is there anything different that you will do when you have a daughter who's wedding you will be contributing towards??
DaniandKen2010
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I will have a wedding fund set up for her so she does not have to worry about the expense.
christine2010
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Last night FH & I where talking about the cost of the wedding & how lucky we are that our families are helping us, even if its in their own strict way. I made a comment about how, by the time we get married FH & I will be together for 10 years & I think my parents planned very poorly about saving for a wedding.
So, we decided that if we do have a daughter we will put away a certain amount of money every year that will go towards her wedding. If she is not married by 30 then we will give her the money to use towards the purchase of a home.
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Posted by christine2010
Last night FH & I where talking about the cost of the wedding & how lucky we are that our families are helping us, even if its in their own strict way. I made a comment about how, by the time we get married FH & I will be together for 10 years & I think my parents planned very poorly about saving for a wedding.
So, we decided that if we do have a daughter we will put away a certain amount of money every year that will go towards her wedding. If she is not married by 30 then we will give her the money to use towards the purchase of a home.
good idea!
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I plan to do EXACTLY what my parents did. When my sisters and I were each born, they set up two accounts for each of us: a wedding fund and a college fund. I have been lucky enough that I didn't need to take out any loans for college, and my parents are paying the bulk of the wedding costs.
I would love to be able to give my children the same luxuries.
AdriandSteve
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I will do something similar to what my parents did. Put $ aside in a cd and just let it grow and grow. All $ will be put in there that is received from communions etc.
My parents did it but with a stock I'm hoping it'll go up cuz right now... waa waa....
MarjorieFrank
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I definitely want to contribute around/at least 50% to either my son or my daughter's weddings. It will help out my children so much, and I honestly think that that is what a parent's job is to do. I couldn't just sit back and watch my kids fall into so much debt.
GiannisWifey
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I also hope to be able to give to my kids what my parents have given to me and my sister....FH and I plan to do the same....start off when they are young and put aside as much as we can each year for college and the wedding this way, they won't have to stress out about taking student loans and personal loans for college and weddings!!
little j
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i will try to be as involved as my children want me to be, as soon as they want me to be!
drivwal
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Personally, I think that weddings are a luxury nowadays. I would have LOVED for my mother to pay even a cent for my college education but she is contributing more to my wedding than my education. Sounds crazy to me. In my opinion....I would rather make a dent in education first rather than put money aside for a lavish wedding. I will help in ways that I can such as buying her a beautiful dress, pay for her invitations, veil, any other vendors that I could afford. I would love if my daughter would accept my wedding dress and wear it or use it as a template to design her own dress. If i have more than one daughter than that notion will be tweaked a little but possibly they would want to wear my dress and veil. I would pay for prob all vendors if they wore my dress simply because it would even out either way.
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Posted by Lsorrent
I plan to do EXACTLY what my parents did. When my sisters and I were each born, they set up two accounts for each of us: a wedding fund and a college fund. I have been lucky enough that I didn't need to take out any loans for college, and my parents are paying the bulk of the wedding costs.
I would love to be able to give my children the same luxuries.
Same here - Plus I would want to be more involved in her planning - my mom is not really into it
soontobecruz
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I pray I don't have girls.... and if I do I pray they are not like me... lol
Its2Snappy
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Why only for daughters, what about sons? I know the tradition was that a father usually pays for a daughter's wedding. But, look at all of us who are paying for our own weddings, isn't that idea a little antiquated?
I plan to have college funds for all of my children. If I can putting wedding money aside as well, so be it. If not, then I'll contribute as much as I can when the time comes.
MikesBride2B
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I don't really know. We'll put away for their education and I suppose whatever is left over in there will be for the wedding.
Hopefully we'll be really well off and we won't have to worry about it
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I pray I don't have girls.... and if I do I pray they are not like me... lol
You should talk to Mike......he's telling me we're not having girls......
M_Berk-Glenn
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I plan to do EXACTLY what my parents did. When my sisters and I were each born, they set up two accounts for each of us: a wedding fund and a college fund. I have been lucky enough that I didn't need to take out any loans for college, and my parents are paying the bulk of the wedding costs.
I would love to be able to give my children the same luxuries.
if we decide to have a child we will have money set aside for them for school a house and a wedding
KatieG2010
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my parents paid for their own wedding... fh's parents paid for their own wedding and we are paying for our own wedding. I rather set up a future fund for my daughter for college or something other then a party...my parents put a roof over my head, paid for 20 years of catholic school- i think thats enough
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Posted by KatieG2010
my parents paid for their own wedding... fh's parents paid for their own wedding and we are paying for our own wedding. I rather set up a future fund for my daughter for college or something other then a party...my parents put a roof over my head, paid for 20 years of catholic school- i think thats enough
ITA same scenario for us....
christine2010
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we each where personally responsible for our own college tuition. it took me 7 years to finish college & it will take FH 9 years to finish school.
my parents sent me to private school from per-k to 12th grade & FH went to private high school. that cost our parents more then enough money in education.
