people who appologize over a vendor rant... my rant

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Posted by Espo22

The problem i think is that some brides will bash a vendor and say nasty things about them but in the end the bride was wrong...NOT all but alot...its what i was saying in the 'please read your contracts' thread...you will have a bride who will sign papers, something will happen and they want to change their RH, or whatever reason they have and they just expect to get everything back, but uhmmm it states clearly in your contract that you wont, then they freak out even more when some find out that not only will they not receive the money they already put down but they owe money now.

Plus its one thing to say this person showed up late for my wedding or they forgot this, you always see this up on LIW and it doesn't get taken down...But to say the vendor was drunk is also personal slander and you don't want to get mixed up in the middle of that...its better off they told you to take it down...i mean what if this vendor read this and wanted to sue you, seriously it can happen.

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i was just going to post that - it is hearsay if it didnt directly happen to you - and you can get sued AND LIW can get sued for providing a forum for it. . .

i understand we all want to use this site as a resource for picking out our vendors - but - you have to just do your own research to supplement what you find here. . . you can never just trust one source.

and that girl apologized bc this is a public board, and while we all agree that we wouldnt get upset over a negative review - obviously, some girls got upset and freaked out over it. So that girl wanted to make sure she didnt upset anyone, which i thought was pretty awesome!

We are all in different stages of planning - and negative criticism CAN be helpful but i have to be honest here, if it was the week before my wedding and i read a long review bashing my hall - i would definitely be in tears over it. . .so we have to all be careful and maybe just say 'Hey i had a bad experience at this place if you want you can FM me'

OR if you see someone asking about that place you can talk to them in private about it - i had a bad experience with a hall but i know that hall is still amazing so i never posted about it - but when other girls have similar experiences i share with them in private. . .so they know they are not alone. .

I can see everyone's point on that fact that people do abuse the fact they had a negative experience and word things in a harsh or 'bashing' way. I wouldn't say 'NEVER USE' or these people are 'scum' i would just explain what the vendor did that was negative and inform people.

That is what I WANT and even if its my catering hall and its two days before my wedding I still want to read it. I can't stand people who sugar coat things all the time, i am adult I can handle criticisim. I mean if you had booked a vendor and it is two days from your wedding and your power less in the situation then you have to deal with it and roll with it and don' t let it ruin your day and if the vendor ruins your day then you come on here and inform everyone of your experience.

That said I now know that LIW can not have 'negative' reviews up here do to a threat of slander so now I understand why people have to FM each other. I feel bad that in this day people can not speak their minds with out the 'slander' word comming up. Honestly if you suck you just suck get over it and maybe change your pratices as a vendor. You can always rebut the negative mark as a vendor and inform the public that you tried to work with this person as best as possible but she/he was not satisfied with anything. (i realize their are people who are NEVER happy) that is what the Better Business Bureau does... and that is why i looked up EVERY vendor there to make sure of who and what business practices they have.

I agree, i wanna hear anything negative about a vendor...BUT my thing is that at times the bride is wrong...sometimes they'll say nasty things but not fully explain the situation. They make the vendor look bad when it was actually the brides fault.

And you are allowed to talk about a bad experience YOU had with a vendor...the whole thing with dominique was for one, it wasn't her who was there or personally dealt with that vendor, it was word of mouth. If the information she heard was wrong then she could actually get into trouble for spreading false rumors. Other than that, if you paid a vendor for a service and didn't receive what you paid for then you have every right to say whatever you want.

i totally agree---i wanna hear negative things about vendors--not if there little negative things that mean nothing

but if a vendor screws someone over- i feel i would like to know if that happened so i can watch out or take that into consideration. however, i understand people have different views towards vendors and just as we have off days vendors can have off days...


but i dont think their is anything wrong with mentioning a bad review or an opinion

I agree. Reviews are extremely helpful! I want to know peoples experiences. We all understand that some people have different experiences than others, but its also always a good idea to learn from others mistakes! I love reading all the negative, and even more, the positive experiences! Keep them comming!!!!

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Posted by failurebydsign

i got a message from LIW saying that i had one more chance or else i would be kicked off and i also got an email from the company saying that would never work with me

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Isn't that a violation of freedom of speech or something like that? :( That vendor should not be allowed on here anymore.

I just read that it can be personal slander and that you could get in trouble for it- so i guess it is better that they had you take it down. But they shouldnt threaten to kick you off- maybe just explain to you why you cant post that so you know not to do it again.