What is the nicest way to ask for money instead of gifts on the invitation?
dgtlsunshine
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Michelle you are hilarious. I wish that was the way weddings were done.
Misty
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Can I be honest here, this is the same reason I hate those 'mailboxes' that are made for receptions. I know a lot of girls on the site are going to use them, but JMHO, it implies this same thing. I went to one wedding where they used it, and someone at my table actually walked up and inserted a dollar!
Miro127
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i agree it'd be tacky to put that on the invite, but im glad you came here and asked the question! it will probably help out some othe brides and now you have a good sampling of people's opinions (no matter how 'harsh' some of them may have sounded!).
Scoop
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If people ask you, maybe you can hint that you have already received your necessary gifts for your shower. Otherwise, just bite the bullet. Most people give cash anyway.
SomedayBride
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we'll say we prefer a monetary donation but it doesnt really matter to us. Donation? How about gift? In all seriousness, in NY, you'll get more cash gifts than gift gifts, so don't worry about it.
EvenEdan
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I don't care for those mailboxes either, but they certainly aren't as blatant as stating money is preferred on the invite.
beachbride04
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balilove
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Shaini, we are not trying to jump down your throat, sorry if it sounds that way. You are doing the right thing by not putting it on the invit. On a funny note, I went to a wedding in the Midwest once, being from NY and always giving money when I got to the reception I noticed that several of the people were carrying gifts that looked like Pyrex dishes. When we went to the buffet line to eat, the food was in something that looked like a trough, the cake was already cut and wrapped in a napkin. The icing was all over the napkin--nasty. I looked at my boyfriend at the time and said, 'hold me down honey or I am going to run back to that gift table for my card---I put $200 in it and that was in the early 90's---he said..'I'll race you...' Take it in stride you will get plenty of money on LI, for some reason it is the way of the wedding there. Good Luck!!!
Jenn524
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You could also register at a place like Bed Bath & Beyond and then return the gifts for the cash. You will most likely wind up with cash and a couple of people may give you gifts. From what I hear money is the most popular gifts and a lot of people know that in today's day the couple is paying for the wedding.
Bride2be03
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YOU WILL PROBABLY GET MOSTLY MONEY ANYWAY.
wacky
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Dont ever ask for anything on ivitation, its not very proper.
JMO
Misty
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If you want, you can have my FMIL. She ran around telling everyone she invited to our EParty that 'the kids need cash!'!
Totally mortified.
gracejilly
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Welcome to the board American Police...
07052002
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Gracejilly, you should probably just forum mail Susan rather then post, that is being just as rude as you think she was..
Sonicstef
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Grace: I dont think this is an area where anything less than harsh words are in order. Asking for gifts at all in an invitation (cash or otherwise) is not appropriate. In terms of etiquette, there really are no ifs,ands or butts about this topic.
Since the original question was What is the nicest way to ask for money instead of gifts on the invitation? it certainly sounded like she had already decided to ask on the invitation and was looking for input on how to word it nicely. I think Susans was just trying to get the message across as clearly as possible.
gracejilly
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Kinder words can get a point across just as clearly...
Let's agree to disagree....Peace.
antoinette
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sorry- i wouldnt indicate this on the invite- you might wind up with nothing at all. I definelty wanted money instead of gifts and i basically got just that. I think i got 2 presents in addition to money- but basically everyone gave money- and i didnt say anything before hand.
Fletch
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Although I agree that putting this on the invitation is inappropriate, I do think that americanpolice was only asking for advice and some of the responses were harsh. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but some of the responses could have been nicer. JMO
americanpolice
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its ok. i was just lookin for advice. lets not make a bigger issue over this topic any longer. thanks.
dgtlsunshine
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Good I am glad you found no offense b/c I definately did not mean any harm. You will be fine. 500 people wedding plenty of cash coming your way anyway.
