opinion needed please

I am part jewish but not really religious and FH is christian. We are having an interfaith ceremony. My FMIL really wants to read the following passage out of the new testiment.

Ladies, I need your opinion on this passage as it does not seem like a passage that should be read at a wedding. I do not mean to offend anyone but I would like other peoples perspective on this before I tell FMIL that I do not want it read.

Eph.5:22 Wives, [be subject] to your own husbands, as to the
Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is
the head of the church, He Himself [being] the Savior of the
body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives
[ought to be] to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love
your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up
for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by
the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to
Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any
such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So
husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He
who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his
own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also [does]
the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this
reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to
his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is
great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the
church. 33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love
his own wife even as himself, and the wife must [see to it] that she
respects her husband.

I'm not a fan, I agree it's not very wedding-y and it's way....religous sounding for an interfaith wedding, JMO. Tara if you want I'll FM you.

um, no offense to anybody, but there's no way in h#ll I'd have that read at my wedding. Be subject to your husbands? The husband is the head of the wife? Nevermind that it IS quite religious for a non-religious wedding... I love my fiance, but he is NOT my 'head' and I am NOT subject to him.

And, of course, it's really not appropriate for an interfaith ceremony, as it's very Christ-focused (unless you're having the kind of ceremony where that's ok - we're trying to stay more neutral).

but in general, to be honest, some of the ideas there I find kind of offensive in the non-1950s world we live in.

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Posted by weddingbunny

um, no offense to anybody, but there's no way in h#ll I'd have that read at my wedding. Be subject to your husbands? The husband is the head of the wife? Nevermind that it IS quite religious for a non-religious wedding... I love my fiance, but he is NOT my 'head' and I am NOT subject to him.

And, of course, it's really not appropriate for an interfaith ceremony, as it's very Christ-focused (unless you're having the kind of ceremony where that's ok - we're trying to stay more neutral).

but in general, to be honest, some of the ideas there I find kind of offensive in the non-1950s world we live in.

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I agree 100% No way would that be read at my wedding!!!

Personally, I would never allow it. FI (ordained minister) agrees, not a chance, not even if you switch away from the New King James version to the New International (which means very little to me, but there you go).

I also think it's ok to say that it is offensive to your sensibility as a woman to have that read at your wedding, although it may cause more aggravation than it avoids.

I think it is inappropriate for an interfaith wedding-same if your rabbi (if you are using one) decided to discuss how you both planned on raising a family solely in the Jewish tradition-both families must be sensitive to the fact that you are merging two traditions and faiths and must tailor the ceremony so that you both will feel comfortable.