Need prayers ...and help dealing with a situation

Original post by futrmrsblt

Jul 24, 2006 09:12 PM

Hey all awhile back I posted about my uncle having metastasized cancer.. he passed away a few hours ago...
He is in a much better place now, his year of suffering is over...

I just want to know how to you all deal with going to a wake.. it may be tmi but last time i tried to go to one (3 years ago, best friends gma i barely knew) i went in there and ran out freaking out and vomited in the parking lot..
ive avoided all other wakes/funerals since then i dont deal well with death (well partly true.. the passing part.. thats fine i know everyones up there somewhere IMO chilling and watching over us... its the wake .. paying respects in a formal setting that totally freaks me out )

shelby34 Posted: Jul 25, 2006 10:08 AM

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I am so sorry for your loss
I don't know what could make going to a wake easier. But, i just think you have to think more about your uncle when he was alive and the happy things about him. If you get caught up in what you are seeing there, it will be more difficult.
i am sure you will get through it. We are thinking of you and praying for you.

dianadrw Posted: Jul 25, 2006 10:32 AM

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I am so sorry for your loss. Going to a wake is always a hard thing for me. Sometimes I just stand in the back, other times if I'm feeling stronger I may go up to the front. You do what you feel comfortable with.

hunnybunnyxoxo Posted: Jul 25, 2006 11:53 AM

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i am so sorry for your loss!

neener1211 Posted: Jul 25, 2006 11:57 AM

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I'm sorry for your loss

lilqtpie2181 Posted: Jul 25, 2006 12:05 PM

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Im sorry are going through a hard time with the wake... and Im ever more sorry for your loss.
I know people who dont go to wakes cuz they cant handle it. Although i get a bit queezy during them, the only thing that helps me get through it is that I think of it as a final way to say good bye... or as I like to think of it..'goodbye for now'

futrmrsblt Posted: Jul 25, 2006 02:43 PM

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Thanks for all the hugs and prayers im doing so much better i have been relieved of going to the wake everyone was understanding about my issue with it...
I got to take it all at my pace, my way, etc

thanks for being so supportive...

snydl40 Posted: Jul 25, 2006 03:44 PM

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I am so sorry. You don't have to go up to the casket. Just you being there is enough. You and your family have our condolences.

Tobewed07 Posted: Jul 25, 2006 03:58 PM

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I am so sorry for your loss!! Please stay strong and try to remain calm, don't think of it as death, try to imagine your Uncle as just asleep. I wish I had better advice, but its a difficult thing to do!!

MichLiz213 Posted: Jul 25, 2006 06:16 PM

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I am so sorry for your loss.

I remember when my grandfather died how difficult his wake was for me. I was only 17 and I was very close to him, and I had a severe panic attack at the mere thought of going up to the casket. Wakes are very hard to get through. But I think having your family around to support one another helps tremendously.

You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts!