No Garter or Bok toss????

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Posted by bonch20

we're doing an anniversary dance

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Debi did the anniversary dance too!!!!! Mary MOB

I also feel that this tradition is becoming uncomfortable for most people, plus it takes away from a lot of dancing time. Unless you are both entertainers it is boring. My mom and sister are upset that we aren't doing it, but oh well others are thanking me!

We are doing the Anniversary dance, but I know who will win so we are bringing two gifts (probably champagne and flowers which will help decorate the head table for awhile!).

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Posted by bonch20

we're doing an anniversary dance

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we did the same thing and let me tell you it was a huge hit!

We didn't do the garter/bouquet toss......we used that time to just party it up even more!

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by trinisweetness

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Posted by bonch20

we're doing an anniversary dance

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Does the bride and groom dance along with others for the anniversary dance?

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No, you basically would watch.

You have all the married couples (you can do all couples if you want) come up and dance, and then they count down years.....people who are married less then 1 year sit, 5 years, 10 years and so on until the last couple standing has been together the longest amount of years-then you would give them the bok & garter if you wish, a friend of mine gave them her bok and a gift-I think it was a frame

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Okay...I have a better idea now. thanks

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Posted by hogie2be

I also feel that this tradition is becoming uncomfortable for most people, plus it takes away from a lot of dancing time. Unless you are both entertainers it is boring. My mom and sister are upset that we aren't doing it, but oh well others are thanking me!

We are doing the Anniversary dance, but I know who will win so we are bringing two gifts (probably champagne and flowers which will help decorate the head table for awhile!).

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good idea!!

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Posted by bonch20

we're doing an anniversary dance

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Us too, because my parents hit 50 years a month before!

i didn't do either.

for the bok toss - i gave single roses to the single women in my life (we had less than 10 at the wedding). i preferred to make it classy than have them all jump for a frickin' boquet...i kinda don't like that tradition...

ETA: i gave a duplicate of my boquet to a close friend of mine who was the next to get married...it was a tradition started by my MOH at her wedding...she passed ME her boquet...

what song are you using for anniversary dance!! I like that idea too.....

I love all these ideas - I agree with most of you that the tradition is uncomfortable for most people. I saw a wedding where the DJ went on and on for like 20 minutes embarrassing the man (I should say Boy- he was sooo young) and lady who caught the garter/bo-k and I knew I def didn't want that.

The only problem with doing the anniversary dance is that all the girls in my BP are unmarried. Would they be upset about not getting to jump for the bo-k? Any ideas on how to incorporate another tradition for the single ladies too? Maybe give the bo-k to oldest couple and individual roses to the single women?

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Posted by betani

i'm just giving mine to my mom. i'm not too keen on people killing each other for flowers or men scrambling after something that is essentially a piece of my underwear.

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Lol! Well put..

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by trinisweetness

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Posted by bonch20

we're doing an anniversary dance

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Does the bride and groom dance along with others for the anniversary dance?

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No, you basically would watch.

You have all the married couples (you can do all couples if you want) come up and dance, and then they count down years.....people who are married less then 1 year sit, 5 years, 10 years and so on until the last couple standing has been together the longest amount of years-then you would give them the bok & garter if you wish, a friend of mine gave them her bok and a gift-I think it was a frame

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We did this for our wedding - it was spectacular I love it