my FH sister just posted this on her myspace blog...***!?!?!??!?!?
I always thought that i would get married before my younger brother would. Now he is 24 years old;- i will be 27 next month. Alan and Melissa are getting married next September '09. A part of me thinks he should wait because he is too young; and sometimes i think that he should wait it out for a little while longer. I know that it is his life though;- so i want him to be happy and very successful in his life. So i'm kinda sort of over that part. I really think that there should be a rule that if your brother is getting married that you should be in the wedding no matter what. After all i will have a Sister-In Law very soon! :) I was looking at other people's wedding webpages on theknot.com and most of them have there sister-in law as a bridesmaid and the groom has there brother-in law as a groomsman. But it's whatever... I just had to vent on this matter/topic because i'm slightly annoyed right now... eventually i will get over it though because it's not my life... and i'm hoping to be extremely very busy in '09... Woops... lol :D :-P ;)
~~~um i'm about to have a coronary...help..what should i do? thoughts?
longislandlibrarian
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oooo OUCH!!!!!!! she is kind of immature to be posting that on her myspace page.. I think you should keep the bridal party to WHO YOU WANT IT TO BE .... but I shouldn't talk because I have been through 'feeling obligated' so I know how that feels too!!!!!!!!!!
I would talk to FH about it but when it comes down to it.. ITS WHO YOU WANT
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not only THAT but she CLEARLY does not even support us getting married.
FIRST of all she has a learning disability and she's awkward in social situations..blah blah..so i'm not surprised that she did this...she has already said some off things but posting it PUBLICLY...learning disability or not ..you need to accept responsilbility for your actions...i'm so angry right now i don't know what i'll do...
and p.s. i'm going to be 28 this year...if anything i think most people get married in their mid 20s...and the thing is we live 5 hours away from his family...we've lived together for a year and have been together for over 2 years...THEY HAVE NO IDEA who we are as a couple besides the two times a year they see us. aHHHHHHH i could scream right now!
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ooo ouch!!! talk to fh b/c its who you want
Eckymecky
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this is the part that hurts the worst: 'A part of me thinks he should wait because he is too young; and sometimes i think that he should wait it out for a little while longer'.
umm isn't that like saying the same thing but in a different way. too young?? like she thinks he shouldn't marry me.
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Wow looks like she's trying to make a point. I think you should talk to her about it and be direct, unlike what she is doing.
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Yeah that's a bit um, immature on her part to post it somewhere where you might see it. Which makes me think she WANTS you to see it so you will make her part of the BP. I am stubborn, so something like that would make me not want to make her part of the BP. But I agree you should talk to FH about it and see if he wants to say something to her about not posting things which could ultimately hurt your feelings.
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I completely understand.... because when she says 'WAIT IT OUT A LIL LONGER' it's like what is she trying to say? wait to see who else he finds???
She is definitely trying to make a point that PEOPLE CAN READ if it's not a private blog.. .. you are going to have to talk to FH about it and then you and FH will have to make a decision on what to say to her..
Sorry you are dealing with this
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Brides have their future SILs in their BP when they're friendly with them. It doesn't sound like she's very friendly or supportive so why would she assume that she was automatically a BM? I had a similar situation in which someone expected to be my MOH. Well why would I have a MOH who never showed any excitement about my engagement, never asks a single thing about the wedding, and has been saying stuff about the scale of the wedding and that it's too far away?? It's your wedding. If it was really important for your FH for his sister to be in the BP then I would consider it. You want your BP to be people who are closest to you and who are genuinely happy for you. Try not to let other people's negative words get to you. It's your day and essentially all that matters is that you and your FH are happy.
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i wouldnt read too much into it.... did she not think you were gonna see that sooner or later??? ... let her cry a freakin river... she'll get over it... shes crying out for attention so dont give it to her!
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wow I am telling you some FSIL can be a pain in the rear. I am surprise mine havent pull out something like that... You should tell FH but I think is that she is jealous that she is not the 1st one getting married..
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Maybe she's a lil jealous that his brother is getting married before her. She did say she always thought she would get married first. I think you should just talk to fh about it and see what he says, but if you are not close with her i don't think you should make her part of your bridal party. I'm sure this will work itself out.
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She sounds like a drama queen!!! You should talk to your FH about it. If she is going to act like that, I wouldn't want her in the bridal party...she might cause more drama during the planning and the wedding. Don't let that get to you. Did she NOT think you were going to see that???
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ok i just called him at work hysterically crying b/c its starting to sink in and actually reading it out loud hurt even worse.
he's calling her right now...i want her to take that BS down!!! it's one thing for her to think it...but for EVERYONE to see? she can be a little B all she wants but she is not going to smear our happiness and make people think things they shouldn't.
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that's pretty immature. try not to let it get to you though, and i don't think you should feel like you have to have her in your bp if your not very close with her.
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There is a list a mile long of reasons this is so incredibly wrong! She sounds incredibly jealous, she's childish, and she's unsupportive! On top of it all, she wants to be a BM? I agree with the girls that you should talk to FH... it's totally uncalled for that she won't confront you and that she's obviously indirectly communicating through *myspace*, of all ways. GL with this... it's your wedding - you get to call the shots and don't let this be added stress!
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Posted by Eckymecky
ok i just called him at work hysterically crying b/c its starting to sink in and actually reading it out loud hurt even worse.
he's calling her right now...i want her to take that BS down!!! it's one thing for her to think it...but for EVERYONE to see? she can be a little B all she wants but she is not going to smear our happiness and make people think things they shouldn't.
What was his reaction to what she wrote??? Keep us updated!!!
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Posted by Eckymecky
ok i just called him at work hysterically crying b/c its starting to sink in and actually reading it out loud hurt even worse.
he's calling her right now...i want her to take that BS down!!! it's one thing for her to think it...but for EVERYONE to see? she can be a little B all she wants but she is not going to smear our happiness and make people think things they shouldn't.
well let us know how everything goes!!! it's great that he's on your side here....
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ok i just called him at work hysterically crying b/c its starting to sink in and actually reading it out loud hurt even worse.
he's calling her right now...i want her to take that BS down!!! it's one thing for her to think it...but for EVERYONE to see? she can be a little B all she wants but she is not going to smear our happiness and make people think things they shouldn't.
What was his reaction to what she wrote??? Keep us updated!!!
he agreed with me that it was totally ridiculous...and we both realized how MANY of his friends are friends with her on myspace and we don't want them to see that crap. turns out she just left for work so we're screwed..
she lives with their grandma (if that gives you any clue) and he talked to his grandma (who i absolutely adore) and he said that she laughed and was like 'tell melissa not to actually believe anything that **** writes' ..and she's right. its more disheartening that anything...and utterly embarassing to think how certain people will view it.
