Not really WR, When do you expect a thank you

Not really WR, When do you expect a thank you

At what point after a wedding or event do you start thinking it's weird if you haven't received a thank you. My cousin got married 2 years ago, and we NEVER got a thank you. My other cousin got married in November..no thank you yet. I think that's totally odd

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I think it is weird afer three months. There are a few weddings I am still waiting for thank you's.

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I mena seriously, all of these people took the time to come to your wedding, I don't think it tkaes 6 months to write out thank yous, that's just so completely rude to me.

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Posted by marymoon

I mena seriously, all of these people took the time to come to your wedding, I don't think it tkaes 6 months to write out thank yous, that's just so completely rude to me.

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i am in the process of finishing my TY's and i am over 6 mos...

oh well

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2 weddings in FEB- got one two weeks later and still waiting on the 2nd

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After 6 monhts, I start to wonder. I took us about 3-4 months, waiting for pictures. I went to a wedding 5 years a go & never got a thank you. I wonder if they have my new address.

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I'm still waiting for two from last summer.

I'd say after 3 or 4 months. There may have been a problem waiting for the pictures or something.

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I got a thank you card from a friend's shower and wedding 2 1/2 yrs. later. She is kinda flakey (She didn't know she was pregnant until she was 5 mths. ) but, 2 1/2 yrs. why bother after that much time.

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Posted by marymoon

I mena seriously, all of these people took the time to come to your wedding, I don't think it tkaes 6 months to write out thank yous, that's just so completely rude to me.

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I am guilty of mailing out my last few T/Y cards earlier this week (gulp almost six months later ) I really took a lot of time and wrote personal notes to everyone....that's what took me so long! I'm not the most creative writer!

We went to a wedding last May and still haven't gotten a T/Y....I figured as long as mine went out before hers I was OK.

OK enough excuses...I know it took longer than it should have, but at least I'm done
now.




ETA...I did not get my T/Y cards and pictures until the end of January. Also, I had to write out 140 T/Y's and I ran out of cards (thanks JodiJohn for saving me here!).

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Honestly I think as long as you get a thank you within a year, that's perfectly acceptable

3-4 month USED to be the rule but honestly, I think that is passe (well at least to me it is). Sometimes it just takes a lot longer to get pictures, etc. and its not POSSIBLE to get your thank yous out.

ETA: I have to make this comment, especialy for those not married yet - trust me, writing out 75-100 thank yous is NOT exactly as quick and painless and easy as you think it will be . We're all busy, and its very time consuing. Your opinions might drastically change when your time comes

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Posted by marymoon

A YEAR! I have to disagree. I think 6 months HAD to be the upper limit. Even if you're writing a persoanl note. If you have 100mTY;s to write even if you write ONE a DAY that's only 3 mos. I can understand waiting for pictures though..although if you're getting slip ins they cna give you the vcards ahead of time..

Ok so I guess it's not rare to have it take a long time..

but o you think that if you don't get one within 6 mos or a year do you start to assume they either didn't get the gift, or they divorced or something?

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We agree to disagree, then

And to me, no its not rare to get a thank you 6 months or later.. probably because 90% of my family and friends HAVE sent them in that timeframe, so I guess it doesn't shock or surprise me *shrug* I would consider anything past 1 year to be a bit ridiculous, however. And yes 2 1/2 yrs is just stooopid

But no, I wouldn't at all assume the couple didn't get the gift or were divorcing based on a thank you being later than you consider acceptable. I always give a check anyhow, and once that check comes back cashed I know the couple got it

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Well I'm thinking I haven't heard form the people who were married in july 03..no thank you at all...I gave cash..so who knows if they cashed it? My mind is like...something happenned to them

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I have to add that I think I'm a little obsessive abut this, more than most. I was raised that if somsone gets you a gift, you send a thank you card promptly. My mom always made me do it, so it's in my head. I sent out engagement gift thank yous right away, within a day or two of getting the gifts

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I dont know but I grew up in a home where we wrote thank you notes for everything. I know my life will be nothing short of chaotic but I plan on writing the thank you notes as soon as I get home from my honeymoon - though I am sure it will be easier said than done.

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I am crazy, when I was addressing invites, I was also adressing TY's at the same time, same lists. So all the envelopes were ready, and once I got pics, they were out in the mail within 3 weeks. I hate to have this ligering in my head.

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I think even with everything going on, one should be able to get the thank you notes out in under the 6 month mark. I wrote out at least 70 and it did take a long time, but I felt is was important to get them out ASAP.