NWR: Need your opinion

bournebride Posted: Jun 19, 2006 08:37 PM

NWR: Need your opinion

I am a special ed teacher with seven aides in my classroom. Throughout the year, I have spent about 25-30 on their birthdays, a nice christmas present, bought them pizza numerous times. They have rarely contributed to the classroom activities financially and I don't expect them to because they get paid nothing. Here is my dilemma, I am having a breakfast party tomorrow and I made order forms with prices on it to send home to my parents for them and their children. I also gave the forms to the aides in the room in their mailboxes. One aide (who has been a pain in my *** all year) isn't ordering anything because she believes I should be buying it for them. I am upset at this comment considering all the things I have done for them and they know that money is really tight this year with the wedding and the new house. When I told my FH about this, he said they might be upset because they feel they HAVE to buy because I just placed the order forms in their box rather than explaining to each and everyone (they are never in the room all together) that I am broke and can't pay for it. Meanwhile I am buying them a thank you gift of lotto kids and copies of the students picture books. What do you think???

maryb Posted: Jun 19, 2006 09:03 PM

Re: NWR: Need your opinion

i do not think you should buy them breakfast AT ALL.. no way.. i understand - i was an aide once too, but i wanted to be a part of school activities.. im a teacher now too and we dont make that much$$...and although teachers get paid morethan aides, there is no reason you should be doing ALLL the things you have.. i would love to work with you.. haha - jk..

but honestly - do they know about your idea for the breakfast with the kids??? if so, then if they want to be a part of the class - they shoud get something - a muffin, a coffee.. big deal $5... but if not - then whatever - they shouldnt be snotty and that women was out of line saying that to you..

have a good time - and dont let them bother you with that comment..

bournebride Posted: Jun 20, 2006 06:55 AM

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Thanks, I felt the same way until my FH said that I may have made them feel that they had to buy breakfast. but i try really hard not to put pressure on them or put them on the spot.