OMG SUCKS NOT TO HAVE FRIENDS! BP Problems AGAIN!!!

Original post by VCanizalez

Sep 01, 2010 11:02 PM

OMG OMG OMG
I hate this!!!!!
When I was a little girl I imagine a Big elegant wedding....
When i was a teenager, I Imagne my BP to be BIG becuase I thought I had so many friends...
When i was in College, I started to wonder if I woudl get myy BP as big as I though but i figure with 3 woud be good...
NOW, THAT I AM ENGAGED I AM EXTREMELY MAD SAD STRESS HURT THAT NOTHING OF MY BP WILL BE LIKE I EXPECTED/THOUGHT!!!!!!!!!!

We DONT HAVE FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHO THE FKC WILL BE IN OUR BRIDAL PARTY???

Since 2 of my XBFF are gone... i figure I only have my MOH and will get a BM later on....
My FH has a BM since his GM left him waitin on the party n never show up....
Now, NOT EVEN HIM CAN DO THE JOB OF BM!!!!!!

THIS SUCKS!!!

NOW I ONLY HAVE ONE MOH... AND FH HAS NO ONE...

I know Most of you would say
1) Well Tell him just to get another friend to do that... Well, he doesnt has friends!!!! Since he came to the USA he has been working n working a lot!!! Never had 'time' to have a Social Life... Now he is LEFT with NO ONE!!!! and I feel so bad and mad!!!!
2) Well you can just have One MOH & One BM... and I DONT WANT THAT!!! I dont want to be the ONE couple ONLY... I wanted TWO at lest and I DONT WANT TO SETTLE FOR ONE...

SUCKS TO COME TO THE USA WHEN UR A FKIN TEENAGER AND NOT GET FRIENDS>... ONLY GET COWORKERS & STUDY BYDDIES!!!!

SUCKS!!!!!

SUCKKKS!!!!!

madamsireeda213 Posted: Sep 03, 2010 01:54 AM

Re: OMG SUCKS NOT TO HAVE FRIENDS! BP Problems AGAIN!!!

I'm sorry hun :(:( it must be stressful to have to deal with working and planning a wedding and not having what you dreamed of come true (in terms of your BP) but like mostly everyone here said, at the end of the day, it is about you and your soul mate. On your wedding day, when you are staring into his eyes and thinking of your lives together, I dont think you will be thinking about how many BMs you don't have. When you look at your pictures, you are going to be more concerned about whether or not the photographer capture what was in your heart and your FH's heart, not who is standing besides you. Having a large or even medium size BP sounds great, but it does get stressful dealing with all those people and worrying about their concerns and their needs and not your needs and your FH. Your wedding will truly be about you now and no one else.

And if you want to meet friends, try meeting some at work. One of my BM is a girl I met 6 years ago at my first post college job. I love her like a sister. Maybe you can meet some friends at family events as well.

Good luck chica!!!! We are all here for you!

GR2010 Posted: Sep 03, 2010 08:23 AM

Re: OMG SUCKS NOT TO HAVE FRIENDS! BP Problems AGAIN!!!

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It will still be a beautiful wedding. He still have time gor s friendship to form. You can never tell what the future holds.

HOW?
How do we get friends??!!!!

We just WORK the WHOLE TIME... WE dont goo to school!!! We dont go to bars...
WHERE???

I know you are upset but you can still make friends. It can be the most unlikely places. Yes, friendships can form at work. You have to think postive. You are stonger than that. You are letting the small things drive you crazy and we have not discuss the RSVPS of stupid people. I still think you are going to have two couples there. Hey have gtg with the FH so they can meet each other, you never know. We are on your side so try to stay postive. You can always find me and call me out.

I met my MOH in my job....
His coworkers are MEAN to hiim....

=(

I do want two couples PLUS Us......
If i get a G2G wth FH all of u girls will think its DUMB and I am just trying to find someone for the wedding...

Thanks chica...
I don't believe that. 2010 Brides had many gtg where the FHs came and they form friendships where they hung together as couples they went to each other weddings. They are still friends. Brides 08 had gtg where they were in each other weddings. So it can be done. I know you are hurting but I am going to stay postive for you.

I think right now you're just really upset about all of this and parts of it are completely understandable. I have made some wonderful friends on this site and one of them is a reader in my wedding. There was an 09 bride who met another girl on this site and she was in her wedding. So you never know.

The important thing is to stay positive. Stressing yourself out is totally going to send you into this downward spiral and just make you more upset than you need to be.

This is your wedding day and whether you have no bridal party or 100 people on either side the important thing is that you and FH will be there and you love each other and will finally be getting married.

I have seen that as I get closer to my wedding day the things I have stressed over just really don't matter. If you focus on the bigger picture it really puts things into perspective.