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My husband's family is really big on showers. Baby showers in particular. Old Italian family, etc. He's got tons of women (aunts and stuff) on his side. His grandmother is one of 13 children so of course there are lots of female cousins, etc. As my husband and I have been together for 10 years, I am very close with all these women, and they adore me and have always been amazing. They all live in New Jersey (info you'll need later!) On his mom's side is just his mom really and a close friend of hers that is like family.
My family on the other hand = very small. As far as showers go the only people on my side are my two sisters, my mom, nanny, and then a good handful of close friends that all live in Manhattan. At my bridal shower, I had it at my home in NJ. I felt it was central to everybody somewhat - my family at the time was living in Westchester, NY , and everybody else was pretty much in Jersey. It was a nice shower, though I felt weird having so much to do with it. I arranged the caterer, seating, schedule, guest list - things like that (my mom is sort of absent this way but that is another story). Anyway, I only had a very limited handful of Chris' family there because I felt the space was too small and I wanted it to be intimate.
Well the whole family is so excited about our baby - and all the women are saying, I hope Jen has a real shower - we have to welcome the baby in properly, etc. I hope she doesn't have another 'VIP'shower. (which I feel really badly that anybody thought that in the first place), but anyway. They are all being really cute about wanting to celebrate this little baby. The only thing is, I don’t want anybody to have to spend a ton of money. My mom recently moved to the Cape permanently, my sister into a new home last month, and my older sister is buying a new house next month. Everybody is strapped for cash, and I don't want to have this thing at a restaurant and put everybody out $-wise. Please keep in mind, my wedding shower was this time LAST year! Then my wedding…all that money and gifts, and so on. So my husband is saying to have it at the house again - it will be tight, but everybody knows where it is, it's local, etc. I just feel SO weird about it. Like here is my registry - buy all my baby's stuff. And then come to my house where there will be too many people….or come to my house because I don’t want to be bothered having to go to a restaurant, or whatever. Tons of feelings I have, yet I know I have to have a shower. And I want one! I guess a big part is that again, my mom isnt' exactly like - let me plan and take over kind of person, and I end up playing that role in our family. She's not exactly stable, so my sisters and I have kind of learned to do things without her help so she doesn't get all freaked out. I just feel so uncomfortable with all this. I feel so greedy…..
What do you think? Any opinions and sorry so long!
My husband's family is really big on showers. Baby showers in particular. Old Italian family, etc. He's got tons of women (aunts and stuff) on his side. His grandmother is one of 13 children so of course there are lots of female cousins, etc. As my husband and I have been together for 10 years, I am very close with all these women, and they adore me and have always been amazing. They all live in New Jersey (info you'll need later!) On his mom's side is just his mom really and a close friend of hers that is like family.
My family on the other hand = very small. As far as showers go the only people on my side are my two sisters, my mom, nanny, and then a good handful of close friends that all live in Manhattan. At my bridal shower, I had it at my home in NJ. I felt it was central to everybody somewhat - my family at the time was living in Westchester, NY , and everybody else was pretty much in Jersey. It was a nice shower, though I felt weird having so much to do with it. I arranged the caterer, seating, schedule, guest list - things like that (my mom is sort of absent this way but that is another story). Anyway, I only had a very limited handful of Chris' family there because I felt the space was too small and I wanted it to be intimate.
Well the whole family is so excited about our baby - and all the women are saying, I hope Jen has a real shower - we have to welcome the baby in properly, etc. I hope she doesn't have another 'VIP'shower. (which I feel really badly that anybody thought that in the first place), but anyway. They are all being really cute about wanting to celebrate this little baby. The only thing is, I don’t want anybody to have to spend a ton of money. My mom recently moved to the Cape permanently, my sister into a new home last month, and my older sister is buying a new house next month. Everybody is strapped for cash, and I don't want to have this thing at a restaurant and put everybody out $-wise. Please keep in mind, my wedding shower was this time LAST year! Then my wedding…all that money and gifts, and so on. So my husband is saying to have it at the house again - it will be tight, but everybody knows where it is, it's local, etc. I just feel SO weird about it. Like here is my registry - buy all my baby's stuff. And then come to my house where there will be too many people….or come to my house because I don’t want to be bothered having to go to a restaurant, or whatever. Tons of feelings I have, yet I know I have to have a shower. And I want one! I guess a big part is that again, my mom isnt' exactly like - let me plan and take over kind of person, and I end up playing that role in our family. She's not exactly stable, so my sisters and I have kind of learned to do things without her help so she doesn't get all freaked out. I just feel so uncomfortable with all this. I feel so greedy…..
What do you think? Any opinions and sorry so long!
