NWR: (a little long) Upset...

dancinmyazoff Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:41 PM

NWR: (a little long) Upset...

FSIL calls me up and says that her and Rocco are going to throw a surprise party for their parents 25th wedding anniversary. It's going to be at my house and it's going to be on the 8th at 4:00...they already decided on everything definitely. WELL Rocco doesn't know yet but I bought him tickets to see Lisa Lampanelli on the 8th in Connecticut. I was going to make a whole nice day out of it. I told FSIL what I had planned and she said 'oooh no that's the only day we can do it'. So I said nicely well I guess I'm going to have to sell the tickets...but I really don't want to. He's been dying to see her in person for the longest time and now I'm really upset. I didn't want to be the guilty party and say well we already have something to do that day so you can't have the party...but then again why couldn't he have called me up and mentioned something about it before THEY made it definite at our house. I could have nicely said to Rocco, well babe I have something planned for your birthday that night so could we (A) do it a little earlier that day or (B) do it on another day????

Now I don't know what to do

mao0426 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:43 PM

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Can you still ask him to do it earlier?

yelley77 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:43 PM

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that is a really tough predicament... Someone should have called you first. Especially since it is at your house!

lilangel369 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:43 PM

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oh that stinks!! what time is the show? maybe do the party early like noonish .. so u guys can still make it to the show?

kellybean Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:43 PM

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Let FH know what you have planned or that you have a suprise planned and see how he wants to handle it ......

iwannabmrsD Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:43 PM

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aww... i think u may have to tell him what u had planned.. and leave it up to him to decide if he wants to rearrange the date.. cause if u don't and just sell the tickets then that's kind of sucky too u know..
hugs...

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:46 PM

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Posted by kellybean

Let FH know what you have planned or that you have a suprise planned and see how he wants to handle it ......

ditto... tell him first.

And then tell him he's an asss for not going over it with you! Hello! It's your home too!

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:48 PM

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

Posted by kellybean

Let FH know what you have planned or that you have a suprise planned and see how he wants to handle it ......

ditto... tell him first.

And then tell him he's an asss for not going over it with you! Hello! It's your home too!

i ditto this idea...

florezpeeps Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:51 PM

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i can't believe they didn't involve you in the planning from the beginning , because of that i would really pushhhh them into another date & let your plans take presidence as a surprise still, but you might have to tell him in the end bc he won't understand why you didn't want that day, sorry your surprise got stunk up

florezpeeps Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:53 PM

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Espo22 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 03:55 PM

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that really stinks...tell your Fh and then let him decide after what to do. And let him know that next time he should run things by you first.

dancinmyazoff Posted: Aug 20, 2007 04:00 PM

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Ok well I just called FH and I said that I would have really appreciated to have been part of the planning process being it's our house and not just his and that I had 'something planned' for that day if we can make it earlier. He got kinda 'snippy' (for lack of better words) with me and said well if you don't want to come then you don't have to. Well then I felt really bad and said well it was something for you.... Then he said did you say anything so my sister....I said yes...then he said he'd call me back. So again...now I don't know what's going on??

Jesses Girl Posted: Aug 20, 2007 04:07 PM

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im sorry for that.

i can believe that they would do a party without asking you first.

i dunno what id do in that situation..so i cant be of help =(

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Aug 20, 2007 04:10 PM

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Posted by dancinmyazoff

Ok well I just called FH and I said that I would have really appreciated to have been part of the planning process being it's our house and not just his and that I had 'something planned' for that day if we can make it earlier. He got kinda 'snippy' (for lack of better words) with me and said well if you don't want to come then you don't have to. Well then I felt really bad and said well it was something for you.... Then he said did you say anything so my sister....I said yes...then he said he'd call me back. So again...now I don't know what's going on??

STUPID man.

You and I will go to Lisa Lampanelli. Fuckk em.

liangel901 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 04:17 PM

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Posted by dancinmyazoff

Ok well I just called FH and I said that I would have really appreciated to have been part of the planning process being it's our house and not just his and that I had 'something planned' for that day if we can make it earlier. He got kinda 'snippy' (for lack of better words) with me and said well if you don't want to come then you don't have to. Well then I felt really bad and said well it was something for you.... Then he said did you say anything so my sister....I said yes...then he said he'd call me back. So again...now I don't know what's going on??

maybe since you told him that you told his sister, he is calling her to defend you. i think if its possible, try to make the party early in the day, that way you still have the evening. good luck!

Espo22 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 04:20 PM

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I am sure they can do it another day, she probably just doesnt want to at the moment...She needs to understand its not just your FH's house its BOTH your houses and im sure she wouldn't like if you threw a party at her house and didn't tell her. Tell her you are sorry but you paid for tickets already for that night as a gift to Rocco and if you were consulted from the beginning like you should have been you could all have avoided all of this.

lilangel369 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 04:21 PM

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he loves you so no worries ... everything will be fine ...

AMGBride2008 Posted: Aug 20, 2007 04:24 PM

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First... let him know that it's your house too, and not to start a fight, but you really deserve to be let in on plan of this nature.

Second... maybe talk to FSIL about having a brunch or something like that that's earlier in the day so that your LL plans aren't ruined.

klanghan Posted: Aug 21, 2007 12:47 AM

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Posted by yelley77

that is a really tough predicament... Someone should have called you first. Especially since it is at your house!

why didn't they ask first if its at YOUR place?? I'm confused. (I think I would be pissed too)

bemyyoko Posted: Aug 21, 2007 12:57 AM

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are you kidding me??
If someone was planning a surprise party at my house, and it wasnt for me, and they didnt tell me about it.. I'd be SUPER PISSED.

He shouldnt have gotten snippy with you either, it is YOUR house too. For him to tell you that you don't have to come is ridiculous. Again... I'd be SUPER PISSED.

I don't mean to fan the fire or anything, I just don't understand how this situation developed at all, and it makes me angry that he would get snippy with you for being upset.

He loves you, and you love him, and this whole thing will ultimately work out in the end... I'm just sorry you hafta deal with it.