Parents not on board..

I'm so sorry you are going through this! Don't feel too discouraged you are not the only one. I keep telling myself it's about my fh and I but it's hard when family is causing stress. My fh mother is being a total beast through our entire process! Her and I do not get along, mostly because shes narcissistic and mean spirited and I don't often enjoy the awkwardness of her being around lol. When we began planning our wedding we discussed how much each of our families could contribute. My family would be paying for 75% of the wedding and my fh family as well as my fh and i would cover the other 25%. That being said she approached my father at our edinner and said she didn't like that she could not contribute as much as he therefore she wanted him to only give what she was giving and it was up to us to pay the rest bc after all I was already a spoiled brat and my father was making it worse by helping us so much with the wedding. She also stole my photography contract and planned to call my photographer in an attempt to change our package to a less expensive one. I only spent 3000 on the photos! My fh stopped her when the contract was missing from my binder and he found it at her home. She found out the bridesmaids are wearing silver and she is now insisting on wearing silver. Not to mention since finding out we are pregnant she has now told us she will not be giving us the money she promised. We've already signed contracts and owe lots of money prior to becoming pregnant and of course will be extremely tight this coming year due to the baby coming! She's put a very big strain on my fh and i as well as my parents. It's gotten to the point where my fh has told her he does not want her and his father at the wedding bc she has hurt us financially ( we can't get out of our contracts) and bc she constantly talks badly about myself and our unborn child. She's asked him infront of me and my family if the baby is his bc were not married yet so obv I MUST have been cheating. That was a fun experience! LoL overall we are trying very hard not to let it interfere in our relationship but it is very hard. I understand how you are both feeling and you are probably both extremelty stressed, in our situation we can't get through a dinner or conversation with either family without them bringing it up! Just be good to each other and remember you can't make everyone happy! ::

Re: Parents not on board..

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Posted by Csarelakos

I'm so sorry you are going through this! Don't feel too discouraged you are not the only one. I keep telling myself it's about my fh and I but it's hard when family is causing stress. My fh mother is being a total beast through our entire process! Her and I do not get along, mostly because shes narcissistic and mean spirited and I don't often enjoy the awkwardness of her being around lol. When we began planning our wedding we discussed how much each of our families could contribute. My family would be paying for 75% of the wedding and my fh family as well as my fh and i would cover the other 25%. That being said she approached my father at our edinner and said she didn't like that she could not contribute as much as he therefore she wanted him to only give what she was giving and it was up to us to pay the rest bc after all I was already a spoiled brat and my father was making it worse by helping us so much with the wedding. She also stole my photography contract and planned to call my photographer in an attempt to change our package to a less expensive one. I only spent 3000 on the photos! My fh stopped her when the contract was missing from my binder and he found it at her home. She found out the bridesmaids are wearing silver and she is now insisting on wearing silver. Not to mention since finding out we are pregnant she has now told us she will not be giving us the money she promised. We've already signed contracts and owe lots of money prior to becoming pregnant and of course will be extremely tight this coming year due to the baby coming! She's put a very big strain on my fh and i as well as my parents. It's gotten to the point where my fh has told her he does not want her and his father at the wedding bc she has hurt us financially ( we can't get out of our contracts) and bc she constantly talks badly about myself and our unborn child. She's asked him infront of me and my family if the baby is his bc were not married yet so obv I MUST have been cheating. That was a fun experience! LoL overall we are trying very hard not to let it interfere in our relationship but it is very hard. I understand how you are both feeling and you are probably both extremelty stressed, in our situation we can't get through a dinner or conversation with either family without them bringing it up! Just be good to each other and remember you can't make everyone happy! ::

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WOW! I feel so bad for you going through this! I am glad you and FH are both standing together against this kind of stress, but it must be very hard. I bet she will regret this type of behavior one day when she misses out on the closeness she could have with her son, DIL and new grandchild.