Thank you all so much for the input on this. It made FH and I decide that we are going to ask that he leave his gun at home. I am co-hosting another BM's baby shower in a few weeks with this person so I am going to wait until after that to have the conversation, just in case it does not go well. I love this site, and all the supportive ladies on it!
One of my BM's, who is also a great friend has recently moved in with her boyfriend who is a NYC police Officer. He carries a gun 24/7 and makes sure that it is visible to anyone around him. He will put it in the middle of the dinner table when you have dinner at his house, this has happened twice. He also goes out drinking with it on. He is very 'aggressive' about his job and loves to tell stories about beating 'perps' up. Our issue is that we do not agree with this, and find it scary. We are going to have children, and open bar at our wedding and do not want his gun there. He will not come to our home because he is not allowed to bring his gun. If we tell him to please not bring it to the wedding, I am guessing my friend will drop out. She stands by him 100%, no matter what. What would you do?
thelastresort
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Is he mental?! Seriously. I know plenty of cops and have NEVER seen their guns.
I agree with everyone else. Safety first.
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OMG i cant believe that he is that crazy. I'm also a police officer and ill tell ya one thing i sure as hell am not going to have my gun strapped onto my garter belt the day of my wedding! All i have to say as a cop is that it is very irresponsible of him to have his gun present at an event where there will be alcohol, he should know better to leave it at home, locked and in a safe place. Its YOUR wedding, remember that, and if your friend is a TRUE friend she'll understand and respect your requests as to not having her bf bring his gun, its one night w/o his lil gun i'm sure he'll be fine. Honestly unless your having your own security at the door which I dont think you are but what police action is he really gonna take at your beautiful wedding. Speak your mind and stick to YOUR guns...good luck and i wish you the best!!!
VERY well said, my FH is a cop also and he would never bring his gun to a wedding or wear it when going out and drinking alcohol. He barely ever wears it off-duty - it's for protection, not showing off. I would absolutely put my foot down too.
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I agree with every other post on here. No gun, or no invite. Can you imagine if a little kid walked by the table
Stand your ground!!!
Please keep us posted. I am sure your discussion will be post worthy.
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Posted by Mikeysgirl
Tell him the reception hall has a no gun policy. They probably do!
I don't think saying that to him will work - he is a police officer so he would be able to argue that one.
I would tell your friend the truth. I would not allow him at the wedding with a gun and if she has a problem with it, then she doesn't really support you as a friend.
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Posted by superkat
I would simply tell her the truth. The two of them are invited but the gun isn't. If she drops out, then she isn't a good enough friend to care about your feelings and you are better off without her.
I agree....and her DH has some real issues. It is NOT necessary to walk around with a gun, especially when you are off duty.
He sounds like a dirty cop to me. Bragging about beating up people, that's not professional at all.
To be honest I wouldn't even be friends with these people. Putiing a gun on the dinner table is not acceptable social behavior. He has a few screws loose.
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that is what many call a 'buff'...and they can be the kind of guy that gets people in trouble.
he could be suspended or lose his job for going out drinking with his service weapon on.
let your friend know that you will NOT want him there with a gun at your wedding.
i'm marrying a cop....know cops...and will have cops at my wedding. you bet your sweet azz that NONE OF THEM will be allowed to bring their weapon!!!!!!
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that is what many call a 'buff'...and they can be the kind of guy that gets people in trouble.
he could be suspended or lose his job for going out drinking with his service weapon on.
let your friend know that you will NOT want him there with a gun at your wedding.
i'm marrying a cop....know cops...and will have cops at my wedding. you bet your sweet azz that NONE OF THEM will be allowed to bring their weapon!!!!!!
