Personal/long :Need Hugs

Original post by marymoon

Sep 11, 2004 01:32 PM

Deleted b/c you never know who's lurking. Thanks for all of the support!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Sep 12, 2004 07:01 PM

Re: Personal/long :Need Hugs

Posted by marymoon

He still hasn't called. I wonder if he'll elt the weekdn go by (the onlytime we have together) without calling me or stopping by or talking about this. I can't believe he's letting me go through this alone. Then again, he dones't really see it as anything to go through, apparently..it's no big deal. Where is the FH who would always comfort me and be by my side? I don't think I'm brave enough to POAS without him. I'm not brave enough to go through all of this fear without him.

Thanks for the support.

Mary, he might be scared of the possibility of being a dad that he's either in denial or trying to sort out the whole possibility in his head.

I agree with the poster that said to go to a store in the next town and get an EPT Early Pregnancy Test.

I think you should also sit down w/ mom and explain that while you understand she loves you and all that, that the overprotective stuff has to stop. You are not 10 you're in your 20's and fully capable of doing things for youself. Do you need her to drive you to the doctor's? I mean if that's the case you don't want her to get on the defensive and not drive you but at the same time she needs to untie the apron string a little. Not cut, just untie a bit (baby steps...). I woudln't tell her about the pg thing yet, not until you know for sure.

If after this weekend FH is still unresponsive, go and talk to him and tell him to 1) either do his own laundry or bring it to the laundrymat to have done 2) please help w/ your room since you're physically unable to do it b/c of your nerve damage problem 3) just because you are home 24/7 does NOT mean you are his personal slave and that you do not mind doing favors but it's a TWO WAY street.

I really hope he comes to his senses!!!

marymoon Posted: Sep 12, 2004 11:20 PM

Re: Personal/long :Need Hugs

The biggets prolem si that yes, i do neeed her to take me to the doctor because I can't drive for the past couple of months because of nerve damage. So it's really rough. I know I should talk to her about the overprotective thing, but every time I try I get blasted b/c it's not about being overprotective. For her it's about saving me from eternal damnation, so there's no reasonig with that. I'm with you. I definitely want to be able to have an open relationship with my children. It feels o horrible to have to go through all of this (ot just this, but everything) without my mom,,,and trying to hide things, etc....Thanks.

SomedayBride Posted: Sep 12, 2004 11:38 PM

Re: Personal/long :Need Hugs

Dumb question, but have you ever been to the GYN? As long as you have and everything is normal, why not order bc pills from PillStore? It's a little expensive, but I've used them before when I didn't have insurance for a while. It's completely private, just have them sent to your FH's apartment.

marymoon Posted: Sep 12, 2004 11:40 PM

Re: Personal/long :Need Hugs

I don't think I'd have a problem getting them. It' just weird b/c my mom now goes ot all of my same docs too. But the thing is hiding the fact that I hate them from her. I'll kep that in mind though..thanks!