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ok i need to have an fh vent (sorry its kinda long)

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

ok i need to have an fh vent (sorry its kinda long)

ok seriously hes driving me nuts right now and i need to seriously vent...so i just need some hugs
-but please let me know if im just being cranky and i shouldnt really be mad

ok so my birthday is tuesday so technically my birthday weekend is this weekend...

well FHs friend calls him a week ago and asks him to go out with him for his birthday saturday....fh of course forgets thats also my birthday weekend and says yes...i got all mad at him that he forgot..and his response was 'sorrryyyyyy...i just wasnt thinking about it' he doesnt ask what i want to do, doesnt ask if thats ok...nothing


ive been really busy recently with school starting, teaching a new grade, and 3 grad classes..which is why i didnt plan anything big for my birthday..and after all that i knew that somehow it would be another fight

so a bunch of my friends are going to the bar crawl in the city and want me to do that for my bday...i used to go to a ton of the bar crawls and have had awesome times each time...so i decide that id really like to go

so i tell fh today that i want to go to the bar crawl..and he gets mad at ME....saying that i knew about his friends birthday....then starts saying how i have no money...im like are you F'N kidding me?!?! its MY BIRTHDAY!

then he was like uhhhhh fine i just wont drink at the bar crawl and go to my friends afterwards...and sarcastically i was like greaaaat...not only am i forcing my fiance to go out for my bday but he wont drink at mine, just his friends...so bc i was sarcastic, he was like u know what, forget it im just not gonna go to either...and thats how it ended..we havent talked since (we live together and hes on the next couch llol) this was like 2hrs ago


i mean if fh actually remember my bday and was like you and him should do a joint bday thing, id be totally fine with it...but he didnt ..he forgot...and im not about to spend my birthday going out for someone elses birthday... am i wrong??????
angl2001 Posted:

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aww sweetie i am sure you can work it out that you can do both??? or maybe switch the day? i hope u feel better
MrsD71208 Posted:

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No you aren't wrong : ( Sorry about this...Happy Birthday and please, hit your FH for me! He hasn't been so nice to you lately : (

dream426 Posted:

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I don't think you are wrong. I would be upset also. You are going to be his wife. You aren't just dating anymore. JMO

xXxNovember08xXx Posted:

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you are not being irrational... he is not playing friendly

jenise...

you go to the bar crawl with your girl friends, with him or not.... let him go tohis friends.. but be clear when he askes how ur night was to let him kno what a BLAST u had.

he 'should' go with you .. obiviously.. but if hes gonna be a bitc h about it.. then let him. (i suppose)

FH does the same crappo... im kinda used to it, thats why im laid back about the way to possibly handle it.
ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

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ok thanks girls...bc i was seriously thinking that maybe im going crazy lol we arent dating, im his fiance and i feel like i should come first when it comes to birthdays (i swear im not a needy person or feel like he cant hang out with his friends or anything) im pissed bc he actually got mad at ME, and isnt even considering what i want or has asked what i wanted to do blahhhhhhhhhhhh

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

you are not being irrational... he is not playing friendly

jenise...

you go to the bar crawl with your girl friends, with him or not.... let him go tohis friends.. but be clear when he askes how ur night was to let him kno what a BLAST u had.

he 'should' go with you .. obiviously.. but if hes gonna be a bitc h about it.. then let him. (i suppose)

FH does the same crappo... im kinda used to it, thats why im laid back about the way to possibly handle it.


yeah he pulls this crap with me too and i am usually laid back....i told one of my friends this and she was like 'its your birthday, do what YOU want! so i am gonna go...with or without him...cause really at this point i dont know if ill be happy if he does go cause the whole time ill be upset knowing that i had to FORCE him to go
iwannabmrsD Posted:

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i agree with november.. let him go on with his friend since that seems to be super important to him.. and u go on out with u'r girls..

btw what'a a bar crawl?
ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

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Posted by MrsDtoBe

No you aren't wrong : ( Sorry about this...Happy Birthday and please, hit your FH for me! He hasn't been so nice to you lately : (


thanks so much!!! and i will lol
ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

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Posted by iwannabmrsD

i agree with november.. let him go on with his friend since that seems to be super important to him.. and u go on out with u'r girls..

btw what'a a bar crawl?


this time its in the village (but they have them all over manhattan) and if you bring 2 cans of food (to benifit city harvest) its $10 for a cup....there are like 20bars in the village participating and u just bring your cup bar to bar and its only $2 for a beer...and all sorts of other drink and food specials
dream426 Posted:

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Posted by iwannabmrsD

i agree with november.. let him go on with his friend since that seems to be super important to him.. and u go on out with u'r girls..

btw what'a a bar crawl? [/QUOTE

Oh they are so much fun. You hop from one bar to another with a cup and they fill the cup up for you with beer and it is cheaper.
futuremrsmultari Posted:

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Jenise!

I am so sorry...you have every right to be upset....FHs suck sometimes!

It will all work out....please have a wonderful time this weekend and a great birthday....

hell, I won't put out but I'll take you out for your birthday if you want!
GinaBambina08 Posted:

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Men SUCKKK!!
ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

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Posted by futuremrsmultari

Jenise!

I am so sorry...you have every right to be upset....FHs suck sometimes!

It will all work out....please have a wonderful time this weekend and a great birthday....

hell, I won't put out but I'll take you out for your birthday if you want!



awwwww thanks colleen!!!!!! well hey if u arent doing anything tomorrow ur more then welcome to come with us! haha
MikeandJess Posted:

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I would be PISSED You're definitely not being irrational, maybe let this thing blow over for a little bit and then you both can communicate the rationalization of your behavior when you're both a little less heated.
futuremrsmultari Posted:

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Okay, I just told FH a tiny bit about this since I felt so bad for ya...he says that MAYBE your FH has a bigger, better birthday plan for ya and that he's just playing dumb....

hmm...perhaps? Lets wait and see...(and hope!)....
iwannabmrsD Posted:

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Posted by dream426

Posted by iwannabmrsD

i agree with november.. let him go on with his friend since that seems to be super important to him.. and u go on out with u'r girls..

btw what'a a bar crawl? [/QUOTE

Oh they are so much fun. You hop from one bar to another with a cup and they fill the cup up for you with beer and it is cheaper.



oh SHUCKS.. can we do a bridal bar crawl???? i LOVE that idea!!
chrispar Posted:

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You are not wrong AT ALL!. I would be really upset about that too as well as insulted.
iwannabmrsD Posted:

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Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

Posted by iwannabmrsD

i agree with november.. let him go on with his friend since that seems to be super important to him.. and u go on out with u'r girls..

btw what'a a bar crawl?


this time its in the village (but they have them all over manhattan) and if you bring 2 cans of food (to benifit city harvest) its $10 for a cup....there are like 20bars in the village participating and u just bring your cup bar to bar and its only $2 for a beer...and all sorts of other drink and food specials


leave fh home.. I WANNA GO!!!! and we can bring our xyrons and do some drunken DIY projects for cityharvest..
ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

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Posted by futuremrsmultari

Okay, I just told FH a tiny bit about this since I felt so bad for ya...he says that MAYBE your FH has a bigger, better birthday plan for ya and that he's just playing dumb....

hmm...perhaps? Lets wait and see...(and hope!)....


eh i wish i could believe that..but its not gonna happen..oh well..but hey if it does ill def make a post about it!

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