my FH sister just posted this on her myspace blog...***!?!?!??!?!?
I always thought that i would get married before my younger brother would. Now he is 24 years old;- i will be 27 next month. Alan and Melissa are getting married next September '09. A part of me thinks he should wait because he is too young; and sometimes i think that he should wait it out for a little while longer. I know that it is his life though;- so i want him to be happy and very successful in his life. So i'm kinda sort of over that part. I really think that there should be a rule that if your brother is getting married that you should be in the wedding no matter what. After all i will have a Sister-In Law very soon! :) I was looking at other people's wedding webpages on theknot.com and most of them have there sister-in law as a bridesmaid and the groom has there brother-in law as a groomsman. But it's whatever... I just had to vent on this matter/topic because i'm slightly annoyed right now... eventually i will get over it though because it's not my life... and i'm hoping to be extremely very busy in '09... Woops... lol :D :-P ;)
~~~um i'm about to have a coronary...help..what should i do? thoughts?
Eckymecky
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There is a list a mile long of reasons this is so incredibly wrong! She sounds incredibly jealous, she's childish, and she's unsupportive! On top of it all, she wants to be a BM? I agree with the girls that you should talk to FH... it's totally uncalled for that she won't confront you and that she's obviously indirectly communicating through *myspace*, of all ways. GL with this... it's your wedding - you get to call the shots and don't let this be added stress!
i couldn't agree more...but it goes deeper than this i think.. she isn't the type of person to think for herself so the whole idea of this is coming from somewhere...and alan's family isn't that big so i'm going to guess it's mommy dearest. (who cried by the way the day we left after christmas..it was really weird..not in an oh i'm going to miss you kind of way but an oh my god you got engaged and i'm not necessarily happy about it kind of way)..it was realllly awkward. so this blows up my biggest fear and that is that his family doesn't really accept me or take us seriously. its like written validation...and it stings.
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There is a list a mile long of reasons this is so incredibly wrong! She sounds incredibly jealous, she's childish, and she's unsupportive! On top of it all, she wants to be a BM? I agree with the girls that you should talk to FH... it's totally uncalled for that she won't confront you and that she's obviously indirectly communicating through *myspace*, of all ways. GL with this... it's your wedding - you get to call the shots and don't let this be added stress!
i couldn't agree more...but it goes deeper than this i think.. she isn't the type of person to think for herself so the whole idea of this is coming from somewhere...and alan's family isn't that big so i'm going to guess it's mommy dearest. (who cried by the way the day we left after christmas..it was really weird..not in an oh i'm going to miss you kind of way but an oh my god you got engaged and i'm not necessarily happy about it kind of way)..it was realllly awkward. so this blows up my biggest fear and that is that his family doesn't really accept me or take us seriously. its like written validation...and it stings.
Oh I see what you mean about FMIL fueling these thoughts in FSIL. I'm sorry to hear about FMIL not being supportive. Of course you want her to be happy about this, you want her to support you joining the family but the most important thing is that you and FH are happy! FH sounds like a wonderful guy because he loves you and he's really on your side here.... he's just as upset about this as you! This isn't easy but you guys are going to get through it!
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i'm getting angrier and angrier by the minute and there's not a damn thing i can do about it. that blog is just staring me in the face...i can't comment on it and i'm not going to stoop down to her level and send her a message.
FH is calling her at work to try and get her username and password so we can erase it. but i'm not sure how that is going to fly. then part of me wants it to stay so everyone can see how heartless she is. i mean it's not really hurting us as a couple, right?
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What I can say is absolutely DO NOT ask her to be in the bp if it's only because you feel you 'should' - it will only cause trouble later!
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There's no reason for you to be embarassed by this. She's the one who should be embarassed!
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Yeah that's a bit um, immature on her part to post it somewhere where you might see it. Which makes me think she WANTS you to see it so you will make her part of the BP. I am stubborn, so something like that would make me not want to make her part of the BP. But I agree you should talk to FH about it and see if he wants to say something to her about not posting things which could ultimately hurt your feelings.
I agree, she probably posted it, knowing you would read it. I think it might be her way of telling you she wants to be a part of the wedding.
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oh no!!! i cant believe her, this is obviously her trying to make you feel bad (im sure she knows you can see her myspace) dont change your mind and keep her out of your wedding...maybe have your FH talk to her
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YOU KNOW WHAT! ....U happy he is happy thats all that matters...dont pay attention and enjoy ur life.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I would confront her with it....or at least have FH do it...I don't think she has a personal problem with you....it just sounds like she is bitter that she doesn't have anyone and her younger siblings are getting married.
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If you are worried about how people will view it, just remember that it makes her look bad and not you. Try to focus on the good part- that your FH is on your side and loves you! These are things you will have to get through throughout your life and if he is on your side now, that is a good sign! I agree that she was very immature and cruel to post that publicly. It needs to be handled privately as in FH needs to talk to her. I have just asked all 3 of my FH's sisters (well the 4th sis is young and will be the flower girl) to be in my bridal party but I have known his family forever and am close with them! You should do what makes you happy.
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WOW that's pretty bad. But you know what you can't worry if everyone is happy with HIS decision to marry you. They are just going to have to learn to deal with it. As long as he loves you and he's happy to marry you then don't waste your time on them!
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Wait, she's 27? That seems like a highschool post...sorry...
I would be upset and offended. My own sisters been a b**ch since we started doing wedding stuff because shes not the center of attention, so that may be the case...
But....wowsers....sorry baout that....
She needs to get over it
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I completely understand.... because when she says 'WAIT IT OUT A LIL LONGER' it's like what is she trying to say? wait to see who else he finds???
She is definitely trying to make a point that PEOPLE CAN READ if it's not a private blog.. .. you are going to have to talk to FH about it and then you and FH will have to make a decision on what to say to her..
Sorry you are dealing with this
omg i was thinking the same thing...like what, she isnt good enough? Their waiting till 09 to get married that is WAITING a little longer...
sorry it just really upset me, i have people like that in my life so i feel for u!!
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thanks for all your advice...
i've finally calmed down a little. someone else that i showed it to said that her last line might be a way of her saying 'make me a bridesmaid so i'll be busy in '09...um they could totally be right...and she's out of her mind if she thinks that blog would convince me to make her a BM.
i hope you guys are right and that this will blow over. now i get to go to work and try and get my mind off of it.
i just hope my FH follows through with this. in the past some of his friends have been unsupportive and he didn't do a darn thing about it (but that is really in the past...they are upset b/c he lives here in NC with me and they all live in VA where he grew up...they blame me for taking him away from them...lol babies).
Eckymecky
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woops...edit//
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Posted by longislandlibrarian
I completely understand.... because when she says 'WAIT IT OUT A LIL LONGER' it's like what is she trying to say? wait to see who else he finds???
She is definitely trying to make a point that PEOPLE CAN READ if it's not a private blog.. .. you are going to have to talk to FH about it and then you and FH will have to make a decision on what to say to her..
Sorry you are dealing with this
omg i was thinking the same thing...like what, she isnt good enough? Their waiting till 09 to get married that is WAITING a little longer...
sorry it just really upset me, i have people like that in my life so i feel for u!!
exactly!! i said to alan on the phone earlier ' doesn't she realize by the time we actually get married we'll have been together for four years'..i wouldn't exactly call that rushing it....
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thats NOT rushing it at all....
i think its a tad bit of jealousy to be honest with you...
if u need to vent you can always fm me :)
glad you calmed down!!
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what a beeotch... dont even let it get to you.. i have a FSIL.. and as of right now. .she's not in my BP, only because we barely talk... but it's your wedding.. and it should be who you want...
