Nice Story and Vent

we are inviting FILS old neighbor to our wedding (my FILS moved 4 -5 years ago), this lady still keeps in touch with my FMIL - they used to be really great friends when they were next door neighbors but since my FILS have moved they don't see eachother or speak as often but they are still friends....i've met the woman before and she is really nice and she loves loves loves my FH and she even has a cute crush on him

so anyway, this woman and her husband planned a vacation awhile back - then she realized that our wedding was during her vacation - she was so upset over it and didnt want to miss our wedding so she re-booked her entire vacation....she told my FMIL that she couldnt miss the wedding and that she wanted to see FH get married.....i thought that was SO SWEET of this woman, i mean really really sweet....she wasnt going to be able to make it, but then decided to change her plans just so she could attend

all this while my own family (aunt/uncle) have the nerve to complain that we are getting married in long island mind you, its only a 40 minute drive - and im the FIRST to get married out of all the kids - its incredible how rude they can be, it drives my mother and i nuts! its like they want reasons to justify why we didnt chose to get married in staten island - because they dont want to drive far! how about, because that is where we want to get married - and they forget about the other 230 guests im inviting! should i have taken a poll first? to see where the majority of my guests wanted the reception to be? its ridiculous and so rude - and one was even making wise comments about what happens if there is a snow storm (b/c of the drive - meantime these people have a weekend house in PA (that they drive over an hour to get to on the weekends) in the MOUNTAINS where it snows FEET) - my mom said if there is bad weather then i guess you wont come such jerks! oh and when they got married it was March - also has potential for bad weather - so what made his month better than mine?

sad but true but anyway it made me happy - at least someone is excited for our wedding

awww, that is so sweet!!! What a nice lady!

People will complain no matter what you do, so you do what makes YOU and FH happy!

What a nice surprise from that woman!!

it stinks that you have some family issues with location

That is sooo sweet of that lady!!!

Sometimes non-family are better than family when it comes to weddings....almost like they appreciate it more.

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Posted by bluekat16

That is sooo sweet of that lady!!!

Sometimes non-family are better than family when it comes to weddings....almost like they appreciate it more.

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abso-freaking-lutely!!!!!!!!!!!!

my FHs family is great - never complain, never make rude comments - they all look foward to the wedding (and not just ours, anyone in the family who is getting married), they like to party and have a good time - my family on the other hand - they are a bunch of miserable, complainers - i never realized how bad they were until i got to know my FHs family.....its almost like my family is obnoxious on purpose, its like they look for things to make comments about

I don't get whats wrong with some people. Is it that big of a deal to drive 40 mins somewhere they act like they have to travel to another country, just get over it. I know there are some people who only like to go local and hate going anywhere but seriously once in a blue moon won't hurt and should be nice to get out of your own environment once in a while. Ill drive 40 mins just to go to dinner or even just to go to a store, i never understand whats so hard about this.

And why are the complaining to you? do they think you're going to change the venue? it is what it is and thats it, just be happy for the couple and don't complain about such small stupid things, like the couple doesn't have enough to worry about.

Don't let them get to you, its probably just people who love complaining and have to find something to b*tch about.

You know how many times I heard.. 'omg the RH is so far'
I tried to explain to my mom that there was no in between town for everyone. We had people from Suff, Nass, Bklyn, NYC, NJ, CT... You cant please everyone. If they dont show b/c 'its a far drive' not your problem!!! If you want mention to stay over a night.
People

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Posted by SB7308

You know how many times I heard.. 'omg the RH is so far'
I tried to explain to my mom that there was no in between town for everyone. We had people from Suff, Nass, Bklyn, NYC, NJ, CT... You cant please everyone. If they dont show b/c 'its a far drive' not your problem!!! If you want mention to stay over a night.
People

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yea people are crazy - and i feel like i dont have to explain why we didnt want to get married at a reception hall in staten island or NJ (and there happens to be numerous reasons, #1 being that my FH works weeknds (at the DJ co for the last 7 years)and we did not the wedding to be at a venue that he has worked weddings at all the time - b/c who wants to get married where they work!?!?! but why should we even have to explain that?!?!?) - but yeah comments were made in front of me and also to my mom - and my mom thought it was rude too - oh and best part is, the person who had the most comments drives further to work than the drive is to our wedding!

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Posted by LoriBeth2728

A lot of my family members have no reason to not come but they're aren't coming anyway. It makes me mad but what can you do?

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I'm very curious to send out the invites to see who is actually attending.....it should be interesting! You want to know what - everything we are doing is because we want to do it, and its because its what we like and what we want - and its our day to enjoy and I think when it comes down to it I don't care about anyone but us - because its a day for us to celebrate our love and comittment - but in the meantime i still find myself getting annoyed or upset by people when im almost positive that the day of the wedding they won't even matter to me - ill be to busy enjoying myself with my husband