OMG...sooo MAD!

Ok...lets see if I can sum this up as short as possible..LOL
I had a friend that I knew since 6th grade that I wanted in my BP...when it came to order the dress..she was acting shadey. After a MILLION emails, she finally said that she can't afford it. When I ordered to pay..she STILL said no...but whatever. So, time has gone by that she is not in my BP. It hurt, but I moved on.
Well, NYE I wrote a bunch of people from HS messages and such to see how they are all doing. I apoligzied for being distant and explained why...wedding planning takes everything out of you. Well... she writes me back today.... took her long enough!
She tells me that she's pissed at ME....two reasons. One... I didn't call her back the last time she called...uhm..doesn't the phone work BOTH ways..?? IF I Always call you back, then suddenly didnt, would n't you be concerned and want to call ME instead to make sure I was OK...???
TWO... that she put me to a test... Ya see... she got marred Dec 07..I was her BM...she told me all along that she wasn't going to have a MOH...until the DAY OF....then she said the other girl was her MOH...that hurt...but whatever. Now, her mariage started to fail....and she had a little baby. She ended up starting to see another guy when she finally kicked her HUSBAND out. Well now... this is the TEST she put me through..she only told ME and MADE me sware that I wouldn't tell MY FH!! Which for some odd reason I listened. Well, she gave the vide that she was with someone else b/c she would get texts at 1am from some guy and would have to suddenly leave!! So, my FH obviously FIGURED it out...and told her HUSBAND, which is FHs friend!! Geeez! Soo...her husband found out, and she was flipping out at me through an email...


AUGH! I'm soo mad right now..I mean it's all just BS stuff... and she has no concept of everything that I DID do for her. It's sooo unfair. I just dont get her.....

What do you ladies think...should I just knock her from my life.....or should I keep trying to prove that I did nothing wrong...

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Posted by littlepixie12

OMG... get as far away from this crazy as possible.. she has noone to blame but herself and your lucky she doesnt want to be in your BP

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I agree....run far far away from her.

Im so sorry

It sounds like she is in a very angry place right now, and you are in a very excited place and its driving her crazy.

My advice is to take a bit of a friend vacation. I would just tell her your going to give her some space because she obviously needs to work through some things but im here for you etc. etc.

My guess is that with her failed marriage its hard to watch you pick out dresses and flowers, which is not your fault at all, so shes trying to sort of put a damper on you. Keep your head up

Thanks girls...I was thinking this for a long time...but with all of the good times we had in the past I guess I didn't want it to end...none the less, I alwasy felt bad for her. Her wedding was thrown together b/c she was preggo... it's NOTHING like my wedding...he.ll...it was done in ONE month! But, I still forked up the $400 just for the dress...and the $1k I gave as a gift! Soo..I'm just DONE.

Thanks for clearing this up for me lasdies!! I know I can always count on you ladies!

PS .. the two of us havnet spoke since Sept...when she said she couldn't or wouldn't be in my BP...

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Posted by MrsList09

Friends don't give each other 'tests' like that and play games the way she does. She sounds a little crazy. I would just cut her out.

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ITA! SHe sounds like a wacko!

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Posted by coldasice217

I'm sorry you're going through this, but you're better off, you don't need jealousy and whack job antics right now!

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Ha... great way of putting it!! lol

Did you tell her that you didn't tell your FH? I would say that once. If she believes you and trusts you as a friend than cool. If not then I wouldn't bother. Some people just come a long with a lot of stress and baggage and just drag you down... and if this is the case... get rid of the dead weight. WHy is she testing you? That's absurd! She should be focusing more on her husband and child than on testing you. Plus it;s not your fault she cheated and got caught. Perhaps she shouldn't be cheating in the first place. Seems she is just angry she got caught cheating and needs someone else to blame other than her vagina! sorry to be so blunt.. but hey whatever. I must be in that sort of mood today.
I know it can be hard to let certain friends go... especially those you have known for a long time.. but this seems like an ongoing issue. Why couldn't she be honest upfront about who the MOH was? That's shady and it shows that she can't just come to you to talk to you about important issues for some reason. And to just tell you like that on the day of is rediculous. What is she hiding.. I don't know.. i wouldn't be able to trust this girl. There are too many red flags in those stories with her.
And.. if she doesn't want to be with her husband.. then she should focus on her child and getting divorced and not drag an innocent kid through all this drama... that's not fair, and it can be emotionally scarring on a child.

Ha ha ha... some of those kids can grow up to become EAL's ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

you are better off without her around..sounds like you are lucky not to have her adding to the stress of wedding planning.

scary but I have realized wedding planning has shown me people's 'true colors'

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Posted by MrsList09

Friends don't give each other 'tests' like that and play games the way she does. She sounds a little crazy. I would just cut her out.

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I agree.

You girls are awesome!