oh it is getting to me finally

Ok...so most of you know FH is in the Marine Corps and is stationed in San Diego. Well he is coming home most likely on May 26th for a whole month. Then on July 27th he leaves to fly back to San Diego and then flies right to Japan. He stays in Japan from June 30th 2007 to June 30th 2008!!!

Yup a whole year without my love most likely. And the thing is I might not even be able to go visit because his unit will be deployed to Iraq and other places while he is at Japan. And NO he doesnt get to come home at all while there since it is his last year in the Marine Corps= i know it ***** sometimes telling them NO.

But it just finally hit me while I amsitting here bored at work. I decided to count the number of days I have till FH comes home which is 21!!!

but then silly me counts the days till he leaves for Japan which is 53 And it finally hit me OMG!!!!!! HE IS LEAVING FOR JAPAN AND I MOST LIKELY WONT SEE HIM FOR A WHOLE YEAR!!!!!!!!

I want to cry sitting here in my chair- what am i going to do, i know i have gone months without seeing him. but a year- alot happens in a year.

i'm sorry!

i'm sure everything will be fine and a year can go by quick.

oh hunny. it is such a difficult thing. you just have to stay strong, and occupied. i know nothing can make you feel better. but maybe writting lots through that time will be good.

just always try to keep a smile on through the hard times.

sorry it is long i just needed to vent.

oh and the best part is i got a slap in my face last night- not literally but here it is:

FH's friend who was stationed in San Diego with him is in Japan now and has been since last May and will be home for good at the end of this May. But I was talking with his gf on the phone last night who I thought we were good friends (they live in NJ so we dont see each other a whole lot) and I was telling her how i dont want to go through this but i know it will be ok...and knowing seh would have some advice since she had to deal with teh same thing- she says um 'um me and andrew havent seen each other in a year get over yourself. and it isnt like you wont be able to talk to him he will have a phone you know.' and i was taken back by it and said 'yeah but i know you were scared and sad when he first left' and then she said to me 'your fh didnt even leave yet why are you obssessing over it and you should be more concerned that andrew is coming homeand you guys cant come to his welcome home party!!'

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!So i kind of snapped and told her well you know what i thought after all you went throuhg you would be more supportive since your bf has been there this last year. and then i said well atleast you got to talk to andrew everyday i will NOT get to talk to chris everyday most likely especially since he will be deploying from there'

then i hung up on her. i mean her bf is in a non deployable unit in japan and sat pretty much on his *** the whole time in japan (and it is proven since chris has talked to him alot) and my fh is going to have to go to iraq and crap

ughh it just got me soo mad!!!!!!!!!!!!

appreciation anyone and also i was going to tell her about her bf cheating on her while he was in CA and Japan....guess not now if she is going to be nice to me

I wish I had something inspirational to say here. All I can say is that I give you so much credit for being such a strong person and enduring all that time apart. Just try to enjoy the time he is here and hopefully you'll be busy and the time he is gone will fly by Just keep thinking about all the good things you have to look forward to - as much as you can.

awwww I am soooo sorry...I know its not the same seeing him, but write to eachother all the time, alot of couples dont write love letters to eachother anymore and it will be something great to hold onto. We'll all be here to help you through it, and just imagine how amazing it will be when you two see eachother again

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Posted by Espo22

awwww I am soooo sorry...I know its not the same seeing him, but write to eachother all the time, alot of couples dont write love letters to eachother anymore and it will be something great to hold onto. We'll all be here to help you through it, and just imagine how amazing it will be when you two see eachother again

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thank you denise...we actually did that when we first started dating i have about 20-30 love letters from him to me and he has all mine still

thanks forthat idea... we will have to get back into that groove!!

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Posted by Espo22

awwww I am soooo sorry...I know its not the same seeing him, but write to eachother all the time, alot of couples dont write love letters to eachother anymore and it will be something great to hold onto. We'll all be here to help you through it, and just imagine how amazing it will be when you two see eachother again

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Writing letters is such a great idea!!! That's something you could pass on to your kids one day (if you decide to have them)....it's a really romantic, old-school gesture.

On another note: I'm sorry that you have to go thru this, I could never even imagine how hard it is for you. I send many hugs and good thoughts to you and your FH.

Sorry ladies I dont want to sound like I am asking for all your sympathy and what not...I just needed to vent more than anything haha

its ok dont feel bad for me i know people are going through a lot harder of things happening in there life than this. i mean people are speaking of deaths in the family...i should just be grateful i am going to be seeing him before he leaves!!

thank you though for your sweet words!! and dont give me to much credit i am sure you all could do it for FH after all I know we would all probably do anything for our love!!!

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Posted by cbcf

Sorry ladies I dont want to sound like I am asking for all your sympathy and what not...I just needed to vent more than anything haha

its ok dont feel bad for me i know people are going through a lot harder of things happening in there life than this. i mean people are speaking of deaths in the family...i should just be grateful i am going to be seeing him before he leaves!!

thank you though for your sweet words!! and dont give me to much credit i am sure you all could do it for FH after all I know we would all probably do anything for our love!!!

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Yes., it will be incredible when you see each other after one year. I give you a lot of credit.....and I think you are a very strong person.

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by cbcf

Sorry ladies I dont want to sound like I am asking for all your sympathy and what not...I just needed to vent more than anything haha

its ok dont feel bad for me i know people are going through a lot harder of things happening in there life than this. i mean people are speaking of deaths in the family...i should just be grateful i am going to be seeing him before he leaves!!

thank you though for your sweet words!! and dont give me to much credit i am sure you all could do it for FH after all I know we would all probably do anything for our love!!!

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Yes., it will be incredible when you see each other after one year. I give you a lot of credit.....and I think you are a very strong person.

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aww thank you Lisa!!!

Catie...I know exactly what u r going through and u know that. I will be there for u no MATTER what...u can just call me and cry..scream ***** wwhatever!


I promise I am going to help u get through this year! Ill even go to japan with u hehe...

the first week when he leaves we should have girl nights and have sleep overs when johns working so u arent lonley and we can rent chick flicks and eat ice cream and cry together ok!

u know I love u and I hope if u r sad u will call me since I have been through this!

i went through this ( indirectly) my best friend's boyfriend (FH now) was deployed for long stretches.

it hurt me to see how much she was hurting without him there - just like it hurts me to see you going through the same thing right now!

what i DO know is that once he is back you won't believe how fast it has gone by - it is one of those things that feels like FOREVER and then when it is over you feel like it was such a short time ( as i am sure you know )

and when he DOES come back you two will appreciate each other so much more. I think it will make you BOTH stronger as people AND In your relationship!

just keep writing, calling and planning! you can do it!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Jesaroo2

Catie...I know exactly what u r going through and u know that. I will be there for u no MATTER what...u can just call me and cry..scream ***** wwhatever!


I promise I am going to help u get through this year! Ill even go to japan with u hehe...

the first week when he leaves we should have girl nights and have sleep overs when johns working so u arent lonley and we can rent chick flicks and eat ice cream and cry together ok!

u know I love u and I hope if u r sad u will call me since I have been through this!

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Jessie you are the best. you definitely are the best person to speak to and vent too...thank you for being there for me...you are great!\

and yes after chris leaves we def need to have girls nights and sleep overs and veg hahha

thank you again!!

Your girls are all such great supporters thank you again for all your kind words and help!!!


Yes, I know it is kinda hard to understand what someone is going through when speaking about this situation. But you girls are there for me and for everyone else when in need so thank you for your support!!

with you girls i feel i can get through anything haha!!!

You will get through, my best friend in the whole world, her DH was in the Navy for 4 years
and he was deployed to Japan as well

She even had small baby when he had to leave.

She made it through and you will too!!!

Being a Military Wife is a very extraordinary thing, and if you want her email/aim to chat with her she would love to give you any advice to help you through this time

FM me if you would like

hunny im so sorry!!! if i can give one word of advice it would be to take ONE DAY at a time!! dont get yourself crazy thinking about the next month or two (even tho i KNOW it will be very hard!!) just live in the present!! take things as they come!!

i have lived on the motto of 'take one day at a time' since i was a senior in high school and it has changed my life lol dont mean to sound philisophical haha

*hugs*

aww

That does suck I commend all those girls out there that have boyfriends FH and husbands in the service, I don't know how you girls do it