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I dont know why, but I feel like I need to have my first baby by the time I'm 30! Am I crazy?
I totally don't feel any pressure. I am more worried about passing the bar and my job with a judge. Right now I feel like my FH and I have to work on building a strong foundation (emotionally and financially) before we can even start thinking about kiddos.
I don't feel pressure, but I will probably have at least one child by the time I'm 30, simply because FH and I will be ready for that stage in our lives. We've been together for almost 9 years and will be 28 and 26 when we get married. I'm going to go back to school to get my Masters and when I'm done, we will probably try to have our first, so that's still 2 years or so off.
not crazy... fh wants to have a baby earlier on so he can teach them sports and all while he still feels young...
When i am going to be married i am going to be 20 and my fh 21. I am Hoping that we can have a kid by the time i am 22.
I'll be 36 next week and I always thought I would have children by the time I was 25!!!!
I will be getting married 3 months before I turn 30 so I am not pressured to have a child yet. I couldn't even imagine the responsibility of that right now. I would like to have kids before I am 40 though.
I kind of do but not really. I would like to just have 3 more dogs but my FH (I am new with the abbreviations-hope that means future husband) wants 2 kids someday. So I will have them, and if I have to then I want them by 33ish.
Well said - at 31, I couldn't agree more!
Posted by oct.2004bride
Wow i am 30 and i still don't feel the pressure...
And presonally i think it is sad that girls in their 20's feel any pressure what so every. I mean really i am 30 and i am freaking out. I keep thiking...
Am i ready?
Can i afford it?
CAN I AFFORD TO RAISE A CHILD THE WAY I WANT TO??????
Ect.
How can you feel pressure when you have soooo many things to do???Personally i feel it is my obligation to a child to be READY to take care of it!!
I do, but I put it on myself. I worry about fertility problems, so I don't want to wait too long.
yes and no...i feel pressure by my mom, who can't wait to be a grandma..and i feel pressure by myself b/c i want to be a mom. fh is 30 and he'd like a baby soon, but we don't have $$$ or a house or even health insurance. i have a cavity that is being neglected so that shows us that we are not ready for a baby! i understand the pressure but i can honestly say that we are not ready and therefore must ignore any societal pressures on this subject! humans are lucky b/c we can bring kids into the world when we choose. what i don't want is to bring a baby into this world and not be able to give it everything and i don't mean $$ to give it toys or fashionable clothes. i mean every baby and child deserves a healthy life, good food, a clean home, a roof over his or her head, the right to an education, parents who are around...the basics, and if we can't do that, then we are not ready!
Posted by Sunshine128
I hear that! I've been so lost since my mom died.... my poor FH would be playing parent to both me and our child! LOLOL......
No. I'm 24 now. Maybe when I'm 26/27. I want to enjoy married life first. And who knows if I'll even have kids? I can predict perhaps having a houseful of dogs, but not sure about kids.
wouldn't say that I feel pressured, but I'd have one right now if I could! I love babies/kids and can't wait......just hoping I'll be able to (keep your fingers crossed for me)!
I am hoping to have my first between 27 and 30, so I don't think you are crazy!
