Ok, so without going into pages and pages of details.. FH is not fond of his SIL whatsoever (his brother's wife) and so to make things peaceful I asked her to be a bridesmaids in our wedding. I did so, because I knew he would be asking his brother to be in the wedding and also he wants his 2 nephews to be the ringbearers. I didnt want any awkwardness! Anyway, a few months ago- FH & I got into an argument with her and I threw her out of the wedding party. Now, FH is freaking out because he's ready to ask his brother and nephews and KNOWS she'll say no to them being in it without her. HOW do I ask her to be a part of the wedding again??
vppjzv
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GettingMarried13
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WOW!!! Thats exactly what I need to say- THANK YOU so much. I was literally at my desk, freaking out and could not figure out how to go about this or what to say. In order to make things calm for FH, she *has* to be in the wedding.
Thanks again!!
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IMO u should have never asked her in the 1st place. If shes going to flip about the brither and sons being in the BP w/o her then shes a big baby and needs to get over it. After kicking her out, I personally wouldnt ask her to be in it again bcuz she will prob hold a grudge and be a nightmare. Good luck with this situation.
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Jassy- I try to be the peacemaker and do my best to keep situations calm and really should not have asked her at all, but I thought I was doing the right thing for FH. Just got off the phone with FH and he said exactly what you just did as well. Now I'm worried and even more confused on WTH to do.
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Christina11913
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Hopefully once she is back in you and your FH don't regret it. If you take her out again there would be a family feud. Make sure your are positive about asking her.
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I really have to think this one through!! I'm scared to go in either direction, but have to do something. Thank you ladies SO very much!!!
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Posted by vppjzv
That's tough. If you feel like she absolutely *has* to be in it though, I'd address the fight and say something like 'It'd mean a lot to us if we could put the past behind us, and share this moment together as a family... we'd like you ALL to be included, with you in my bridal party as well...' or something to that effect maybe?
yeah that would def. be the way too go..but just be sure..tell her how much it means to you and hopefully she will understand
