Nieces and Nephews

swags1016 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 09:26 PM

Nieces and Nephews

Do you think that it is ok for nephews, who are not in the bridal party to wear tuxedos?

Do you think it is ok for nieces who are not in the wedding party to wear dresses that are the same or very similar color to the bridal party?

(Their parents are all in the bridal party)

aliasPook Posted: Jun 03, 2003 09:30 PM

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I think it would be fine. They are an important part of your family!!!

Dani00518 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 09:31 PM

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I think that if thats what you want then of course it is fine...It is your day and you do whatever you want...don't worry about anyone else

swags1016 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 09:36 PM

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I am asking because I was not asked, I was told.

eternityawaits Posted: Jun 03, 2003 09:37 PM

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It's ok, but you should only do it because it's something YOU want to do - it's your day.

julybride444 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 09:41 PM

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I think it's fine, as long as it's ok with YOU and their parents

swags1016 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 10:03 PM

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Well, I guess there is nothing that I can say since they went and did it without me. Oh well, those are my FSILs I have to get used to it.

Dani00518 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 10:20 PM

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oh...then if that is not what you want then put your foot down...it's your wedding...I knoe they will be your FSIL and you don't want to cause any problems but as FSIL they should understand that it is your day and they should be more considerate.

ChristineC68 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 10:35 PM

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If you don't want them in these outfits, I would ask the parents to return them. They have no right to inofficially intrude on your wedding party.

This was something I put my foot down on. Everyone was saying how cute they will look, but I did not want anyone thinking they were involved with the wedding party in any way.

butterfly20 Posted: Jun 03, 2003 11:53 PM

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that sounds like a nice idea to have them dress up..and great for pictures too..

.but if it was there idea and they 'told you'.. maybe they want to make it look like there kids are in the bridal party?? I think if they dress up.. they should definately be able to be told apart from any kids in the bridal party...they definately should not be in the same/similar color

bottom line.. its your wedding do what you feel like doing...

EvenEdan Posted: Jun 04, 2003 12:10 AM

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I have seven nieces and nephews, all of which will be in my bridal party, but if for whatever reason they could not be in my bridal party I would still want all of them dressed formally. I love each one of them so much and want them recognized at my wedding.

WithThisRing Posted: Jun 04, 2003 12:17 AM

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My cousin who is my only cousin on my dad's side will be 14 and my uncle is putting him in a tux. I dont have any objections. I think its fine. I cant wait to see my little cousin in a tux and I definatly cant wait to take a pic with him.

gpsyeyes Posted: Jun 04, 2003 08:22 AM

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i have the same situation. i got a phone call from my fh's brother who first asked me who was in my wedding party and then said 'what about my girls (he has three) are they in it?' I said no, that it is limited to my sisters and my two future stepdaughters. Well, he then asked what color the bm's were wearing so i told him. He said 'i'll have to make sure i dress my girls in that color too!' I didn't say anything, but my fh told him that this was not acceptable. Plus, his daughters were telling their cousin (my f-stepdaughter) that they were in the wedding party. Where else did they get that but from their father! He is strange, anyway, but my fh will make sure this is straigtened out. I don't want them in the same colors or to think they are in the bridal party. We both have big families and had to narrow it down and left a lot out. Besides, I ended up changing the color of the dresses (unintentionally) so, as of now, he does not know what color I am using!!) Good luck!