So my futrue MOIL has been a pain in my a$$ about inviting all of her friends to our wedding. Now I dont have a problem with this but she wanted to invite 25 people which is crazy. Me and my FH are paying for this wedding all by ourselves so we have want people we know and who know us there. She is not helping with anything or even offering to help with anything. So I told her that is was only allowed to invite 3 couples and she gave me such ish about it that she cant just invite those people and not others blah blah telling that they have money and will get nice checks (which i dont care about the money) i just dont want strangers at our wedding and she told thier not strangers thier with friends she works with. So I sen out the invites last week and she called me up saying that 2 couple arent going to make it and if icould send out 2 others. I told i had no more invites (which is a lie i had like 5 extra but I wanted to keep 2 for me and the others if someone didnt get mailed out right or whatever) she lost it telling me that she already told these people that thier invite and they think thier coming blah blah. I told Im sorry and that she shouldnt have gonna around like a promoter promoting my wedding and inviting people i didnt know. So she hung up on me and like a day later my FSIL called me asking why my FMIL wanted her invite. I told her dont give it to her. I called my FMIL and she told me that she re-mailed her invite to her friend and was going to remail my FSIL to another friend. I totally freak and was screaming that that wasnt right and she shouldnt have done that and they are not invited and now she has to dis invite them. Then she told me that they are important people and can not be disinvited. Can you believe this. My FH is no help because he dislike his mom anyway so the less communication he has with her the better for him. Can we put all the mean FMIL in a boat and ship them to an island somewhere
GT143EA
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Posted by seawedding
Tell her she can invite whomever she wants so long as she covers their plates.
ITA!!
leeserd
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That would send me over the edge to possibly univiting FMIL. I would tell her (even if your bluffing) that there will be someone at the door with a list and if people show up who are not on the list then they will be turned away. See what she has to say to that one!
I wouldn't even bother to tell her to cover their plates. The point is not the cost but that you don't want strangers at your wedding. This is your event, not hers.
Tell her that either she can call these people and univite them (she deserves to be embarrassed for this) or that the extra people she invited will be standing outside the reception hall and will be told by whomever is at the door what she did and why they are not allowed in and she will accordingly be publicly shamed. Her choice. She brought it on herself.
cnr1408
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That is ridiculous, sorry you are going through that.
cateydee
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Posted by leeserd
That would send me over the edge to possibly univiting FMIL. I would tell her (even if your bluffing) that there will be someone at the door with a list and if people show up who are not on the list then they will be turned away. See what she has to say to that one!
I wouldn't even bother to tell her to cover their plates. The point is not the cost but that you don't want strangers at your wedding. This is your event, not hers.
Tell her that either she can call these people and univite them (she deserves to be embarrassed for this) or that the extra people she invited will be standing outside the reception hall and will be told by whomever is at the door what she did and why they are not allowed in and she will accordingly be publicly shamed. Her choice. She brought it on herself.
thats a good idea- tell her imagine how embarassed she'll feel when all her friends are turned away at a wedding they're not invited to.
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OMG that is terrible. Obviously they are NOT that important if she didn't think to give you their names in the beginning.
do you have a good relationship with your FSIL? If so maybe she can talk to your FMIL.
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Posted by mokie74m
OMG that is terrible. Obviously they are NOT that important if she didn't think to give you their names in the beginning.
do you have a good relationship with your FSIL? If so maybe she can talk to your FMIL.
WOW
It's one thing to say you have to invite these people. It's another to mail out her and FSIL's invite to them after you told her no. WOW
ITA with the above. At first i was gonna say don't make a placecard for the guests she invited. But.. 1. How do u know she won't make one and put it out herself and 2. Yes she'd have to deal with her friends not having a place to sit but i'd be afraid she would call you out on it at your actually wedding in front of everyone. Even though she is wrong it still would have an effect on you.
Def try to get FSIL on your side.
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wow, talk about a crazy FMIL story. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Even if you FH doesn't like his mother too much, he should say something to her. You shouldn't be dealing with his mom by yourself. That is ridiculous; re-sending her own invite to other people.
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OMG, that is horrible. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I can't believe she is demanding these people are invited. I also don't agree with some others that she should invite people even if she pays because why should you have to be at your wedding with complete strangers. I think your idea that she invite 3 couples is more than fair ESPECIALLY since you are paying for this yourself. Hope you can work it out.
