People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

Has anyone been dealing with this? I'm hearing it from a lot of people. For example, a friend who just got married actually replied 'Ewwwww!!!!' when I told her we picked a band for the reception. Another person keeps giving her two cents about what time we should start the cocktail hour.

And then the kicker - a friend recently went on and on about how horrible, terrible, and annoying it will be that we are having a Mass instead of just a ceremony. It was all I could do to bite my tongue and tell her that if an extra 20 minutes will be so difficult for her to deal with, she can just stay home.

I guess all the Judgey McJudgersons come out of the woodwork when there's a wedding but I guess I am still kind of surprised. I am pretty much radio silent on wedding plans unless someone asks, but now I feel like just not mentioning any plans or choices at all.

People should learn how to shut their mouths!

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

Don't let other people's opinion steal your thunder or ruin your wedding planning and take away all the excitement that comes with it. Opinions are like buttholes, everyone has one. I'm the same way with my wedding planning. I don't mention anything until I'm asked but I'm selective of who I share my ideas and thoughts with as I don't need any negative Nancy's around.

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

I agree that I am selective with who I share my ideas with.. And I am jealous you are doing a full mass if that makes you feel better! FH is not a church goer so part of the compromise of getting married in church was that it wouldn't be a full mass :( however I think he is warming up to it after PreCana.. The other reason I would love a full mass is to just torture the people who complain about it :)

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

Yes! Its so rude...I would never say something negative to a bride to be, or, like I've experienced, have people make general comments like 'I hate weddings that.....', as if they are warning me what not to do.
I notice that these comments are almost always by unmarried people, so I just tell myself that it's jealousy talking, since it certainly isn't wedding planning experience. I try to keep quiet too, but also find it's best to limit contact with these people. Hang in there! Focus on the people who are genuinely excited for you!

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

I could relate about the comments too but I've learned to ignore them.

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

One of my bosses told me that he hates weddings. And when I asked why he replied,'They are too loud and you sit with people you don't like!' I highly doubt he will attend as it is late for him and his wife as they are a much older couple, HOWEVER, should he decide to attend I will make sure I sit him next to the speakers at a table of our most obnoxious friends and family =D Happy planning everyone!

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

I get so many opinions & I hate it. I don't know why but it seems people are soo against long engagements. That is the #1 complaint I've gotten so far. I sarcastically tell them if they would like to pay for our wedding then we can get married much sooner

People should definitely learn how to shut their mouths! If I didn't ask then it means I don't care lol

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

EVERYONE has an opinion. If someone says something negative about our wedding/planning I just say, 'well when you get married you can do it differently.' Or I'll say 'If you give me a check I'll definetly take your opinion into consideration' LOL. Don't let it get you down!

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

Oh man, that's so terrible! The day is about you not them. They can keep their opinions to themselves, unless asked!

I limit the people I talk wedding details to in order to avoid peoples opinions!

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

As my grandma would say.. 'Jealous b!tches'

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Posted by JessicaP07

I get so many opinions & I hate it. I don't know why but it seems people are soo against long engagements. That is the #1 complaint I've gotten so far. I sarcastically tell them if they would like to pay for our wedding then we can get married much sooner

People should definitely learn how to shut their mouths! If I didn't ask then it means I don't care lol

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LOL! We've had a long engagement also. Not planned but it just happened that way (and it's a good thing it did!). People have given their two cents about some things regarding my budget and I should definitely give the sarcastic response you give!

And Lorelei, people like to be jerks sometimes. And some of them aren't even aware that they're being jerks. So jerk or not, you definitely gotta let those comments slide right off your back. What I hate is when someone sees my ring and asks if I'm getting married and immediately ask how old I am then say 'Ohhh you're too younggg! Are you sure you're ready??' OR they say 'Oh nooo.. Don't do it!' (then proceed to talk about their bad experience). In my head I'm like 'CMON NOW PEOPLE!! SHUUUT UP!!' but on the outside, I say 'Thanks for your concern.. but don't worry about me - I know what I'm doing.' Smh. People, man.

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

Well I'm glad we are all in the same boat. I particularly get annoyed by the people who make general blanket statements about marriage in general - someone told me that the secret to a happy marriage is staying single. really??

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

Yeah, people think that they can make their little comments ALL THE TIME!!!! My MIL showed her best friend our menu, and proceeded to tell me that I can't have this and I have to have that. Well, I told her that I was taking careful notes and will not have anything she just requested. I hope she got my hint. It stinks because I really don't share many details with people that aren't my close friends just to keep my sanity and not have to hear their uncalled for opinions. Hold your head up high, and remember that it's your wedding, not theirs. If they'd like to foot the bill, then maybe they can have an opinion

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You girls have some crazy friends lol tell them to stfu you don't give a fawkkkkk :)

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

What ever happened to 'if you have nothing nice to say, they say nothing' i'd like to say ignore them but in reality i would tell them off

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Posted by JessicaP07

I get so many opinions & I hate it. I don't know why but it seems people are soo against long engagements. That is the #1 complaint I've gotten so far. I sarcastically tell them if they would like to pay for our wedding then we can get married much sooner

People should definitely learn how to shut their mouths! If I didn't ask then it means I don't care lol

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We get the same thing on a constant basis. Like I wouldn't get married sooner if I could!! I tell people if they'd like to donate, we can get married earlier. Then I feel like I have to explain it to everyone! Like it's any of their damn business why!

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Posted by shellabella2

I agree that I am selective with who I share my ideas with.. And I am jealous you are doing a full mass if that makes you feel better! FH is not a church goer so part of the compromise of getting married in church was that it wouldn't be a full mass :( however I think he is warming up to it after PreCana.. The other reason I would love a full mass is to just torture the people who complain about it :)

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I've learned to just give selective information also! People like to give out unsolicited advice and think they are being helpful, but they are just hurtful sometimes. I know people are just trying to help, so I take it like that. I also hid my wedding interest board because some people were commenting on that. I'll let them be surprised at my wedding and then it will be too late for their opinions! :) Surprisingly tho, I haven't heard any slack about the church mass. I'm sure its happening behind my back, but my FI and I like it so thats what matters.

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Posted by seejessrun

Well I'm glad we are all in the same boat. I particularly get annoyed by the people who make general blanket statements about marriage in general - someone told me that the secret to a happy marriage is staying single. really??

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Haha I hear you about those comments on marriage in general.. Had a coworker tell me 'Marriage is the worst investment you could make. You are 50% likely to lose half of what you have'.

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I've had a few people lately make comments about the inconvenience of a Friday wedding, which really ****** for me to hear because I struggled to come to terms with a friday rather than Saturday. My solution to the third one that made a comment? So don't come if it's that much of a problem! I wasn't about to get married a different time of year than I wanted or at a venue I didn't love just to be on a Saturday. You will never please everybody unfortunately!

People and their unsolicited opinions about your wedding....

Since when is s.u.c.k.e.d curse? Lol