Need your opinion re: kids at the wedding....

Original post by sumbr08

Dec 16, 2007 01:54 PM

So basically to make a long story short:
My dad's cousin said he would be coming to the wedding and would also bring his 8 year old son too. My dad said that we weren't inviting kids to the wedding. SO as my mom is telling me this story she asks, what will John's (my FH) sister do with her baby because we are not allowing kids at the wedding. In my opinion, it is okay to have FH's sister's baby at the wedding because this is our immediate family, not some distant cousin's son who we've never met. Not to mention, the baby would not count as a person at the wedding because she's an infant. I think it's totally appropriate to invite my future niece to the wedding and not have other kids there because she is a part of my immediate family. Lastly, they would be coming from Chicago to Long Island for a whole week, so I don't see how she could not bring her.

What do you guys think?

MrsG2007 Posted: Dec 17, 2007 11:24 AM

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This is a hard subject....I originally didn't want children at my wedding...and than I had to invite children because my bridal party's kids wouldn't have babysitters..because their babysitters would have been at the wedding...LOL....So I left it at only immediate family could come with their children..and because of that some of my cousin's family who were invited didn't come...
which was fine with me...that being my experience.
I feel that when you go to a wedding..wouldn't you want to have your children stay with a babysitter so you could have a good time....

Shelly9697 Posted: Dec 17, 2007 11:41 AM

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I am doing the same, immediate family only!! I have 4 nieces, 1 nephew & 2 lil sisters they will of course will be part of my day!! I am leaving it up to their parents whether or not they bring them to the reception. I think beyond immediate family it gets to be too much. We made the age cut of 16 and older beyond immediate family. It's just too much, I am sorry if that offends anyone!! JMO

HamptonsBride Posted: Dec 17, 2007 01:33 PM

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i had a NO KIDs wedding...except for nieces & nephews who were in the wedding party.

We hired two babysitters from an agency who watched the kids at the hotel literally a block away and paid for it. Since we had alot of OOTers we knew we had to provide something since most people couldn't just leave the kids behind (although they had a year's notice...but go figure...haha)
All this info was provided in invites and on our wedding website...worked out great!

diva7531 Posted: Dec 17, 2007 02:02 PM

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Not aton of kids in the family yet, but our friends have loads of them. You can totally say no to your dads cousin and yes to FH's neice, it is your wedding, you invite who you want. What the heck would an 8 tr old do at a wedding w/ no other 8 yr olds?!?!?!?!

We had DD (FG) bestman and bridesmaids DD (FG) and their 1yr old son, DD's friend (RB). We invited our FG's GP's to wacth the kids so our friends could enjoy themselves. And the kids all left early anyhow.

SoonToBeMrsBrady Posted: Dec 17, 2007 02:07 PM

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We have a lot of first cousins that are young and all of them are invited to the wedding. 2 of our first cousins have kids and they are also invited, but that's it. If the invitation doesn't say ' The (last name) Family'....then no kids should be invited...my personal opinion. I also don't think that it is the bride and groom's responsibility to add a kid just because the mother or father can't find a babysitter....sorry, it's not my problem. If I sent you a STD, you've had a year to find a baby sitter and once you got the invite, which is probably 2 months before the wedding, you had that time too.

MrsD71208 Posted: Dec 17, 2007 05:41 PM

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We have a similar situation...if first cousins are kids, they are obviously coming. For anyone outside of brother, sister, aunt, uncle or first cousin (such as family friends/co-workers/second-cousins, etc...) no kids allowed! I am thinking of putting it on our invite!