Not the usual 'and guest' question...

coldasice217 Posted: May 27, 2009 09:39 PM

Not the usual 'and guest' question...

So we are inviting FH's Aunt's in laws to the wedding (it's just the way they roll lol). They are elderly, and require a nurse aide at all times for FH's Aunt's MIL. We are obviously inviting the aide a) because we need to and b) because she takes care of them.

But what's the appropriate way to indicate this? Mr. & Mrs. X & Guest (allowing them to assume we mean the nurse?), Mr. & Mrs. X & aide? Mr. & Mrs. X & Nurse?

Or just Mr. & Mrs. X and let it just say 'three seats have been reserved for you...' on the personalized rsvp card?

MrsGRod09 Posted: May 27, 2009 09:43 PM

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I would send the invite to them like this Mr. & Mrs. X & Guest because they will know that the Guest is meant for the aide.

meara Posted: May 27, 2009 09:45 PM

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or if you knew her name you could add it to the inside envelope

so Mr and Mrs x
guest name

coldasice217 Posted: May 27, 2009 09:51 PM

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Posted by meara

or if you knew her name you could add it to the inside envelope

so Mr and Mrs x
guest name

Well, the problem there is it's not always the same nurse, so while I do know one of their name's, there's no saying she'll be with them that day.

Jna2010 Posted: May 27, 2009 09:57 PM

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could you send her a separate invite to avoid confusion? or is that really stange lol

Lau0614 Posted: May 27, 2009 09:59 PM

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i wouldnt worry about putting it on the invite just call them and let them know that the nurse is invited

xosweetiexo Posted: May 27, 2009 10:00 PM

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I would do Mr. & Mrs. X and guest and I would def. have FH call his aunts and make it clear to them that by guest you guys meant nurse lol Would he call or FMIL could?

CAM1223 Posted: May 27, 2009 10:01 PM

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Posted by meara

or if you knew her name you could add it to the inside envelope

so Mr and Mrs x
guest name

I agree. If you know the nurses name, then you can include her on the invitation. That would probably be the easiest way.

coldasice217 Posted: May 27, 2009 10:10 PM

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Posted by xosweetiexo

I would do Mr. & Mrs. X and guest and I would def. have FH call his aunts and make it clear to them that by guest you guys meant nurse lol Would he call or FMIL could?

I'm sure FMIL will handle it...I think I'm going to put 'guest' for now, unless I get a guarantee of the name of the nurse that day. It would be degrading a little to say 'and nurse', right?

xosweetiexo Posted: May 27, 2009 10:24 PM

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Posted by coldasice217

Posted by xosweetiexo

I would do Mr. & Mrs. X and guest and I would def. have FH call his aunts and make it clear to them that by guest you guys meant nurse lol Would he call or FMIL could?

I'm sure FMIL will handle it...I think I'm going to put 'guest' for now, unless I get a guarantee of the name of the nurse that day. It would be degrading a little to say 'and nurse', right?

Yea, I dont think putting nurse would sound too nice. Putting the name would be the best, if it is guaranteed that she will be the one working that day... but guest would sound good too

KerriJohnS Posted: May 27, 2009 10:30 PM

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why not just write mr and mrs x and mrs x? does the nurse have a name?

KerriJohnS Posted: May 27, 2009 10:31 PM

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haha i meant to write do you know her name??! 1 hahaha!

im leaving that post there becuase its funny to me.

in any case... i didnt read all the other suggestions...a nd now i see they also think you should write her name. so i'll say ITA with the other girls!

JennyAPH Posted: May 28, 2009 08:55 AM

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I think personally I would just put Mr. & Mrs. X and then have it say 3 seats have been reserved for you and just call them and give them a heads up that the 3rd seat is for their aide.

Kimbalina Posted: May 28, 2009 08:57 AM

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Posted by JennyAPH

I think personally I would just put Mr. & Mrs. X and then have it say 3 seats have been reserved for you and just call them and give them a heads up that the 3rd seat is for their aide.

This is what I would do also. Have whomever is related to them call and let them know. They will aprreciate the invite

MLAngelo Posted: May 28, 2009 09:02 AM

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I don't know if they would know and guest is meant for the aide.

For my grandfather we sent the aid a separate invitation because she has been with him for 9 years. If you know the aids names I would just put their name on the invitation.

For FH's dad, well obviously they close enough to the wedding that we just told them to bring one. You could always do that, just make it word of mouth.

If you want it on the invitation, I would say put it on the inner envelope if you have one as 'and aid' but not on the outer envelope. if you don't have an inner envelope then I would probably write and guest but talk to them and make sure they know who the guest is implying.

sharivera Posted: May 28, 2009 11:08 AM

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I would ask them the aid & nurse's name and put their name on the invite.

Espo22 Posted: May 28, 2009 11:12 AM

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we did this for dh's grandmother, her aide went with her everywhere, it was the same one.

You don't have to send an invite if its a different one all the time. You can just speak to one of the aide's, let them know about the wedding and that someone needs to go with her.

Juhgail Posted: May 28, 2009 11:30 AM

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My uncle has a home health aide. Its the same woman who took care of my grandmother before she passed. So I think I might put MrX on the envelope, but put MrX and Zippy on the inside.

Yes, her name is Zippy. She loved and cared from my grandma for a year and a half before she passed away. When my unles needed help we called her in again. So its nice to have this woman share in some of the good when she took such good care of my grandma :)

gina409 Posted: May 28, 2009 11:38 AM

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Posted by JennyAPH

I think personally I would just put Mr. & Mrs. X and then have it say 3 seats have been reserved for you and just call them and give them a heads up that the 3rd seat is for their aide.

ita

coldasice217 Posted: May 28, 2009 12:15 PM

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Posted by gina409

Posted by JennyAPH

I think personally I would just put Mr. & Mrs. X and then have it say 3 seats have been reserved for you and just call them and give them a heads up that the 3rd seat is for their aide.

ita

I think I'm leaning towards this now....I'll have to run it by the closer family members, and I'm sure they'll take care of the word of mouth.

Thanks girls!