opinion on strip clubs - YOU VOTE!

Wouldn't bother me at all. He has been to bachelor partys sincei've been with him, and showed me the pictures... With the private girls it can get pretty raunchy

Even so, I still don't mind. My guy is just that, a guy. You cannot expect a man to conform to our (woman's) standards of behavior, because it isn't fair to them. Men need their masculine outlet, and when we don't let them do things, we become 'mommy'. Do it enough, and he'll resent you eventually (and it works both ways...we can grow to resent them for being too 'father knows best') I'm not saying the masculine outlet HAS to be strippers, but they do need something manly

Now i would never argue that if your uncomfortable with the idea that you ignore his going. If you truly feel insecure about the subject, have a heart to heart with your man, and be honest. It will make things better to get it out in the open :) He probably doesn't realise why you feel the way you do.

Best thing i can say is to trust your man... If he had ever given you a reason not to, you probably wouldn't be marrying him :) With all the rules & regulations at clubs these days, they usually don't get fully naked, and you can't touch them anyway. Its no different than watching a dirty movie IMO.

HONESTLY, INSECURE OR NOT....I JUST THINK THEY ARE TRASHY!! MY GUY IS NOT REALLY A FAN OF THEM, HE GETS A LITTLE CREEPED OUT WITH ALOT OF THEM SO IM GLAD FOR THAT, BUT WHAT ABOUT THE GUYS THAT GO AND GET LAP DANCES AND STICK BILLS IN THERE THONGS AND THEN COME HOME TO THERE GIRLS, WIFE, ETC.... GROSS!

NOT EVEN A STRIP CLUB, BUT THE STRIPPERS GUYS USUALLY GET FOR THE 'BACHELOR' PARTY..... I WOULDNT WANT MY MANS FACE BEING RUBBED IN SOME NASTY GIRLS BREASTS AND HER RUBBING UP & DOWN HIM AND THEN HIM COMING HOME TO ME.....NOW WAY!!!

JUST MY OPINION!

For me it's not a matter of insecurity, and I know that my FH wouldn't plan to go to a strip club, but I do have a problem with his friends planning a bachelor party that involves bringing him to one. I just don't understand why male 'bonding' on the occassion of their friend's 'last night of freedom' has to involve skanky naked chicks...It kinda disgusts me because on any other given night him and his friends would not choose to go to a strip club. So why does his bachelor party (or any bachelor party) have to revolve around strippers/stripclubs?? Is there nothing else for men to do?

JMO

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Posted by AlBaBride

For me it's not a matter of insecurity, and I know that my FH wouldn't plan to go to a strip club, but I do have a problem with his friends planning a bachelor party that involves bringing him to one. I just don't understand why male 'bonding' on the occassion of their friend's 'last night of freedom' has to involve skanky naked chicks...It kinda disgusts me because on any other given night him and his friends would not choose to go to a strip club. So why does his bachelor party (or any bachelor party) have to revolve around strippers/stripclubs?? Is there nothing else for men to do?

JMO

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For some men its the whole ball and chain you're getting married now so you can look but not touch. That night its their last chance to touch because they arent married so it doesnt count. Now Im not saying all men see it this way, but there are a chose few who do and at times this is why weddings get called off (case in point J-Lo and Mario Lopez). Now men nor woman have to go to a strip club its a personal choice on what they want to do to celebrate their last nights of being a bachelor or bachelorette. I understand your view point as to why you dont see the reason to want to go and I can understand the reason why women may not feel any way about their FH's going. It's all personal choise. If there are ladies that would prefer their FH's not go then find other things to do with him that night. Dress up give him a lap dance put them girls to shame! It's all on what you choose to do and no one is right or wrong it's all just a matter of opinion.

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

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Posted by DNicholes

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Posted by afrodyt2000

don't really care. I mean I know he's with me for a reason. If he was going to cheat, he won't need a strip club to do it.

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Agreed....

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my thoughts exactly... i have even been t a stip club with FH.. believe me it is not what u see on TV. 95% of the night all the guys sat around watching sports.
Even when I wasn't there they did the same thing ( very close sources have given me feedback, early on in the relationship)
Ladies, trust ur men...they are withyou for a reason!!!
Now tell me they were getting stippers in a hotel and I would put my foot down. Those w*ores go a little too far and rub up against anything that breathes.

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I totally agree!! I've been to many strip clubs with my fh..and honestly a lot of the women are lesbians anyway!!! I got hit on more than he did!!

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

Hmm, well the question in the poll is 'How do I feel if FH goes'? but I don't really know how I feel because FH has never gone and says he will never go... he says he is not 'into them' and that he feels the whole scene is not what he is about at all... if he wants to go out with his friends (his words) he would rather just go to a bar, concert, show, dinner, etc... why is this? my only guess is that my FH is EXTREMELY traditional and all about values so his opinion on them definitely reflects his personality, that's for sure! He only gets more adamant about it when it's in regards to me and our relationship-- he said he would feel the way he does even if he was single-- but b/c he is engaged only makes his feelings stronger... And I have to say: if I did need to have an opinion on it (I guess I don't really need to have one since it is not something he wants to do) but if I did, I would agree with him-- we are very similar people, a lot of values, morals and we are VERY traditional (pretty religious too)... So I guess that's why... And us being in our relationship only makes me feel more that way also. Awww, I love him!! Now I feel mushy!!!! Since when does a stripper thread do that to you?!

*Just wanted to make it clear that just b/c FH and I feel this way doesn't mean that if you don't feel this way you are wrong. FH and I have strong opinions but more than anything we feel that everyone has a right to feel HOWEVER they want and that it doesn't make you 'wrong' if you do differently than we do... that's what makes the world go around!!! ::::everyone hold hands::::*

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oh my gosh! it sounds like we have the SAME FI!!!

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Posted by daniebc16

Well, I don't want him going, those places are sleezy and I think that is a tradition that needs to be stopped. Why should a man who has committed to be with someone be so blantely looking at other women. I trust my FH completely and if his groomsmen want to take him there I am not going to throw a hissy, but I still don't agree with it.

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This is how I feel

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Posted by afrodyt2000

don't really care. I mean I know he's with me for a reason. If he was going to cheat, he won't need a strip club to do it.

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agreed.

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Posted by afrodyt2000

don't really care. I mean I know he's with me for a reason. If he was going to cheat, he won't need a strip club to do it.

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I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS ONE. I AM TOTALLY OK IF MY FH GOES TO A STRIP CLUB.

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Posted by daniebc16

Well, I don't want him going, those places are sleezy and I think that is a tradition that needs to be stopped. Why should a man who has committed to be with someone be so blantely looking at other women. I trust my FH completely and if his groomsmen want to take him there I am not going to throw a hissy, but I still don't agree with it.

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well said............i hate them 2!! it grosses me out...i dont want some nasty girl dancing on my fh and then him coming home to me.......just nasty!!!

(luckily my fh gets grossed out by majority of them, but i know he would go to one if his buddies were going or taking him)

DEF NO LAP DANCES THOUGH!!!!! TOTALLY NASTY!!!!!!!!