Opinions Needed...

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Posted by Kristen29

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Posted by DNicholes

Mine will say:

Today I will marry my best friend,
the one I laugh with, live for, love

Mr. & Mrs. Vincent *********
request the honour of your presence
at the wedding celebration of their daughter
Devon Diane
to
Matthew Michael

son of Mr. & Mrs. Michael ********
Saturday, the ninth of June
Two thousand and seven
at three o’clock
St. Joseph’s R.C. Church
Kings Park, New York


IMHO I never even thought twice about not mentioning them on it b/c this wedding is about BOTH of you..... I think it's nice to honor your FH's family as well but that's just me.

If you do both the Brides parents do come first.

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This is how I did mine. My dad is paying for the majority of the wedding...and I was only going to put his name on there. But FH got upset and wanted his parents names on there too .... his mom would not be happy if it wasn't...so I pu tit on there towards the end saying that my dad was the one inviting everyone to attend. I think i'ts the bigger thing to do to put there names on there...but not honored as much as your parents. Plus you don't want to start off on a bad foot with your new in laws!!!

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This is how I did mine too hun. This is always the safest bet. It's YOUR parents requesting the honor. And just stating FH is the son of...

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Posted by tricia3381

i would do this:

Mr and Mrs XX invite you to attend the wedding of their daughter XXXX to FH son of mr and mrs XXX. their names are still on it, but not as the host.

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I think this would be the classy thing to do. Invite wording shouldn't be about who pays, or who's getting the glory. Who cares what the guests think about who is paying? Not once, out of all the weddings I've been to, have I been like, oh so-and-so's parents must be paying instead of the IN-LAWS! Who cares? Your day is about you and FH. Plus, even if you are having IL issues, they will still be your family once you and FH wed. In the long run, is it really worth obviously snubbing them?

my parents broke their engagement over this believe it or not! if the groom's parents aren't paying, and they're giving u aggrevation, then don't put them on. unless u know it'll be a huge deal (it sometimes is with italian in laws), then it might be worth slapping them on there, but I def wouldn't get into a fight over it so avoid that

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Posted by tricia3381

i would do this:

Mr and Mrs XX invite you to attend the wedding of their daughter XXXX to FH son of mr and mrs XXX. their names are still on it, but not as the host.

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I am in the same boat. I Wrote the above on mine. It says that mine are hosting it. But it mentions that they are the parents of the groom. Less controversy this way.

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Posted by faithandkevin

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Posted by tricia3381

i would do this:

Mr and Mrs XX invite you to attend the wedding of their daughter XXXX to FH son of mr and mrs XXX. their names are still on it, but not as the host.

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I think this would be the classy thing to do. Invite wording shouldn't be about who pays, or who's getting the glory. Who cares what the guests think about who is paying? Not once, out of all the weddings I've been to, have I been like, oh so-and-so's parents must be paying instead of the IN-LAWS! Who cares? Your day is about you and FH. Plus, even if you are having IL issues, they will still be your family once you and FH wed. In the long run, is it really worth obviously snubbing them?

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I agree 100%...it shouldn't be just about paying...There are many couples who pay for their own wedding now anyways. Even if his parents are not putting in any money, it is still a nice thing to do. Yes maybe they didn't pay for the wedding, but they raised the son, were there for him, paid for him for more than half of his life and made them the men that we love. Just for that I think they deserve to be on it. It shouldn't be well you're not paying anything so you're not good enough to be on the invitation. Also the wording is more about hosting than paying and people who receive the invite don't look at the wording and say oh ok so its her parents who paid and his didn't. You also have to look at someones financial situation, many times parents would LOVE to pay but they are not able to do so and i don't think it should be held against them if they cant afford to do so.

Thats JMO though, if you have a bad relationship with the parents and also if FH does then maybe it's different...But its a nice thing, not a big deal at all to do, and you also save yourself from causing any problems and hurting someones feelings

Question.......aren't you all still getting a very generous gift from them? They may not contribute now in the planning process but I would hope they'd be giving there son a generous gift...no?

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Posted by DNicholes

Question.......aren't you all still getting a very generous gift from them? They may not contribute now in the planning process but I would hope they'd be giving there son a generous gift...no?

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Yeah alot of them do, but some don't...Many also do pay for the RD, and will pay for the honeymoon, this is what is traditionally done but not everyone does it. I do know FMIL told FH how much she will give as a gift at the wedding, and it is generous so alot of fh's parents do give a generous gift at the wedding

My FH and I are PAYING for the Whole thing ourselves. My parents Help out when they can. They payed for my dress/favors/limos. But we are Paying for the rest. Out of Respect for Both our parents. We put on the Invites. Together with our parents...

My FI's Mom is helping us...but I ordered my invites way before she said she was helping with money...I don't think its a bad idea not to include parents on the invites...

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Posted by ruzi777

My FH and I are PAYING for the Whole thing ourselves. My parents Help out when they can. They payed for my dress/favors/limos. But we are Paying for the rest. Out of Respect for Both our parents. We put on the Invites. Together with our parents...

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Thats good though, i personally think both parents should go on it regardless...its not about the money, its the fact that they are our parents who have always been there for us and raised us.