people just don't care...

so we invited 260 people and maybe half are coming...10 people are not coming b/c a cousin of FMIL is getting married on a cruise the week of our wedding....which we announced LAST spring. hurtful thing #1...you don't plan a wedding the week of someone's else's (that you are related to) of the same year.

so now we are hosting our own RD....FH just told me that 2 GM are not coming..hurtful thing #2..and we spent over $1k to be in their weddings last year...but they can't make a FREE meal???? are you effin kidding me?????? we went to their rehearsals, paid for one of their bachelor parties, flew to NC for one of them (took time off from work) and we didn't do the whole 'i'm in your wedding so i'm giving you less $$$ bit...theyracked up on us)

i just feel like no one but me and FH cares about the whole day.....FMIL actually asked me if i would invite FSIL's (who i dislike strongly) friends so that we might be closer to the minimum!!! we did invite one of each FBIL's friends...but they are friends of FH...her friends are not....she agreed...thank goodness...otherwise the little b*tch(fsil) would've asked for like 5 more of her friends to come...ugh...

this whole week has been one hurtful thing after another.....

I'm sorry that you're going through this, but you already answered your own question...per se.

No one will EVER care as much about YOUR wedding except for YOU. People are busy, they have other things they have to be there for, or money can be an issue.

What's most important is that the people that truly love and care for you are there to share on the actual day.

For me personally, I'd rather have 10:100 people that really care of us be there than 90:100 people that are there out of 'obligation' or 'b/c you went to theirs'.

i'm so sorry. it really ***** that your FMIL's cousin had no regard for your wedding. that is so frustrating to hear. like what?! the SAME week? argh.

why can't the GMs make it? they better have some GOOOOOOD *** excuses. like a heart transplant or something like that.

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

I'm sorry that you're going through this, but you already answered your own question...per se.

No one will EVER care as much about YOUR wedding except for YOU. People are busy, they have other things they have to be there for, or money can be an issue.

What's most important is that the people that truly love and care for you are there to share on the actual day.

For me personally, I'd rather have 10:100 people that really care of us be there than 90:100 people that are there out of 'obligation' or 'b/c you went to theirs'.

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So true.......focus on the people who love you both and want to be there to share your day

We had guests travel for 13 - 17 hours (by bus and by car) to be there and that meant the world to us

thanks ladies... the cruise wedding didn't bother as much until last night when someone (we really really really really like/adore) backed out as she is going on the cruise it turns out and can't be at our wedding! how do you RSVP to one wedding and then when you find out you are invited to the other, back out?

One thing that my FH always tells me is to not have high expectations of people. If you don't have any expectations you are less likely to be hurt. I am one of those people who always go out of their way for everyone and don't get it back...Don't feel bad, it happens to a lot of people. Keep your chin up, your day wil be wonderful no matter what!
XOXOXOXO
Kitty

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Posted by CLMon7906

thanks ladies... the cruise wedding didn't bother as much until last night when someone (we really really really really like/adore) backed out as she is going on the cruise it turns out and can't be at our wedding! how do you RSVP to one wedding and then when you find out you are invited to the other, back out?

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Apparently, that person does not like/adore you as much as a 'cruise wedding'.

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Posted by CLMon7906

thanks ladies... the cruise wedding didn't bother as much until last night when someone (we really really really really like/adore) backed out as she is going on the cruise it turns out and can't be at our wedding! how do you RSVP to one wedding and then when you find out you are invited to the other, back out?

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WOW!!! that's terrible.
sorry to hear about all of this!!!

alright, the official LIW attending list begins now:


sunday july 9,2006 swan club. ceremony begins at 11:30.

free food.

I am in!!!! But I have to go shopping. I have nothing to wear!

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Posted by CLMon7906

thanks ladies... the cruise wedding didn't bother as much until last night when someone (we really really really really like/adore) backed out as she is going on the cruise it turns out and can't be at our wedding! how do you RSVP to one wedding and then when you find out you are invited to the other, back out?

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That is awful but think about this - you have not given in your final count It would be MUCH worse if you had given your final count and then she backed out to attend the cruise wedding

this is true...but unless i have a LIW table or 2, we may be paying for it anyway.


i should've called this ''people s uck' instead..


you all did make me feel better though

Can I wear a white dress and a fake tiara? Since you are not allowed to wear white anyway and your FMIL is allowed to!!!

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Posted by kittythestray

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Posted by sr081906

Can I wear a white dress and a fake tiara? Since you are not allowed to wear white anyway and your FMIL is allowed to!!!

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certainly.

Alright. I will get the tiara for tomorrow. Maybe I can just get a $99 gown at david's bridal.

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Posted by sr081906

Alright. I will get the tiara for tomorrow. Maybe I can just get a $99 gown at david's bridal.

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oooh...maybe you can have it shipped to your house and it will be the right one.