may i ask,
what does your FH do for a living that he has to work such long hours?
I know that you work as a customer service rep, right?
I don't want to this to soound the wrong way, but here goes. I think you want to have 'X' amount of people in your b ridal party for all the wrong reasons. When i was growing up, I thought i would have the cinderella wedding too. as i got older, i had less and less friends who i was close enough with who i would want to be in my bridal party.
Now that the time has come, i am only including in my bridal party, my sister as MOH and his sisters as BM's. no one else i am close enough with or that i would trust enough in the bridal party.
with that said, if FH didn't have sisters, then it would only be my MOH in my bridal party. I would never add people just because i want my pictures to look a certain way. I would want people who are special to me to share my day with me.
If you don't have a very laarge family, or at least family that will be able to attend your wedding, and you don't have many friends then work with what you do have. At some point in life, we have to stop and think, the vision we had of our wedding as little girls was just a dream, a vision that as little girls, is sometimes not realistic. We all grow up, choose our paths and grow apart and together to people all the time. Once you realize that, i think it will be easier to come to terms with the fact that you may only have one person as an MOH instead of a bunch of girls who are meaningless in your BP.
As for your FH, if he doesn't have anyone else who he would feel close enough to to have stand as his BM, them i think, if it were me, i would have him as his dad or someone else who is very close to him, like an uncle if one is available, to do the honors. You never know, sometimes men act weird one day and will be back to normal the next, so this situation with his BM may all work out by itself.
I also agree with other posters that if yuou look at the bright side, you will end up saving money on the gifts you would have had to purchase from them and you will have less of a headache when it comes to the headaches you will have with normal BM stress.
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