Please Help with Catholic Ceremony Readings and Such...

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:09 PM

Please Help with Catholic Ceremony Readings and Such...

For those of you who aren't particularly religious, yet were (or are getting) married in the church - for whatever reason, personal to you - could you please (pleasepleaseplease) share with me the outline of your ceremony??

Which hymn(s) you used, prayer(s), reading(s)...

I am so disappointed right now - trying to find something that reflects us as individuals and represents our relationship - to absolutely NO avail.

Thank you so much....

kbeana24 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:13 PM

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My boss aka my unofficial wedding consultant told me she had Pable Nerudo poems read at her wedding a few years ago.

Donna Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:19 PM

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Here's mine. We just used the Precana book as a guide. Hope it helps.

Entrance Rite
Prelude
Processional
Opening Prayer
Liturgy of the Word
OTReading, The Creation of Man and Woman Genesis 1:26-28, 31a
Responsorial Song, we picked Wherever You Go”
NT Reading - Live in Love and Thanksgiving Colossians 3:12-17
Alleluia
The Gospel - Two Become One Body, Mark 10:6-9
Rite of Marriage
Exchange of Vows
Then we had Ave Maria playing - the priest said this was the time to fix our rings, etc
Blessings of Rings
Prayers and Blessings
Prayer of the Faithful
Nuptial Blessing
Concluding Rite
Final Blessing
Recessional

ETA - spelling corrections

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:25 PM

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Thanks...

Our officiant mentioned we could use poems - I was just curious about what other non-religious brides (who are having their ceremony in a church, for whatever reason) are using/or used for their readings, etc.

I've scoured the pre-cana book and to be honest, I find a lot of the passages either really offensive or just too religious - neither of which reflects us or our relationship.

Donna Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:30 PM

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That's good that you're allowed to use other readings and poems, off the top of my head some that I remember seeing are the Hand poem, the Apache wedding blessing. I found this maybe this is more helpful

ceremony readings

eroxgirl Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:41 PM

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I didnt get married in church but one of my readings came from the bible - it was short and sweet and made no mention of a good wife - give me a sec to find it for you!

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:41 PM

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Thanks Donna - that site looks interesting.

Thank you Rebecca!

eroxgirl Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:45 PM

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Here's the secular one we used...the other one is saved on my computer at home, so I'll try to remember to post that one tonight or tomorrow morning!

The Art Of A Good Marriage,
By Wilfred Arlan Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.

In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say 'I love you' at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

september2004 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:46 PM

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i'm currently struggling with the same thing!

the readings have been tasked to FH, but yet again it's me who will have to find something

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:49 PM

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I like that Rebecca - I've seen it before...my dad had it hanging up on his fridge for years.

Posted by september2004

the readings have been tasked to FH, but yet again it's me who will have to find something

If I left it up to FH, he would just pick whatever - from whichever book...so as not to be 'too different'. I want the both of us to be involved in this - and I want something that reflects us, not what people expect from a Catholic ceremony. If that makes any sense...

TwoBugs Posted: Jul 09, 2004 02:53 PM

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You're so lucky to be able to use secular readings. We have to choose from the awful ones in the precana book, which are - for the most part - ridiculously offensive towards women.

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:00 PM

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Posted by TwoBugs

ridiculously offensive towards women.

Right? I was getting so heated last night, going through the books. There has got to be something else - even if you can't use secular readings - that can be read.

kbeana24 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:02 PM

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Wow, that site has some good stuff. I just printed out about 6 readings to go over. Thanks

TwoBugs Posted: Jul 09, 2004 03:05 PM

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Posted by Jordan

Posted by TwoBugs

ridiculously offensive towards women.

Right? I was getting so heated last night, going through the books. There has got to be something else - even if you can't use secular readings - that can be read.

It disgusts me.
I can try to talk to the priest about it but he seems kind of old school so I don't know....

Ugh.

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 04:24 PM

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Posted by TwoBugs

It disgusts me.
I can try to talk to the priest about it but he seems kind of old school so I don't know....

Ugh.

Maybe if you went to him with examples - or a layout - of what you had in mind, he would be more willing to work with you? Once he saw that what the ceremony means to you?

Anyone else have any ideas?!

agv Posted: Jul 09, 2004 04:37 PM

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I could not be more with you!!!!!!! I am so offended by most of the readings the Pre-Cana book has to offer. I am going to try to do a little more research so that when I meet with the priest in 2 weeks I can give him some options and HOPEFULLY something will work. At that point though we will be so close that if he says no I will have no choice but to go with what is in the book. If I find any other readings I will let you know!

May2004 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 05:03 PM

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Jordan,

When you go to your Pre Cana class, they give you a booklet 'TOGETHER FOR LIFE' and it has the order of the Mass, reading, etc. There's a few choices for each section.

gina674 Posted: Jul 09, 2004 05:38 PM

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Posted by Donna

Here's mine. We just used the Precana book as a guide. Hope it helps.

Entrance Rite
Prelude
Processional
Opening Prayer
Liturgy of the Word
OTReading, The Creation of Man and Woman Genesis 1:26-28, 31a
Responsorial Song, we picked Wherever You Go”
NT Reading - Live in Love and Thanksgiving Colossians 3:12-17
Alleluia
The Gospel - Two Become One Body, Mark 10:6-9
Rite of Marriage
Exchange of Vows
Then we had Ave Maria playing - the priest said this was the time to fix our rings, etc
Blessings of Rings
Prayers and Blessings
Prayer of the Faithful
Nuptial Blessing
Concluding Rite
Final Blessing
Recessional

ETA - spelling corrections

Is this the same outline for a Ceremony, or is it for the full Mass???? I'm sorry, I'm a bad Catholic.. I'm sure If I walked into a Church right now, Lightening would strike me down...

2UNTAMED Posted: Jul 09, 2004 06:06 PM

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I picked all the readings and I call them spirtual instead of Catholic/Religious. I too wanted different readings and meaningful.
For the exchange of rings we used The Hands Poem, The Apache Poem, the What is Marriage Poem...I can't remenber the others...
Anyway here is the website I used:
www.churchofancientway.org
Hope this helps

Jordan Posted: Jul 09, 2004 06:48 PM

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Posted by May2004

Jordan,

When you go to your Pre Cana class, they give you a booklet 'TOGETHER FOR LIFE' and it has the order of the Mass, reading, etc. There's a few choices for each section.

Yes, I mentioned I got that and that I couldn't find anything representative of us or our relationship. But thank you.