need your help... for serious wording

Hi
I got some ideas in a different thread
but I want to have a photo or photos
need a poll on this..... My grandparents passed away 1.5 and 2.5 years ago, we were extremely close and all lived together my whole childhood
I wanted to put a photo or photos of them on the seating card table with a frame next to it that says something like..... you are hear in our hearts, or for the ones we love so much who cannot be here.... etc..... any suggestions will be great
OH and do I put a recent pic or a recent and their wedding photo or just their wedding
which do u think?????
I was thinking recent in a nice frame with the letter with whatever I can pick to say in the middle and their wedding pic next to that or do you think I should just put the one pic
thanks

Re: need your help... for serious wording

tammyjill,
I think your ideas are beautiful, I think a wedding picture of them would be perfect. I think the picture should be of them the way they would want to be remembered by your guests.
I am using a memory candle in our ceremony to remember our loved ones that have passed(we have so many)and the candle will say'to remember those that live on in our hearts'
we will list their names in our program & that candle will be on our table at our reception. I will have pics of them in small frames on the mantle behind our table.
I think this will be a very special part of your day & your Grandparents will be there!
Good luck

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I am in the same situation as you are. Both of my grandmothers died within 3 months of each other, 3 years ago. My heart is still broken.
I know that if I walked into my wedding and saw their photos I would be crying for the rest of the night. So you need to consider how everyone will feel, including your parents, siblings, aunts etc... If you think everyone will like seeing the photo that day, then consider putting their wedding photos on the table. But I would not put words to the sentiment. What you wrote sounds as if they are speaking the words and that doesn't feel right to me- IMO only. I think words might change the sentiment of the photos. But again, JMO.

Also consider remembering them in private ways. I am carrying my grandmother's prayer book- the same one she carried when she got married, wearing my Nanny's diamond cross, putting a small butterfly pin in my bouquet as well as my sister and moms since my Grandmother LOVED butterflies and playing the Ava Maria (instrumental) for the Moms to walk down to since it was my Nanny's favorite song. Very few people will see or even know what that all means, but those who knew them will know right away. Also I am giving my Nanny's sister, my great-aunt, a corsage since my Nanny cannot be there to wear it.

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thanks Richsbride
so you think only the wedding picture of them?? but most people do not remember them that way :) being it was so long ago
I wonder if I should put the picture where I thought on the seating table so everyone sees or my dias??? seating?

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MICHELE
I am giving my great aunt a corsage too!! when I was little I thought she was my grandma too lol
I am having the DJ play her and her husbands
I finally found someone song also.......
w/ a little paragraph or two that I will write, I think it will mean a lot to my aunt
he will have them start off the dance then invite everyone to join in

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When my cousin got married she ended her program with a little note saying something like: For those that are in our hearts and have touched our lives, we know you are always watching over us .... and then listed their names. It was nice to see names of some of my immediate family. It was really nice! I think the picture idea is great. It will touch a lot of people like this saying touched our family!

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Thanks everybody for all your suggestions now I just have to weigh and measure everything b/c my mom didnt know if the pic would be approprite
she thought we should have their pic in the video
which I was doing anyway
well, we will see, I was telling her how brides on here thought some of my ideas were beautiful :)

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Definitely use a wedding photo. A recent photo is going to look like the photos they put up for a wake in my opinion.

I think it might be a better place to honor them in your ceremony program instead of at the reception. In the program, you can use a small photo of their wedding day along with a note about how you know they will be with you to bless your marriage as their marriage was blessed -or something like that.

Another reason is because the ceremony is solemn and aperfect time for rememberance while the reception is supposed to be a celebration of life and love.

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Just a little follow up - I was watching TV and I saw a couple that had several wedding pictures of people in their family on a board at their wedding. They had pictures of their parents' wedding, grandparents weddings, siblings weddings, etc. This might be an idea if you still want to have the picture at the reception.

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Tammy,
I just lot my grandmother and my grandfather 4 years ago...its was really hard because I lived with them my whole life. So I decided that on the table where me and my FH will sit I am going to put the names of the immediate family that the both of us lost with a lit candle. I thing I may put it in the programs also. I am not going to make any announcements because I don't want people to get upset.
Hope this helps