Need Some Sympathy and reassurance UPDATED

Original post by jess N brian031508

Aug 17, 2007 12:57 PM

My Fh and I live in Florida and have been planning a March wedding, I currently have no job and no insurance and have just discovered a mass that needs to be removed. My FIL's and my mom and dad are freaking out and want us to get hitched here so I can get medical but I honestly dont want another 'quickie wedding' I did that the first time around and this time I really had my heart set on a hall and a big wedding. I already have doctors and my surgery is scheduled although I have no idea how I'm going to pay for it
To make matters worse my date is only 212 days away and I havent gotten anything DONE, and when I say anything I really mean it, no hall, no vendors no dress no NOTHING!!!! I have plans to come to LI for 2 days next week and I will be booking my hall, (I have appointments with 3 but I know what I want) but I'm terrified that the surgery is really going to screw with my planning, To top it all of FH & I are paying for the wedding ourselves so my mom keeps trying to convince me to go with a hall that is a lot cheaper for a Thurs night but their price really makes me wonder.. how can they be so cheap and what is it going to be lacking. I'm just in a really crappy mood I guess, thanks for listening

klanghan Posted: Aug 24, 2007 04:21 PM

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OMG I am so sorry to hear that, good luck with everything!!!!!

lilangel369 Posted: Aug 24, 2007 04:22 PM

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Posted by jess N brian031508

My surgery is scheduled for Monday morning and then I'll be laid up for a while so I will start to work on my DIY's. Thank you for all of your suggestions and I'm sure I will have a million different questions for everyone soon

ah i should've read that .. good luck with the surgery!

kristi313 Posted: Aug 24, 2007 04:28 PM

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Posted by GinaZ

Im so sorry!!!

Maybe you could have a quickie wedding to get the insurance and then later have the big wedding to celebrate with your family and friends.

i'm so sorry to hear all this. The quickie wedding thing isn't a bad idea, just for technical reasons it would help you guys out so much. the big wedding can still be planned and you can renew your vows that day. anything is possible ya know

jess N brian031508 Posted: Aug 24, 2007 04:43 PM

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Posted by kristi313

Posted by GinaZ

Im so sorry!!!

Maybe you could have a quickie wedding to get the insurance and then later have the big wedding to celebrate with your family and friends.

i'm so sorry to hear all this. The quickie wedding thing isn't a bad idea, just for technical reasons it would help you guys out so much. the big wedding can still be planned and you can renew your vows that day. anything is possible ya know

We have been contemplating it so we will see what happens, the hospital over here is wonderful so they are willing to work with me regarding not paying a cent towards the bill so hopefully we wont have to do the quickie..
Thanks again Ladies

jgl Posted: Aug 24, 2007 04:44 PM

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Posted by Autumn08

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Honestly I would do it for insurance and still have the wedding in the hall with the ceremony.

i agree- hope it all works out for you!! GL with your surgery!!

JACK808 Posted: Aug 24, 2007 04:46 PM

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Take care of yourself and your health, and everything else will fall into place.

TrueLoveIn2008 Posted: Aug 24, 2007 04:53 PM

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SO GLAD you have a good hospital! I wanted to let you know, even though you said that the hospital is being really good to you -- as long as you talk about it with them ahead of time, ALL MEDICAL OFFICES, etc. have to put you on a payment plan if you ask. You can pay $1 a month as long as you pay someting and stay on track. I have insurance but high copays and also had a lot of dental problems last year and went over my max payout, and I have done this numerous times. I am still paying the dentist from last year! $40 to go. :)

Good luck with the surgery and please let us know how it goes when you are up and about.