no gift from guests, now they're getting married...

no gift from guests, now they're getting married...

DH's friends are getting married in a few weeks. We'll be traveling out of state to the wedding. They traveled out of state to ours. We didn't get so much as a card from them at our wedding. She was invited to my shower and spent about $20. I wasn't invited to hers. What to do? I know I should do the 'right' thing and give a gift, right?

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yea be the bigger person and give a gift. nothing too fancy though.

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Yup, Steph's right. Be the bigger person and maybe she'll realize she should've given a gift. You'll feel better knowing you did the right thing, but really nothing crazy, don't over-do it.

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i think its fair to give them what they gave you. i don't think its spiteful - you only have so much money and you have to choose how you spend it. spend it on those who are generous with you.

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I agree, sometimes you have to be the bigger person. I would just keep it simple and get something from the registry.

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if i were in your position, traveling oot and all, i would just give her a card w/$50...its $50 more than she gave you.

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Are you even close with them? If you're not and you're only going to the wedding because they came to yours, then I'd only get them a card. If you don't see them again or only rarely, then who cares what they think. If you see them often, then I guess you should get them a present, but I personally would not. I know it's better to be the bigger person, but they didn't seem to mind not getting you anything...

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i agree...

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Posted by stephanielyse

I'm a big believer in being the bigger person. I'd give a card and a gift from the registry. Nothing crazy expensive, but not too cheap.

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I totally agree. I also beleive in What goes around comes around
I would be not TOO TOO generous but defintely do not do what she did.

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I'm going to disagree with the majority on this one. I would give a card and thats it. No money. They knew better when they went to your wedding and they should know to expect nothing from you now.

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i agree with Jenn esp. because you'd be spending $$ to travel there.

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Posted by cookiemonster

i agree with Jenn esp. because you'd be spending $$ to travel there.

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I agree too. You are spending alot of money to get there. Let you presence be your gift

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Yup-card, inexpensive gift from registry.

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i guess for me its more like why didnt they give a gift...if it was because of financial situations then its a different story...im assuming thats not the case...then either just a card or a card and something small off the registry....but no $

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i agree.... with you , JUST a nice card...