tell him about the wedding, but I do know they still talk. I will give her a call tomorrow. Why don't you call me later so we can talk?

corinne7477 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:29 PM

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having bouncers at the church and wedding doesnt sound right. i need another solution i dont like the idea and what happens if he comes your friends are going to pounce on him great then we will have the cops there i dont want it to turn into a fiasco.

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:30 PM

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corinne7477 Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:31 PM

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anyone besides rachels suggestions. shes freaking me out to much. no offense rachel put yourself in my shoes you plan a nice wedding on new years eve and then you have bouncers at the church and hall. how do i explain that to my guests incase of what???? psycho ex then people might be alarmed to stay in the church. then what???

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:33 PM

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Sorry

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:37 PM

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Honestly Corinne, I think your best, most discreet option is people at the door. I mean, honestly, it's one person. As long as you have them dressed in suits, who's gonna know the difference? I don't know what else to tell you, I honestly don't know what else you can do.

Eli Posted: Jun 26, 2003 09:39 PM

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i am so sorry for you....i saw something like this on the news a few years ago and that is what is prompting me to respond to your post. if this person is truly dangerous and is capable of doing something crazy you may have no choice but to have some kind of lookout and protection. after what i saw on that report i would not take a psycho ex lightly. however, only you really know what he MIGHT do and i am not trying to scare you or imply that there will be a definite problem. you should be able to enjoy your day-you deserve it. just make sure you also protect yourslf if need be. again, i am sorry and i hope your ex finds something better to do than to make your life miserable