One YEAR to go, and I am going crazy!!!!!!! need to vent

I don't know if I am the only one to feel this way, but I feel like my head is going to explode, and I am just going in circles... I am trying to get as much stuff out of the way as possible, because I know when it is crunch time, I am already going to be going nuts with out of town guests and family that enjoys to drive me crazy.. Here I am a intelligent person, finished college, working as a Director of Operations, and I can not make a decision about anything.. favors, photographers, flowers, programs, music, limos, placecard holders.. you know the drill.. last night I was practically in tears talking to my FH, telling him that I am supposed to be happy, but I feel miserable.. it also does not help that we know live in NJ and the wedding is on Long Island, where I am from.. so all my family and friends are out there.. I start to feel like I am already married, (we live together) and I have to plan a wedding, and it feels like I have to do it all by myself.. My FH tries to help, but you know they are not like girls, he does not look for stuff and try to come up with ideas, I just show him things and he says if he likes it or not.. of course I try to go home to Long Island on the weekends as much as possible, but my FH hates to take the trip so most of the time I go myself.. like this weekend.. I am going to try and get glasses for my favors, and he is not coming..because he would rather stay home, and work on the house.. which I understand, but it is like being between a rock and a hard place.. ohhh welllll.. sorry this is so long I just had to vent.. I am trying to enjoy everything as much as possible, but it just seems to be impossible at times.. I just wonder if any of you guys ever feel this way, or am I just going crazy by myself!!!!

One YEAR to go, and I am going crazy!!!!!!! need to vent

Hang in there!! You need to take a MUCH needed break from wedding planning. We started planning this January and my wedding is in 32 days!! At least 3 times in the past 9 months we've (I've) taken a break from it all! We went away to Foxwoods, to Philly...anywhere that didn't remind me that I had a wedding to plan! It helped me so much! It WILL get done, believe me. And it goes by SO fast. Enjoy all of it! We only get to do this once!! Best of luck!! :)

One YEAR to go, and I am going crazy!!!!!!! need to vent

I remember exactly how you feel. I was exactly like you at first then one day it hit me. I thought about what I remembered and loved/liked at weddings I attended and and realized what was important to me and what I didn't notice or couldn't remember. I sat down with my FI and we made a list of MUST HAVE and Would Like to Have then started working on the list in order. When you come down to it planning a wedding is just like any other Big Project. Break it down, delegate and dont sweat the small stuff. Most of all try to relax and enjoy the planning. It will work out. I have 9 days to go. Final gown try on tonight!

One YEAR to go, and I am going crazy!!!!!!! need to vent

We did our entire planning in a year - from Boston. My family lives in Arizona and my MOH is in California. Another BM is in Chicago and the third is in NYC - so I know just what you mean about the isolation and not having anyone to share the process with. Just keep in mind that you still have a year. Enjoy the next several months just researching options for favors, place cards, etc. and worry about those details after the first of next year. The only ones you really need to lock in a year in advance are the reception site and officiant, the music and the photographer. Concentrate on those and just enjoy the process on the rest. And Kathi's advice was great too - get away if you can - avoid 'wedding talk' during your getaway if you can too, and give FI a break.

Take a deep breath

My wedding is 10 days away and I'm already starting to get a little sad that's it's almost over -- but can't wait to enjoy time with my family and close friends next week. I think you are trying to do too much right now. I starting planning 17 months in advance and Karen is right all you need to do right now is the site, officiant, music and photographer. Do all the little things next year, like favors and programs...because trust me you'll change your mind about things. I can't tell you all the things I thought I wanted to do and then just realized it was too much. Also as you plan and time goes on your event starts to form it's own theme. You want things to flow together so went until some more items come together. I've been planning from NC so I can totally relate to doing it from out of town and feeling like you don't have control. Really enjoy it, okay. I know that my day is going to go sooo fast -- and so will yours. Good Luck and SMILE!

Another LI Bride in NJ!

Don't worry it will all work out, but it will be the fastest year of your life! I had the same situation as you. I moved in with my fiance in NJ when we got engaged a little over a year ago. In the beginning I spent every weekend sitting in traffic getting to LI to pick all my vendors and now for final details, fittings, etc. It is the biggest pain, but it made the year fly! I am so excited because I know it is all going to be worth it (29 days to go!) Just use the internet and word of mouth to weed out vendors, so you don't waist to much of your valuable time when you are on LI. It will all work out! Where in NJ are you from?

Another LI Bride in NJ!-SC!!

WOW!! that was the same thing that me and my FI did.. we got engaged this past valentines day and we moved in together.. so since then it has been just crazy with the traffic and all.. We live in Carlstadt.. right by Rutherford in Northern NJ.. where are you guys.. if you like you can email me at [email protected] you, suddenly I don't feel so alone in all this!!! :-)

One YEAR to go, and I am going crazy!!!!!!! THANK YOU ALL!!

thank you for all your kind words of encouragement (sp?) its nice to know i was not the only one.. I guess you are all right, I need to put down the bridal magazines and just take a deep breath!!!!!! Thank you all again!!! :-)

take it one step at a time

I have 13 months left, and we`ve been engaged for 9 months already. Time has flown by, and I too have been completely overwelmed with all the decisions and little choices to make. Soon after I was engaged, I practically had a nervous breakdown, b/c I had no idea where to start, and ideas were flooding my head! I then took it one step at a time, booked the hall, church, then DJ and florist. I`m seaching for a dress now, and after that I`ll look for a photographer. At least for me, it`s a lot easier to focus on one decision at a time. Think about the big things now - favors and invites can be decided later. If you think about every little detail at once, you`ll lose your mind! Instead, think about what one small project per month, or space it out someway, since you have time.