hello ladies. i have been on this site many times as a lurker...lol and i must say congrats to all of you lucky girls that are planning your special day. i have been with my fh for about 7 years. We have been living together and engaged for 5. my only regret is not pushing the whole wedding issue on him after he proposed. living together,he now feels that we are married already so what is the point of wasting soo much money on a wedding. the thing is, i want a wedding soo bad..its really driving me crazy because i just feel like he doesnt want that kind of a committment with me, or he is just tooo comfortable with the situation. we basically live our life day by day, we dont plan or discuss the future, it drives me crazy to think that i invested so many years and i could end because we dont see eye to eye.
FutureMrsLV
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7 years is a long time to waste if you arent getting what you want out of the relationship. I think you should def talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel and explain how important it is to you. maybe tell him something along the lines of we have been engaged for 5 years its time we start planning a friggin wedding!!! see how he feels if he is against getting married and that is something you really want and need then tell him that and try to make him understand. I hope everything works out...every girl deserves her dream wedding if hes not willing to give it to you and commit to the next level then maybe it wasnt ment to be either way its bothering you so I would def talk to him about it!
yngcpl92203
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definately speak with him. let him know what you want out of the future and if he respects you, he should understand.
KristiAnn923
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I agree with all the ladies on this one; it is clear you need to have some kind of discussion with him. I guess my questions is, why would he even go as far as proposing if he had no intentions of getting married?
Ann 52409
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I think there is more to the issue so i'm hesitant to post my opinion but, if he gave you a ring and doesn't want anything else to do with planning a wedding... maybe the ring was just to keep you happy. Only you know in your heart if he has any intentions to marry you. It sounds like he is using money as an excuse but, like you said you can sacrafice a vacation or two and have a beautiful wedding. The only way to solve this is to have a talk with him and let him know how serious you are... I really hope it works out... 7 years is a long time to just throw away
