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We'll do it alone....probably the next day.
Posted by Sunrise813
Posted by Goldi1021
We opened them alone. They were not gifts for our families so it was not their business. My mother knew not to ask who gave what. IMO, it is tacky to ask - parent or not. We stashed our checks after we divided them and cashed them when we got home from Hawaii.
Well said...I can't even imagine why anyone else should ask or care, its a gift for you not your parents or anyone else. IMO I think its tacky for may one ask how much someone gave you..even parents. I know my parents or FILs would never even dream of asking.
after reading what everyone said (i can't agree more!) i spoke w/ FH and he said we will open some of our e-party gifts (meaning boxes of things from our registry) in front of people after the party is over (whoever stays) and we will take care of just envelopes later when we are alone or the next day. with the wedding we decided it would be best to wait until the next day and not even say anything to the IL's about it and take care of it ourselves and if they ask FH will speak to them about how it is our business b/c i dont need fmil's comments about who did or did not give what they should have-- it's just not an important part of our wedding and i know it will turn into a mess if she has any info on who gave what. it will esp hurt my feelings if she starts to say anything about MY family and close friends (meaning if she feels they didn't give 'enough')... so FH and I were happy to make our final decision last night to keep it between us! phew, it might cause some waves (b/c i know how fmil is) but oh well, she will have to get over it...
We did this the morning after at my parents' house....a bunch of family was around (my parents--his were doing stuff with other family members). People were all talking an dhalf paying attention. no one knew the amounts given...it was fine for us.
Posted by stephanief
We are going to do it the next day, just me and FH/. IMO, it is no one's business what people give, that is not the point of the wedding![]()
We did it by ourselves, we didn't think it was anyone else's business.
Posted by pupidda122505
my mom has an idea that she's gonna get in on the action but she has another thing coming lol FH and me are opening the envelopes the next day in our hotel room ALONE![]()
Posted by ChrissynRicky
Posted by BlueTulip
Posted by stephanief
We are going to do it the next day, just me and FH/. IMO, it is no one's business what people give, that is not the point of the wedding![]()
I agree
ditto ditto
the last thing i want is my mother stating 'but you got XYZ for the wedding, why are you broke?'
Posted by jeanla4c
We did this the morning after at my parents' house....a bunch of family was around (my parents--his were doing stuff with other family members). People were all talking an dhalf paying attention. no one knew the amounts given...it was fine for us.
We will open them alone after the wedding, hopefully that night. I think that will be so exciting.
Posted by stephanief
We are going to do it the next day, just me and FH/. IMO, it is no one's business what people give, that is not the point of the wedding![]()
Posted by BlueTulip
Posted by stephanief
We are going to do it the next day, just me and FH/. IMO, it is no one's business what people give, that is not the point of the wedding![]()
I agree
me and fh opened them together without parents around - i wrote everything down and let my parents know a few of the gifts from family
