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I'd be annoyed too. Of all the weekends in the year, they have to get married right before you. Doesn't make sense to me. Although, maybe it's a special anniversary or something. Just a thought.

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I TOTALLY understand how you feel! ........ But it is good that you are not in the BP because then things would get rough. Even if George is, at least you can get last minute things done without him if need be. Hang in there girlie! You always have us to talk to!

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aww steph im sorry babe Youre definatly not brideszilla Id be pissed about it too and you have every right to be.

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I would be very veyr P.O.ed...

I am very very afraid that i will have the same problem.. FH best friend has plans to propose to his g/f this summer...FH's friend is very spiteful like that...

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Posted by Shorty McBride

aw sweetie, i'd be angry, too!!!!

its very inconsiderate. i mean, do they seriously think they'll be able to fulfill their responsibilities as your BP? No - because its going to be all about them.



At least she can't steal your ideas and copy your whole wedding

I'm sorry, this just gets to me.

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That makes me think of one more thing - FH's best man will be getting married - so when is he going to plan bachelor party, etc for George!!!

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Posted by NinaChris07

It is a problem because George will probably be in the party, so he will have responsibilities and its BOTH of your weddings...


plus you had your wedding date set way before theirs and he is in your wedding party - he is the best man; not like he is just a guest...

Its going to be crazy for you those weeks...plus I know how you feel - i would feel the same way!

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yeah i agree.... if it was a couple of weeks after i don't think it would be a big deal but before (and the money it costs to be in a wedding party) and having to go out of state... ugh! so sorry!!!

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That would annoy me too.

BUT...
I did learn one thing as I plan my wedding...
Other people won't be as happy , excited, etc for you and your wedding as you and your FH will be and that everyone around you will not stop or put their life on hold for you. (not that they should but sometimes this whole process can make us think that people should)

It ***** that they are getting married 3 weeks b4 u - but in the grand scheme of things - who cares!

Your wedding will be fantastic and you are marrting the love of your life.

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I would be upset too, I know its hard, but don't let it get to you. In the long run all that matters is you will marry the man you love.

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I would be annoyed too

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thank you so much for listening to me and for all your opinions, it made me feel so much better love you girlies

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i would've def. checked w. you & FH to make sure there won't be a problem b/c itwas going to be so close in date. But not everyone is that considerate. I personally wouldn't complain to her about it b/c i wouldn't want to upset her , but if you feel like it is too much for you then let them know you can't make it b/c you have too much stuff to do for yours...or if Fh is asked to be in it have him turn it down & just be a guest.....they would have to understand either way....

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I think I would feel just the same...we have 2 friends getting married the summer of 07 so we stayed clear of it. I think your reaction is perfectly normal!

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I would be annoyed also. I planned my wedding around my cousin since we are in each others wedding and they are in different states to aviod this problem. Hopefully it will all work out and everything will be prepared ahead of time to make it possible.

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You do have a right to be a little upset, however..It happens a lot unfortunately! My Fh's friend is getting married a month before us too and they are both in each others wedding.. so it's going to be hard! I try and think if the bright side.. You're anniversary's will be close to each other!

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Posted by Missladybug15

OK , today our best man proposed to his longtime girlfriend. We are sooo happy for them, they are perfect together. I became a little upset however when they told us they set their date for June 15, 2007 which is like 3wks before ours. Am I wrong for being upset??? I just dont think it is fair to do it right before us, plus it is in another state, so in the middle of getting everything set for our wedding, now I have to treck there!!! UGH

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Aww i'm sorry, I can understand you being upset about having to travel to their wedding when you should be finalizing yours, but you can't let you ruin your day!!!! Sometimes people don't think.

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I completely hear where you are coming from and you are not wrong for feeling the way you do. I think every person that got engaged after FI & I are getting married before us...but what are you gonna do. Just concentrate on your wedding because it will be GREAT and don't worry about anything else.

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Nope, I hear Ya, FH's did the same thing. Got engaged a week before us (he knew when my FH was planning to do it) He made sure they were engaged first and then we set our date for 2/10 and they went out a month later and picked 5 weeks later.....meanwhile he told FH that they were probably going to pick the summer...I just think its rude....

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yeah id def be mad.......

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No, sweetie. You are not a bridezilla. My Future Husband propsed to me on January 6, 2005. We will be getting married on September 29, 2007. My cousin somewhat did the same thing to me. She was not even engaged yet but thinking about getting married in 2007. Apparently September but that month was taken already by us. Oh, Well. Her Future Husband propsed in July 2005. Their wedding date is June 24, 2007. My parents were married on that date in 1972. I was a little upset at first but I decided not to let it bother me. At my engagement party when we were running around she asked me why we decided to have a engagement party. ??? Common Sense. I told myself then, don't sweat the small and or the negative stuff. I wish you all the best to you and your future husband.

dancer

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Posted by lilpie19

Well I would be upset too, you planned your day first and it's not fair to you, but on the other hand you can't really get mad at them because the have the 'right' to pick any day they want. Althought they should have considered how you would feel and how hard it may be for their close friends to travel and pay to be in their BP so close to their wedding.

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I agree!! but your not being a bridezilla. if that happened to me i would be more than just upset and annoyed too....I would want another close friends of ours to steal our limelight for our wedding.....Dont worry!! things could be far worse than this....for example...they could have picked your wedding date!! so just think of it that way!!!