Re: Nice way to ask for money instead of gifts.

I just saw your post over on the vendor board. That is an excellent rate you got there! Who you go the quote from. We had the escalade and we paid a 1k for 4 hours. We used zeller limousine but I don't recommend them

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where do you live, are you not from long island? just asking, because 99.9% of the time money is given, usually only out of state people who aren't used to LI weddings (no pun intended, lol) will bring a gift. don't even worry about it!

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my FH family is from westchester and out of state. after thinking about this, i guess most ppl will give money instead.

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I don't get it, if you are looking for ways to cut down cost to pay for the wedding, why not cut down the guest list? I don't think there is a 'nice' way to ask for money. However, I agree what someone else said (sorry don't remember who) Bed, Bath & Beyond offers a cash refund I think that might be your best option.

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I hope this is helpful advice...do not spend overspend money on your wedding and count on your wedding gifts. Not everyone is etiquette conscious.

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Americanpolice you have forum mail.

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WHy would you dare have a wedding with 500 people if you can't afford it...

Make it within reason!

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Don't worry about the harshness of the posts. There are some issues that most of us feel pretty strongly about and you stumbled upon one of them. If you really want money, then I would have your bridal party and parents spread the word. I am not even sure that I would tell someone if asked directly that I want money. But I am always hesitant to tell someone what to get for me, even for b-day and x-mas, becuase I don't want to offend.

It is your wedding and you can spend as much as you want on it. That is none of anyone's business. However, if your plan is to pay the wedding off with the money you receive as gifts, you might want to rethink your budget, becuase that is most likely not going to happen.

Happy planning and welcome to our world!

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The reason we have 500 is not by choice. We have a large number of family and friends and these are ppl WE HAVE to invite. Its just one of those things we cant really control. Not to mention, our contract is for 500 ppl so we've been pretty strict about our guest list. We've already cut 100 ppl to meet that 500 goal.

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Never never never ask fro money! You can have friends and family help spread the word, but never mention gifts or money on a weding invite!

At our wedding, we got 90% cash gifts. We were surprsed how generous everyone was. The few guests that did give gifts either got them off our registry or chose something I would have liked. I only wound up with 2 items that we did not care for.
A few of the guests who did give gifts were students and were kind of tight on cash, so we were not insulted or anything.

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I don't think there is any way to ask nicely for it. The best thing you can do is try to spread it word of mouth through family or something. JMO

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Oh that guest list gets us all the time. We had a long guest list after much hard work we got it to a little over 300 and thank God we got married July 7 and lost a good amount of people that went on vacation or had plans or whatever. We ended up with about 250.

Hey is 500 including everyone you invite? I ask because if you definately have to pay for 500 plates I would invite a little over 500 to make sure you end up with 500 at the reception.

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I missed this topic.

Please do not do this, for all of the reasons stated.

Also, if you come out and blatantly ask, that is a sure way for people not to give you money as they will be so turned off.

I strongly suggest you register, but not doing so you are running the risk of getting gifts that you may not like.

Good Luck!!!

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Americanpolice: Where are you getting married?

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Just a thought ladies, a lot of times when posting we tend to say things a bit harshly- if someone asked you this question in person, would you really say these things to her face? I think that AmericanPolice was asking a question- obviously she has more opinions than she probably ever wanted. Lets try and play nice, and not write anything that we would not say to someone in person. Some of these responses are pretty over the top.

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I went back and read my post, and then reread through this thread again, and then reread the question and I don't think that I was being 'harsh' but that's just me.
AND
IF ANYONE asked me this question in person,
I would reply with EXACTLY the same response that I posted.

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I agree that some of us need to be less harsh with our words. That does not mean you can't give your opinion, just think about how your response is perceived by others.

Stay blessed everyone.