NWR: How involved are you in your niece/nephews lives?
Hi ladies,
Here's a little back ground...I have 1 sister who i'm very close with-but lives out of state. She has 2 small kids (3 & 6mos). I love my niece & nephew SO much. I don't have kids of my own so i've pretty much thrown myself into being around them and getting to see every part of them growing up. I try to visit at least 4-5x year. FH & I were talking and i wanted to fit another visit in between now & the wedding. But he says we need to save $$ and i shouldn't spend the $500 for the flight and the spending money for a weekend trip when we still have other things to pay for. (we last saw each other xmas; and she'll be here in April for the wedding)
Another issue i'm having is feeling like i've been SO close to my niece & nephew and been a part of a lot of big moments in their lives because although FH & I were together; we didn't have a family or kids keeping me from traveling to visit. When we have our own kids (hopefully next year). It won't be as easy to fly down for a weekend after work. I'd have to put my family first. And i also think; that unfortunately she won't be able to be involved in my kids lives because she's got her own family. I doubt if she'd fly up when i have my 1st baby; like how i flew down the minute she went into labor last year? And how i went back to visit a few weeks later.
I know it's time to 'grow up' and start my own family. There are people out there who only see their out of state nieces/nephews on holidays. I guess i can't keep trying to fit every 2-3 month trips in. It was their decison to move...not mine.
Just curious to see how everyone else juggles their own family (with FH) and their other family (siblings; nieces/nephews/god children).
Here's a little back ground...I have 1 sister who i'm very close with-but lives out of state. She has 2 small kids (3 & 6mos). I love my niece & nephew SO much. I don't have kids of my own so i've pretty much thrown myself into being around them and getting to see every part of them growing up. I try to visit at least 4-5x year. FH & I were talking and i wanted to fit another visit in between now & the wedding. But he says we need to save $$ and i shouldn't spend the $500 for the flight and the spending money for a weekend trip when we still have other things to pay for. (we last saw each other xmas; and she'll be here in April for the wedding)
Another issue i'm having is feeling like i've been SO close to my niece & nephew and been a part of a lot of big moments in their lives because although FH & I were together; we didn't have a family or kids keeping me from traveling to visit. When we have our own kids (hopefully next year). It won't be as easy to fly down for a weekend after work. I'd have to put my family first. And i also think; that unfortunately she won't be able to be involved in my kids lives because she's got her own family. I doubt if she'd fly up when i have my 1st baby; like how i flew down the minute she went into labor last year? And how i went back to visit a few weeks later.
I know it's time to 'grow up' and start my own family. There are people out there who only see their out of state nieces/nephews on holidays. I guess i can't keep trying to fit every 2-3 month trips in. It was their decison to move...not mine.
Just curious to see how everyone else juggles their own family (with FH) and their other family (siblings; nieces/nephews/god children).
