OK-Weddings off! Anyone looking to have a party June 1st NRC will be open

Well I did what I could with no help from DH at all. So without going crazy. I have called everyone in the BP already and told them and offered to pay for their gowns. I let my family know. I have also left a message at the NRC and DJ as well as called the limo company who may let my daughter use the contract for a car for her prom.
Does anyone know if the NRC will sue me for the balance being that my wedding was in 3months? Im sooooo humiliated, embarassed and just crushed for more reasons then the finances. I had alot more written but deceided to erase it only because without knowing me personally I dont think you'd understand where Im coming from and I would only seem mean and bitter. I can say that this has opened my eyes to alot of things and right now I have no intention on moving the date for the fifth time. Im done and just need to recoupe. I have 5 gowns I have to pay for and my wedding gown which Im sure should be in soon for what should've been my first fitting.
Thank You all for your advice, help and just lending an ear through my 4yrs. of membership on LIW and I wish you all the best and happiness with your weddings and futures.

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I'm so sorry that this has happened. Pull your contracts out and check what your agreements said about cancellations, etc. Also, post up your BM's dresses with sizes, colors, etc. Someone may be able to buy them off you so you can recoup your money.

Finally, lots and lots of and that you get through this ok.

she took the words right outta my mouth. I was going to say post the dresses on here or even on ebay and maybe someone will buy them. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but things happen for a reason and from what you said you are probably better off and should be proud you had the strength to say enough is enough! I wish you the best!

so sorry that you're going through this but as the above poster said, things ALWAYS happen for a reason. it may take a while, but you'll get through this

oh i am so sorry to hear all of this. you know what's best and you wouldn't have done this if it weren't the best decision for you. GL wtih everything and everyone from LIW will still be here for you!!!

So sorry you're going through this!

Post the dresses on here with sizes and also try ebay and Craigslist.

So sorry to hear that the wedding is off. I'm sure you made the right decision. You have all the rights to be mad and bitter.

Thank you to everyone for everything. Just to show you alittle why Im so humiliated is... I went in to contact the vendors and DH went to sleep on the couch. Im just so stressed because my contract says that if I cancel I am responsible for 50% of the overall charge. I have had this hall booked since 2004 and every year something has come up that I have had to push it a year. This last time they said there would be penalties if it was moved again. Im sure that isnt what they had in mind 3months before the wedding though. I've just so had it with him and his family, some of mine as well. It started out our idea and ended up mine. I know this is going to make me sound irrational and nuts but Im going to looking into counseling for myself come monday just so I can deal with the fact that even in this marriage I feel alone 99% of the time. Not even an Im sorry from him. He takes a nap like oh well. Some of you dont know that we eloped in 2005 the first time we put the wedding off because of his parents saying they basically wanted no part of it because it was stupid. So DH told me if we eloped(which I didnt want to do)then he promised we would have the big wedding the following year. So we did and then it got put off because we couldnt afford the wedding and a sweet 16 for our daughter so I felt guilty and put it off another year. Then DH got fired for not paying attention to a very important detail at work and we got so in a hole not only did we put the wedding off until this time but I went to school fulltime, took care of the house and worked 7 days a week to pull us out, oh yeah while he napped I've just had it with everything. Im still in school, still cant trust him to handle anything without it costing me more then it should, still taking care of the house and the kids and yeah Im the bad guy did I mention that. Yeah his parents make comments about him having to take the train to work(6stops)because I take the only car to school(25miles away)because he blew the transmission 3 times on my car blew the engine in his mothers car and the transmission once. His parents dont like the idea that I insist that he work his reg. job during the day and then he has to work for his fathers company at night(goes in when he wants, comes home when he wants). Yeah all of this is my fault.URRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHHHHHHHH Sorry once I get started I cant stop. THERAPY HERE I COME!!!!!!!!!!!! Divorce really would've been cheaper then the wedding The thought of that seems to make him nap too, go figure Anyhow, again, Thank you Thank you Thank you.
You guys have been the only honest thing I've dealt with in the last 4yrs. and I'll miss you all.

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Posted by LuckyMe

Thank you to everyone for everything. Just to show you alittle why Im so humiliated is... I went in to contact the vendors and DH went to sleep on the couch. Im just so stressed because my contract says that if I cancel I am responsible for 50% of the overall charge. I have had this hall booked since 2004 and every year something has come up that I have had to push it a year. This last time they said there would be penalties if it was moved again. Im sure that isnt what they had in mind 3months before the wedding though. I've just so had it with him and his family, some of mine as well. It started out our idea and ended up mine. I know this is going to make me sound irrational and nuts but Im going to looking into counseling for myself come monday just so I can deal with the fact that even in this marriage I feel alone 99% of the time. Not even an Im sorry from him. He takes a nap like oh well. Some of you dont know that we eloped in 2005 the first time we put the wedding off because of his parents saying they basically wanted no part of it because it was stupid. So DH told me if we eloped(which I didnt want to do)then he promised we would have the big wedding the following year. So we did and then it got put off because we couldnt afford the wedding and a sweet 16 for our daughter so I felt guilty and put it off another year. Then DH got fired for not paying attention to a very important detail at work and we got so in a hole not only did we put the wedding off until this time but I went to school fulltime, took care of the house and worked 7 days a week to pull us out, oh yeah while he napped I've just had it with everything. Im still in school, still cant trust him to handle anything without it costing me more then it should, still taking care of the house and the kids and yeah Im the bad guy did I mention that. Yeah his parents make comments about him having to take the train to work(6stops)because I take the only car to school(25miles away)because he blew the transmission 3 times on my car blew the engine in his mothers car and the transmission once. His parents dont like the idea that I insist that he work his reg. job during the day and then he has to work for his fathers company at night(goes in when he wants, comes home when he wants). Yeah all of this is my fault.URRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHHHHHHHH Sorry once I get started I cant stop. THERAPY HERE I COME!!!!!!!!!!!! Divorce really would've been cheaper then the wedding The thought of that seems to make him nap too, go figure Anyhow, again, Thank you Thank you Thank you.
You guys have been the only honest thing I've dealt with in the last 4yrs. and I'll miss you all.

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aw i am an insider looking in however i just want to wish you the best of luck with your situation and remember that you children will always be there--- best of luck and keep your head up-- therapy could help maybe after a little you can take dh as well -- good luck

i hope things get better for you!

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For you, Antoinette. Mary MOB

I am so sorry that you are going thru this. Always remember how strong of a woman you are. I know this without even knowing you because it takes one to walk away when it is best to do so like you are.
If you ever need to vent to an outsider feel free to FM me. I was in a similar situation (without kids) and unfortunately did not get out of it until after the wedding. I think I have one of the shortest marriages ever.
It will take time but things will get better. Stay strong

SO sorry that yu are going thru this, hopefully the situation in your relationship will get better and you wont have to pay out alot more...I can only offer

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Posted by LuckyMe

Thank you to everyone for everything. Just to show you alittle why Im so humiliated is... I went in to contact the vendors and DH went to sleep on the couch. Im just so stressed because my contract says that if I cancel I am responsible for 50% of the overall charge. I have had this hall booked since 2004 and every year something has come up that I have had to push it a year. This last time they said there would be penalties if it was moved again. Im sure that isnt what they had in mind 3months before the wedding though. I've just so had it with him and his family, some of mine as well. It started out our idea and ended up mine. I know this is going to make me sound irrational and nuts but Im going to looking into counseling for myself come monday just so I can deal with the fact that even in this marriage I feel alone 99% of the time. Not even an Im sorry from him. He takes a nap like oh well. Some of you dont know that we eloped in 2005 the first time we put the wedding off because of his parents saying they basically wanted no part of it because it was stupid. So DH told me if we eloped(which I didnt want to do)then he promised we would have the big wedding the following year. So we did and then it got put off because we couldnt afford the wedding and a sweet 16 for our daughter so I felt guilty and put it off another year. Then DH got fired for not paying attention to a very important detail at work and we got so in a hole not only did we put the wedding off until this time but I went to school fulltime, took care of the house and worked 7 days a week to pull us out, oh yeah while he napped I've just had it with everything. Im still in school, still cant trust him to handle anything without it costing me more then it should, still taking care of the house and the kids and yeah Im the bad guy did I mention that. Yeah his parents make comments about him having to take the train to work(6stops)because I take the only car to school(25miles away)because he blew the transmission 3 times on my car blew the engine in his mothers car and the transmission once. His parents dont like the idea that I insist that he work his reg. job during the day and then he has to work for his fathers company at night(goes in when he wants, comes home when he wants). Yeah all of this is my fault.URRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHHHHHHHH Sorry once I get started I cant stop. THERAPY HERE I COME!!!!!!!!!!!! Divorce really would've been cheaper then the wedding The thought of that seems to make him nap too, go figure Anyhow, again, Thank you Thank you Thank you.
You guys have been the only honest thing I've dealt with in the last 4yrs. and I'll miss you all.

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wow...i am just so sorry that this happened to you

remember everything happens for a reason and i hope it all works out!!!

I am so sorry to hear all of this. It's really a shame. Wish you all the best!!