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Hi ladies! Need a bit of help - what a bad bad weekend. My FH best friend was also engaged and was to be married one month after us. His fiance was to be a BM in my bridal party. We are totally best friends with them and do everything together. They called off the wedding (3 months away) yesterday. My heart is broken! And I don't understand b/c her FH is one of the best guys I know! Anyway, no surprises here, I know my shower is Sunday. She's no longer a BM. My best friend is doing her PHD, is not sure if she can make it to my wedding for sure due to the nature of her research work (tagging balugas in the Arctic when ice breaks) which happens during, of course, my wedding. So she's on the fence still, depending on the helicopter schedules. Anyway, I let her know that if she can come, she'll be a BM. But if she doesn't come, I'll be short a BM. I know of at least 3 girls that would love to do it - I know they were hurt b/c I didn't ask from the beginning. (But I already had 7!!!) Should I ask someone else? Should I ask before the shower? I would rather be over one than short one? Well, actually, I don't care either way - what do you think? I guess I think it's probably best just to fill it and make someone happy, then leave it and do nothing...what do you think? Please help!
Posted by glinda_goodwitch
Posted by N.Y.bride
I would leave it and do nothing
Im also have an odd # in the bridal party :)
We're also having an odd number of guys and girls. You can just have one girl walk down the aisle escorted by two guys. I wouldn't risk hurting one of your friends by asking them last minute to be a BM.
Posted by glinda_goodwitch
Posted by N.Y.bride
I would leave it and do nothing
Im also have an odd # in the bridal party :)
We're also having an odd number of guys and girls. You can just have one girl walk down the aisle escorted by two guys. I wouldn't risk hurting one of your friends by asking them last minute to be a BM.
I would not replace her.
I would leave it alone I know I would be insulted if you asked me at such short notice and know that I am replacing someone. Do you know for sure this other girl is out of the BP did she come to you or your FH and say she didn't want to be a part of your BP?
Posted by OSCARtheGROOMI was about to say the same thing. What happens if they reconcile, and get back together? Then your really messed up.
Posted by steflily
I agree with the rest of the firls. Don't replace her. You never know what might happen in the coming weeks.![]()
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